To be upset that I've gone into labour a week before my planned c section, and the hospital are telling me not to come in?

[Elmo311]

Just that really!
Having contractions since yesterday morning. Early stage labour still, but they are getting more painful each time.
I called L&D, explained my situation and why I'm having a c section this time (3 day labour with my son, failure to progress past 3cm, and 11months age difference between them both)
BUT they still told me to wait?! She said i don't sound in enough pain to come in?!
Thats 1) because I'm calling inbetween contractions and 2) probably because I'm not that far along yet.

I just do not understand why i have to go through this pain when a c section has been agreed?
Sorry i know I'm ranting a bit but i just don't understand their thinking and no matter what way i worded the question i still go told to wait :(

Any advice? AIBU to be frustrated?!

Thanks for reading

Jut wanted to add to the bf advice as I had a similar situation with my first. You're doing so well with all the skin to skin. Your milk will probably take a while to come in but keep persevering. Baby will be ok for a couple of days. Hand expressing when you can manage it will help.

Please keep asking to see a bf specialist before you leave hospital. We ended up going back in through A&E the day after leaving hospital as baby wasn't feeding and became unresponsive. They were shocked at how we'd been treated (mostly ignored) on postnatal ward for 3 days.

Staff on paediatric ward were amazingly helpful, sent a bf support nurse straight away and got me on a hospital grade pump. We did combo feed for a while then breastfeeding took over.

Most of all, do what's right for you and try to stay calm.

Definitely wouldn't judge if you'd smuggled in the wine! I am hoping to get c section agreed in next few weeks and the thought of labour before my date is a source of anxiety. I'm happy it all went ok, despite the feeding teething troubles. It's very reassuring!
My two will be 13 months apart ... i thought that was close!

Your milk won’t have disappeared, just remember that babies are far better at getting milk out of us than we are with even the best pump.

Even mothers who formula feed from the start have to deal with milk coming in, so it should be ok.

I remember only getting a tablespoon or so of colostrum out with the great big hospital pump they used to have, (and those were fantastic) and despairing that anything would happen, especially when it only took a couple of days with DC1.

The SCBU nurses used to share it very carefully between the two babies. I am sure most of it stuck to the bottle

Congratulations aIf you don’t feel like you’re getting good breastfeeding advice give the helpline a call
www.nationalbreastfeedinghelpline.org.uk

Congratulations!!

Congratulations!

Hope baby Laura (cool name and I'm not just saying that as it's my middle name) and Mum are doing well.

Sorry to hear you didn't have the best BFing help. I find you either get someone amazing or someone you question why they chose their job.

Hope you both get some good rest.

PS. I mixed fed from one week until DD1 started solids, then continued BFing until she stopped at 14 months so don't give up hope.

Also the milk sometimes doesn't come in properly until day 3-4 so just keep putting her on the breast to stimulate the process.

Let her suckle even though you think you aren't producing anything. You are, but it is tiny amounts matched to her tiny stomach at the moment.
Remember her stomach is only as big as her closed fist.
You will get there! The best of luck to you.

We are home and it is lovely! Our son looks like a GIANT compared to her! Haha before i had her i thought he was little but he looks so grown up...as grown up as a 10mo can be anyway 😂.

The midwives tried to help (mainly students- they are at the caring stage so it is good, they spent a lot of time we me) We have the latch down but Laura gets frustrated quickly that she isn't getting food. I literally was getting so much colostrum and then bam it's gone! No one said it was normal....

Still putting her to breast as well as FF. My breasts feel a little heavier so I'm hoping that my milk is coming.

This BF stuff isn't easy!

Oh @Elmo311 .

What a beautiful few magical years you have ahead .

I yearn for when my DD & DS were that young. ( small age gap too ).

If I could turn back time the only thing I would change is worrying that I would make them "clingy" "made a rod for my own back"... I worried that co - sleeping would cause issues .

The only thing that happened from my holding my children as much as possible is that they have really secure attachments, and are happy with such beautiful hearts.

Enjoy loving your babies ... they are only ever on loan to us & in the blink of an eye they are teenagers preparing to fly the nest x

@IfOnlyOurEyesSawSouls what a beautiful post and I agree with every word. Speaking as someone with two long grown-and-flown daughters.
Wishing you and your little family well Elmo. BF gets easier, becomes second nature very soon. Very early days.

Lovely gorgeous Laura!

Awww massive congratulations. So glad it went well. She is beautiful and what a lovely name too. I just want to sniff her head. There is nothing more intoxicating!

Congratulations. I just wanted to say keep putting baby to the breast even if you feel they’re not getting much as that is what will stimulate your supply. I had trouble breastfeeding both mine before my milk came in on day 3 (both emcs) and had to give some formula but once my milk was in they took to it really well. Currently exclusively breastfeeding my 20 week old who came home on formula but has been eb from 4 days old. Hang on in there!

It does take a little longer post section but keep plugging away-now you’re home it will be easier

our son even gave her a smile and a wave!

Awwww. Sooo cute!

Lovely to be back home 😊