To think that parents should've been informed before the film Love Actually was shown during a Yr7 music lesson?

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My DS 11 came home from school yesterday and said he'd watched Love Actually during one of his lessons.

He said it was ok, some of it was funny and there was lots of laughing during the sex scenes.

I haven't seen the film for a long time but I do remember several scenes where a couple are simulating sex for a porn movie (I think).

We have a very open relationship and have discussed sex and porn, so he knows about it but has only seen sex during sex education lessons. And I believe that's drawings? Although I could be wrong!

AIBU to think the school should've got parents permission, or at least informed them, before showing this movie? I would've given my permission but perhaps other parents wouldn't have been happy.

There are no porn scenes. It’s the completely unerotic, that’s the entire point of it.

It’s a rubbish film that’s the point

Whether or not any of us would let our individual child watch it at that age, there is no way a school should be showing a film rated 15, to 11 yr olds.
I'd have no problem with them showing an appropriate extract from a film from an older classification to illustrate a point in history or English or music or even Geography if it were linked to something they were studying, but I can't see what Love Actually has to do with any music they would be studying (?).
I don't think 'seeking permission' is the answer - the answer is not showing material that the film classification board consider inappropriate.

YANBU and yy to someone upthread who pointed out about children’s education being scuppered if you take them out of school for a few days holiday

No porn scenes? She's performing oral sex on the guy. What sort of teacher shows that to 11 yr old girls?

She isn’t, she’s simulating it. Big difference.

If we are showing films that have an age classification higher than the class then we have to get parental permission and that has been the case in any school I’ve worked at anything otherwise just means parental complaints. Even when doing film music (generally with year 8s/9s I kept the clips to U, PG, 12 or 12A - lots of amazing examples there.)

Out of Saving Private Ryan and Love Actually, I'd take showing either of them in their entirety to a bunch of 11/12 year olds rather than how an entire school reacted to the PG rated The Boy in the Striped Pyjamas.

They were beside themselves. Inconsolable. Some hysterical. Even the 18 year olds and half the staff who didn't ever imagine a PG movie could be so traumatic were in pieces.