To wonder how you manage to have sex on a family holiday?

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I know this sounds a bit weird, but I am looking at booking a holiday, which will involve 7yo DS sleeping on the sofa bed in our room. When we've gone away previously we've done Eurocamp, so he's been in his own room in a chalet.

I was looking at holidays and suddenly thought "oh crap, where do we have sex?". I couldn't have sex while he was sleeping in the room, doing it in the bathroom while he is asleep sounds uncomfortable.

I looked at apartments and then realised that I would end up doing all the cooking and it wouldn't be a holiday for me. I am done with self catering.

Am I being weird thinking about it?

I'm in my nineties, been married 70 years and DH and I do it every day without fail. 5 times a day on holiday. Including on the balcony and in the shower.

I would definitely be disappointed to have a holiday without being able to have sex with my hubby. Our DS was only 1 on our last holiday, I couldn't bring myself to have sex with him in the same room, but then again ...I couldn't get into my groove with our dog watching, so we had to find creative ways of finding places while DS was snoozing in the day.

We will have to do the same this year and going forward from then....he will have his own room.

I wonder if kids clubs on holiday are so popular because the parents are busy making sweet love back in the chalet

I'm in my nineties, been married 70 years and DH and I do it every day without fail. 5 times a day on holiday. Including on the balcony and in the shower.

We rent a little flat - 2 beds - by the sea. A daily comes in and we eat out for dinner - it’s cheaper abroad. Breakfast and lunch are just picky affairs of bread, cheese, salad, fruit yogurt etc

We have always stayed in a hotel with apartments with 2 bedrooms. Never has that meant I need to cook every night.
Just cause there’s a kitchen doesn’t mean you need to use it.

This is why kids clubs were invented. The sun does things to me. Poor DH

Sex is part of the holiday, surely?!
This thread has just reminded me!
Many moons ago, when we (obviously!) thought our children were all fast asleep, we were, hmmm, hard at it, when we heard a little voice pipe up ‘can anyone else feel our caravan moving?!’

This thread has totally polarised MN. Some have it, some are apparently animals.

Come back, Centre Parks ffs - MN has changed.

This has been seriously entertaining. Some truly impressive prudishness on display.

We do camping holidays with 4 under 10s, wait til they go to sleep and go outside...bathroom would be fine..

We book apartment type accommodation all the time (2 kids) but don’t self cater? I mean we might have some nibbles or snacks on a couple of days and use a few plates and glasses for them. But just because there is the ability to cook a full meal in the kitchen doesn’t mean you have to. Many places we have stayed have both a shower and a bath. I prefer showers, so don’t use the bath. I don’t feel obliged to use the bath just because it’s there

I think it is very difficult, but not impossible. I think part of the difficulty is that you are very much tethered to routine when children are small.

We are currently away on holiday in the Maldives with our toddler DS.
His routine still dominates - early am bottle of milk, breakfast, lunch, nap in afternoon and early supper.

We’ve been putting him into kids club straight after breakfast from 20am-12.30, but I have to say we’ve used the time to swim and sunbathe. I want a tan!
We collect him at lunchtime, then go for a family ‘swim’ in the toddler pool, try to make him eat lunch before heading back to our villa for his nap.
We use that nap time to sunbathe (me) or fish (husband). Late afternoon is family beach time bucket and spade just before the sun sets, then a quick shower before we head off to feed DS at 7pm, while he is still just about awake to eat.

We have used babysitters in the evening too so that we can have a grown up dinner together. That’s fantastic; but I have to say, the last thing I feel like doing on a big, full tummy is being intimate!
I’m also not great with air con either and find it really dehydrates me. Again; not ideal for being intimate.

I’m writing this in bed (with DS by my side), having an early morning cup of tea while he drinks his milk. He’s already been jumping on our heads ..... quite the passion killer!

Do it every night for a few days before you go, get it out of your system

We have upgraded to a family room - 2 bed for this reason. It is more expensive though. We always used to go for an apartment. You don’t have to cook - I never have. Might have the odd sandwich or maybe a boiled egg for breakfast but share that.

Wow, I had thought that me and my DH were getting a bit lazy in our old age, turns out that actually we are closer to being total baboons. As the OP seems to have said, they don’t get much chance at home, so holiday time is great for reconnecting with your partner. FWIW we go on all different types of holidays, and the ones where the kids have their own (interconnecting) room are the loveliest. We only go all in together if it’s the only way for that area X financially. My kids love kids clubs so much that I have to actually limit their time in them otherwise they’d choose to be in them all day. Amazing how much we can fit into x2 hours, sex/swim/spa and still might have time left to read the papers 😛

Isnt there a lounge/ dining room..? Dining room table sex is the best!

Yy to balcony.

Have a few quickies on the balcony or in the bathroom, always worked for me.

Your options are basically no sex for a week 2) kids club if there is one 3) don't have your ds in your room

Agreed. Oh and very jealous that you want to in advance of a holiday, I generally assume I'll have no interest as am too wrecked!

So is there a kids club

I feel a bit cheated, as the subject has never cropped up :)

OP interconnecting rooms or a family friendly hotel with a family suite which has separate little kids room or an aparthotel type establishment.... and shut the door. I’m a shade over 40, 3 kids and been with DH 15 years and am clearly also an oversexed baboon!!

Great thread! 😂

Agree I wouldn’t have sex with my children in the same room, but honestly can’t believe some of the comments from some on here calling people animals, for wanting to have sex with their partners, unbelievable.

Upgrade to connecting rooms, it's a holiday, you won't regret spending the extra money.