Social housing stigma?

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I came across a thread here on MN and was struck at vile abuse thrown at the Op regarding her post on her situation in social housing. Assumptions were made (untrue), of lasiness, irresponsibily spewing sprogs around, using the system, being benefit scrounges etc. It made me wonder - why people make these assumptions?
I grew up in a family with a very strong work ethic, only relying on yourself, always striving to have a better life etc. I was ambitious, driven, hard working, had a high flying career in the past, yet the circumstances are that I live in social housing. I always invisaged myself being successful, having own house, financially secure. But an illness from which I nearly died, although I made a complete recovery, few financial setbacks when I lost all savings shook my confidence. Then I met and fell in love with my now husband (who incidentally believed that ownership was bourgeois and against his principles), by the time I recovered from my illness I was just about to pass my childbearing years. So we had children (2) without having time to save up for a house, but according to some posters on the other thread, poor people have no right to have children! And all hope of buying a place flew out of the window again when my husband got diagnosed with cancer (he’s recovered now) and now we are both past the age when we could get a mortgage. We are overcrowded, quite severely but it is a separate issue. So any time I talk about it I feel judged. We don’t abuse the system; both me and my husband work hard; we pay rent - cheaper than private, but nonetheless, and not that cheap; we pay taxes; we don’t claim benefits. So why there is such a shame around the issue of social housing - why everyone thinks I have a lesser right to life than those who own their houses? Why such a patronising attitude?

Please excuse all the auto correct that I missed. It's the middle of the night.

Thanks OP

If you haven't already seen it on channel 5 demand there is a Michael Portillo doc about social housing, made last year, really interesting.
Channel four also have a Dispatches from a couple of weeks ago, covers Sanctuary HA, a real eye opener.

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You chose having children over providing for yourself. I can understand that. I think most people would make the same decision. But you have to take responsibility. Obviously sometimes like illness weren’t your fault (although you could have mitigated by properly insuring yourselves but obviously insurance companies sometimes do pay out). But no one forced you to have children you couldn’t provide for. That was very much your doing. Perhaps if there were fewer people throwing up their hands and listing off a couple of unfortunate circumstances (here’s a news flash, most of us have problems) then people would be more understanding.

You heard of NI National Insurance Greg?

I’m in social housing we had to pass a rent ready check , checking working hours and money earned . A lot of people do work. We don’t get it for nothing.