To ask what is the longest time you have stayed away without kids?

[Mangetoutrodney]

My kids are 7 & 11 and I have never left them!
DH has a big birthday coming up & we are going to Spain for 5 nts with my mum looking after the kids. I think we really do need a break and a rest but I am anxious/feeling guilty/ worried they will get ill etc

I want to relax & enjoy it but I am just worrying so much about leaving them!

Aibu to ask the longest time you have left your kids?

My DS goes away to his grandparents for about 5 weeks in the year since he started school. He is at most away 2 weeks concurrently. First time was a worry but it was just me who was bothered no one else lol. We went away for 4 nights without DS when he was 2 (nearly 3). I go away with work for sometimes a week and so it is just part of life for us. Normally he is with my DH his dad when I am away but loves staying with GPs.

Who was it that said that parenthood is an 18-year exercise in separation? Or something like that

They do grow up and leave eventually (unless you want your home taken over permanently by kidults) and for that to go well they need to learn over time that they can exist without you. And you need to learn to let go. It's hard but they need it. It's good parenting!

DS went on holiday Monday-Friday with his dad last year (we are divorced). That's the longest time I've been away from him.

I'd be OK being away from him up to a week but not any more than that until he's older (he's almost 6).

Love a bit of time away if I can manage it. I understand the OP, it can be a wrench, but they'll love it and you and DH can enjoy the freedom to. Longest I've done is four nights.

Has been too long, desperate to get away again though! amyberrybooks.wordpress.com/2019/04/03/champagne-breakfast/

Together, 5 nights when we ran off to get married! We were really missing him by the time we got back, and wished we'd come back earlier. And I've definitely been away for 5 or 6 nights for work, but DH is with him then. DH has gone away for 3-4 nights regularly for work, too.

2 weeks when DS was almost 2. I was definitely miserable those last few days! We have 2 nights away probably twice a year and I'm fine with that.

Our DDs are 16 and 14 and I've only spent five days (individual days) away from them in all that time.
I'm itching to have a weekend away with DH. But he thinks they are still too young...

Aargggghhh!

They are 3 and 1. We've left 3 year old 2 x 1 night (once when I was having DC2), never left the baby. Going abroad to a childfree wedding in May so leaving them for 2 nights.

They will be fine. I know that. But I'm getting a bit panicky about it and hope I'll be able to relax.

I'm itching to have a weekend away with DH. But he thinks they are still too young...

At 16 and 14?????????????

Does he have time away from them?

Blimey. I often leave DS with the GPs for a few nights/up to a week.

I'm separated from his dad though so I am used to being away from him sometimes.

Currently in the middle of a fortnight away where I'm looking after my DH after surgery abroad and DS is happy as Larry at home without me (not on his own, obv). I don't feel guilty or worried.

He is an absolute joy and a completely well balanced and resilient 15yo.

Our DDs are 16 and 14 and I've only spent five days (individual days) away from them in all that time.
I'm itching to have a weekend away with DH. But he thinks they are still too young

Did you leave the word ' months' out in your post?

10yo

2 nights staying at a hotel in same city

A few times overnight or 2 nights before they were 5, then the past two years we have had 2 weeks away where they have been with the GPs. They also started scouts last year and have two long weekends a year away at scout camp. We also had them signed up for 5 nights last summer on a church camp. Each time when they are away and we go to pick them up they are happy to see us but seem sadder to say goodbye to their friends/cousins/GPs. I think we have achieved a good balance of couple time and family time and also enabled them to spread their wings gradually. We do go away for family holidays together and are a close family unit. It also helps that they are close in age and adore each other. Kids are now 7 and 9.

Never either

How old are yours @Namechangedforbabyname ?