To think that parents should've been informed before the film Love Actually was shown during a Yr7 music lesson?

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My DS 11 came home from school yesterday and said he'd watched Love Actually during one of his lessons.

He said it was ok, some of it was funny and there was lots of laughing during the sex scenes.

I haven't seen the film for a long time but I do remember several scenes where a couple are simulating sex for a porn movie (I think).

We have a very open relationship and have discussed sex and porn, so he knows about it but has only seen sex during sex education lessons. And I believe that's drawings? Although I could be wrong!

AIBU to think the school should've got parents permission, or at least informed them, before showing this movie? I would've given my permission but perhaps other parents wouldn't have been happy.

I like the film, personally. I watched it with my 13yo at Christmas and thought she was old enough, but only just. I can't really imagine how a teacher could sit with 11 & 12 year old kids watching the fake porn scenes without questioning whether it was appropriate.

I also can't think of any valid educational reasons for showing it in a music lesson. Unless it was an excerpt that showcased particular elements of the sound track.

YABU, there’s barely any sex scenes which is virtually unheard of in a romcom nowadays. I think if it were certified today it would be a 12A.

Its a 15 as far as I can still...always was and still is.

Technically it is a 15, although I think it would be classified as a 12A these days.

I still think parents should've been informed that they were showing it.

I know one parent (who's child is the same age but at a different school) who would've had a coronary if her DS had seen it!

What M3lon said.

It is a shite film, I've not seen the whole thingas I got ar too bored.people say it's about 2.5hrs long but it's actually only 45 mins. 45 mins of such dross it feels lke 2.5hrs.

Why did they need to watch the whole film? Why couldn’t the teacher have just shown relevant clips? I’d let a sensible yr 7 aged kid watch the film but that would be my choice and my child, certainly wouldn’t expect it in a school.

Jux - how can a film be only 45 mins long?

I wouldn't have felt comfortable being an 11 year old girl watching a simulated BJ scene with a bunch of boys. They're going to spend the rest of the day hearing rude comments.

My guess would be the teacher forgot about the porny bit and was sitting there cringing their sphincter solid with the kids.

I had some female teenage students staying with us and I thought they'd enjoy the Netflix series Dark. I put it on and then Dh walked in and walked right out. I'd forgotten there was a sex scene right at the beginning and he didn't so he buggered off when he realised it was coming on. Thanks DH.

They don't seem to worry about certs at secondary school.

For my son - In year 6 they couldn't watch Mr Beans Holiday. In year 7 they watched the opening sequence to Finding Private Ryan 🤔

Well I'm well off the mark as dd hasn't seen it and she's 15.
I was thinking of her watching it at xmas with me.
I don't think I'd have liked mine seeing it in y7 and if it's a 15 they shouldn't have shown it.

Are you sure they watched the porn film scenes? There are some bedroom scenes with Laura Linney's character. Maybe it was those.

Good grief, that film really was utter shite. I rewatched it a couple of years ago when I was ill for a couple of weeks and running out of things to watch. It has not aged well.

They are not stand ins for a porn film. They are stand ins for a movie with sex scenes. I think it’s supposed to be based on something like Eyes Wide Shut. Having said that it is very rude!

I love the film, love Liam Neeson and Alan Rickman (the scene where Emma Thompson is expecting a gold necklace and gets a Joni Mitchell CD instead is heart breaking). The only two horrors are the simpering Keira Knghtley and the bloody annoying Martine McCutcheon.

My year 7 is still only 11 and would be quite embarrassed about the sex scenes.

Teacher shouldn't have let underage kids watch simulated sex scenes. That's a little creepy.

With a 2hr 25 minute running time, he couldn't have seen the full movie.

YANBU because it really is a load of toss. And yeah, I would NOT be happy with my 11 year old watching the stand in porn scenes. It's an older film now, and I think most people are starting to realise that porn and the making of porn isn't really an ok subject for kids to see light heartedly.

Certificates don’t apply when showing films for educational purposes so it’s not illegal or anything - however it is good practice not to show films of a higher age certificate unless where it’s to meet demands of a scheme of work eg a 15 rated Macbeth to a year 9 class perhaps and then the usual course of action would be to warn parents beforehand and give them the chance to withdraw students. Having been caught out before by surprisingly bad language I’d forgotten in a 15 which I was showing to y11 as part of a lesson I’d definitely never show it to year 7! And there seems no need for it at this time of year anyway. They should be working right up until the Easter break imo. Maybe a quiz or something in the very last lesson but nothing more.

YANBU - it's inappropriate for that age group.

And shit.

I think I have found my people...normally when Love Actually appears on a thread everyone is gushing about how lovely it is. What a pile of wank!

I could never understand the role of the porn actors. What was the point of them? Did they link in with any of the other actors at all?

They're not porn actors, they're body-doubles. Only on Mumsnet could people try and make the most saccharine-sweet and sickly film in history into something dirty!

The Smershpod film podcast do a good take down of the film. "A middle age w@nk fantasy", I think is he how he described it. Most of the relationships are older men lusting after younger women.