To roll my eyes after joining an app specifically to meet other mums?

[daphine2004]

I’ll probably get flamed as I feel a bit of a bitch, but I can’t believe some people.

As this is my second pregnancy I downloaded an app to meet other new mums rather than go back to the NCT, but I couldn’t believe some of the posts, comments responding to posts and general profiles of some people. Examples are:

1. In relation to a six month old baby “baby’s first McFlurry”
2. In relation to a four month old baby “when did you start giving your baby juice?”, responses: “two months as they wouldn’t drink water”
3. In relation to a four month old baby “I know people are funny about weaning before six months, but when did you start weaning?”

I could go on, but I’ll stop. A lot of the posts were from young first mums (I felt old but I’m only 33!) and I just kept rolling my eyes in disbelief.

Has anyone come across an app to meet other parents who may be more Mumsnet than NetMums?

My local NCT does something they call ‘next baby teas’, basically 2nd, 3rd or more time parents go to someone’s house for a few hours for a cup of tea and some cake. You didn’t have to be an NCT member to attend I don’t think. I found them great, the group near me took it in turns to host (but no pressure, only if you wanted to) and there was a meet-up approx. each week and the days and times did vary a bit. If you didn’t make it one week there was always another one soon and enough people came regularly that you could feel like you were able to build a bit of a relationship with people. So might be worth asking your local NCT group if there is anything like this going on (although there is always the danger they might ask you to become the co-ordinator if it isn’t up and running ). Also, if you’re on any local FB groups I’ve seen people post and say they are due to go on maternity leave and would like to meet others in the same situation and they have then arranged a meet up in a coffee shop after that.

I defo recommend the pregnancy boards here. We made a FB group and have met up. Obviously there will be bad apples but amongst that there will be nice normal people

@hammeringinmyhead Sounds like that Mum was struggling with PND and could have done with some support.

If this is MUSH then yes OP... It is the 'nethuns' equivalent of Tinder and I've found the general IQ to be somewhat lacking 😨

It's a dark place.

Number 3 gives me the hump straightaway

I imagine it attracts some quite vulnerable young women who don't have the same role models we do

This not everyone is blessed with the education and Information we have acess too . So their parenting is the result of that . I don’t know what the answer is . But I wouldn’t necessarily think they are bad people just not people on your Wave Lemgth

To be fair. UK guidelines have never said 4 months is terrible. Ten years ago they said "Roughly 6 months but no earlier than 4" and they say the same now. Weaning at 4 months is within guidelines. Only just within them but there you go.

Interestingly advice has changed from 6 to 4-6 months in the last 2 years in the US and Germany (possibly other places but I only know those two).

And crabby I didn’t read anything bad in your post whatsoever

@peachgreen Yes, quite. She wouldn't engage with any questions about whether she had sought help.