“Proof or it didn’t happen!”

[Scoresonthedoors]

MIL did someone really horrible (lied to someone about me and DD so she would receive something we were going to be given).

It’s the last straw and I have blocked her number because I refuse to let her get away with this without consequences.

FIL rang, I answered (I didn’t recognise his number, he’s never rung me before) and asked why I was being horrible to MIL! I told him what she had done and he said “Proof, or it didn’t happen!”

I’m not going to “prove” anything. It would mean involving the person to whom MIL lied and putting her on the spot.

He doesn’t have to believe me but to try and demand proof or DD and I are liars is twatty, right?

*something not someone...

Telk them both to sod off

Tell him to prove that she didn't, otherwise she clearly did.

What a pair they sound

My manager said pretty much the same thing to me about an incident she was emailed about.

I put in an official complaint.

YANBU

What is he? 10?

Februaryblooms I thought of that but it’s innocent until proved guilty, right?! But that should go for DD and me too!

Tell them both to fuck off. They sound like a nightmare. Don't get dragged into their nonsense.

Can you prove it? If you can I'd get the proof and shame her once and for all. Is to DH backing you up?

MT2017

What happened? Please tell the story.

You don’t have to prove anything. It’s all very cryptic though! What was it?

GreatDuckCookery I tried not to be too cryptic!

Basically MIL told a friend of the family who was going to give us an item for the garden that we had changed our minds and would never use it. MIL now has it.

Ok it sounds as if it’s the last straw. Sod giving proof. That’s hooking you into the drama. She’s decided she wants the item and to Hell with you. She hasn’t apologised and sent her husband in to back her up. Well you’re not interested and of the price is you going nc, that’s fine. By taking this approach he is also sending you the same message.

The thing is you don't need a reason to not speak to her. Therefore you don't need proof.

RhymingRabbit

You’re right!

Text back:

'No proof, no need, no relationship as of NOW. Fuck right off, the both of you.

Well if it's a fun piece of garden equipment if dd doesn't visit it's wasted isn't it??

Well the proof is sitting in his garden.

I hate this phrase.

It's in his garden!

Another one who's interested in your DH's take on it.

But ultimately it's up to you who's numbers are on your list of contacts and how often you choose to contact them. I think good for you for standing up for yourself.

Yes the proof is most definitely in his garden.
Not sure I would fall out over this unleaded there is a back story?

Unless!

Basically MIL told a friend of the family who was going to give us an item for the garden that we had changed our minds and would never use it. MIL now has it

And the friend told you? Sneaky of MIL but I’m confused to why she thought you wouldn’t find out.

DH works away. He’s annoyed obviously. And embarrassed about his parents. He said he’d say something but I told him not to, he’s in a stressful job and not in the country.

It’s not a toy, it’s an ecology hobby type thing. Something we were going to do together now the warmer weather is here. We will still do it, I’ll buy the equipment.

Sneaky of MIL but I’m confused to why she thought you wouldn’t find out. Possibly because like many brass necked people she a) didn''t think anyone would make a fuss and b) nobody would call her on it if they found out

I used to have a SIL like that... after a little while the smallest things drain your will to live!

Basically MIL told a friend of the family who was going to give us an item for the garden that we had changed our minds and would never use it. MIL now has it.

Did the friend tell you MIL said you changed your minds? Is it possible that friend may have just decided MIL could have it instead?