To think that parents should've been informed before the film Love Actually was shown during a Yr7 music lesson?

[CharbaLabaDingDong]

My DS 11 came home from school yesterday and said he'd watched Love Actually during one of his lessons.

He said it was ok, some of it was funny and there was lots of laughing during the sex scenes.

I haven't seen the film for a long time but I do remember several scenes where a couple are simulating sex for a porn movie (I think).

We have a very open relationship and have discussed sex and porn, so he knows about it but has only seen sex during sex education lessons. And I believe that's drawings? Although I could be wrong!

AIBU to think the school should've got parents permission, or at least informed them, before showing this movie? I would've given my permission but perhaps other parents wouldn't have been happy.

I wouldn't be happy because it is a stinking turd of a film.

I think one of the crew on the film they’re making is the friend of Kris Marshall’s awful ‘Going to the US to find Women Who’ll Inexplicably Sleep With Me’ character. He brings back an ‘extra’ American girl for the friend at the end.

No, me neither.

I was going to say YABU but then I remembered the porn film bits and I'm totally with you. DD is in S1 (year 7) and is 11. I don't really want scenes like that being shown at a school.

The soundtrack is great and the movie whilst being terrible is a bit of a guilty pleasure because I do actually like it for some reason. But it's not for kids. Really.

Is the soundtrack amazing? I just remember it as a cheezfest (apart from the monumental God Only Knows).

i would be VERY unhappy! i would email hoy and ask very politely wwtf was going on

I can understand why they would use parts of the film in a music lesson as the score is used very well to build emotion into scenes (plus it's got a generally diverse soundtrack). I can't understand how educational the film is as a whole though.

I watched it with my daughter when we was 6; I'd forgotten about the sex scenes Made fir an interesting discussion!

When SHE was 6.

Love Actually has an "allowed from age 7" certificate where I live (Sweden)

DS says he saw sex scenes so I can only assume it was the uncut movie.

Music is the last lesson before lunch so they were allowed to carry on watching the movie during lunch if they wanted to. Needless to say he did not, so didn't see the whole thing.

Apparently they were asked last week which movie they wanted to watch and the majority chose Love Actually. A lot of them claimed they'd seen the movie before, so I can only think that's why the teacher didn't inform the parents.

There is no law against under 15s seeing a "15" Film anywhere other than a cinema:

www.bbfc.co.uk/what-classification/15

Whether it is a good idea is another thing.

Music is the last lesson before lunch so they were allowed to carry on watching the movie during lunch if they wanted to. Needless to say he did not, so didn't see the whole thing

“Needless to say” .

He has excellent taste then. You must be very proud.

Love Actually has to be one of the overrated movies in history. Pants it is.

I’d be querying why watching a film counts as a music lesson. Utterly bizarre.

Honestly, given all the things youngsters see these days, Love Actually would be among the least of my worries...

StarTheGirl

He's a football freak who's not interested in watching rom-coms!

But you're right, I'm incredibly proud of his decision!

When I taught I always stuck absolutely to the appropriate age certificate for the given audience. I wasn’t bothered about any deeper justifications, I just didn’t want the time-wasting aggro that might ensue if I didn’t. Given how many films there are in circulation, it wasn’t a difficult policy to adopt.

Get a grip lady some of us have real problems. 🙄. YABU it is a little odd they are showing a Christmas film at Easter but trust me when i say you ds will see way worse than that.

YANBU. I wouldn't let my 14-year-old watch Love, Actually.

YANBU. I wouldn't let my 14-year-old watch Love, Actually.

Erm why?

Whaaaaat? Wtf not?

YANBU. Because of the 'porn' scenes, I wouldn't want my Y7 kid watching it.

Sex scenes notwithstanding, what on earth possessed them to show that particular film?! It is absolute utter rubbish! One of the worst films I've ever seen, if not actually the very worst! (Pretty Woman comes in at a very close second place!).

Blimey, DS is 10 and hides when people are kissing on TV. Based on conversations with other parents, the knowledge of children in his class ranges from knowing what porn is, to not even knowing how babies are made. Discussion has come up as school have told us it will be covered next term. While he might be young for his age, I can't imagine him being ready to watch a movie like that in a year's time. And he's not alone in his peer group. Others would find it hilarious.

The porn scenes. At 14, DSD knows what sex is. Doesn't mean she should be seeing it, even simulated.

I think it's extremely odd of a teacher to show that film to that age group knowing about those scenes.

As someone said, they are not just under the age of consent, they will be predominantly prepubescent and it exhibits "a no big deal" attitude to porn and the entire film as famously destroyed by Lindy West has a male gaze toxic masculinity vibe.

Name one female character with lines who is not objectified, negative about other women or has full agency in that film.

It's the worst Curtis film by far.

If it's for music and they are doing soundtracks, the teacher could just play the relevant sequences like the wedding and Hugh Grant dancing on YouTube. Fail to see how Stacey as in Gavin, and Watson faking fellatio has ANY relevance to an 11yos music lesson and I'd have questions for the HOD as to why the teacher thought it did.