AIBU? Mother’s Day

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I do not get along with my MIL to be. She’s rude to me and about my daughter particularly. My partner has booked her a meal tomorrow night at a place of her choice for mother’s day/ her birthday but hasn’t booked me into where he’s planning to take me on Mother’s Day. Granted, we can usually just walk in but I’ve told him he should boom because it’ll be busy. He rolls his eyes and asks what time I want to go. I’ve told him to arrange it because it’s supposed to be something he organises and his response is that I’m just “fucking awqard” I feel like a liability 😒 am I being sensitive?

Can’t spell tonight!! book awkward

Not sure what all the info about your MIL is for? If you think the place you're going to might be full then YANBU. Otherwise its just drama for nothing. I do hate it though when I want dh to organise something and he turns it into an ordeal.

Whether he is taking his mother out on Saturday night is completely irrelevant to whether your walk in place is going to be so suddenly heaving it will require booking. Not unreasonable of him to ask what time you would like to eat.

Yes, I think, you might be a teeny bit awkward.

I think that because she’s so horrid that it makes me cross that she’s been thought about but I haven’t. My OH knows she’s not kind to me or our daughter- she prefers our son over our daughter. It seems to make it ten times worse for me.

Will you be able to get a table without booking?

He has thought about you. He’s not worried about getting a table, that’s all.

Thanks ladies, I’m going to stop being a grump now x

YANBU, where I live you can't walk into anywhere and get a table on Mother's Day, it seems everywhere is booked up. He should have booked a table.

In my experience it’s a nightmare trying to eat anywhere without a booking on mother’s day/father’s day so I think YANBU on that point. However I’m not sure what your MIL has to do with it. Does it need to be him that books your table? If you’re that concerned about it being busy just book it yourself?

My OH knows she’s not kind to me or our daughter- she prefers our son over our daughter. It seems to make it ten times worse for me.

Just curious, how do you see that playing out over the next ten years?

Sounds destructive. To your daughter's self esteem at least.

I don’t know. I don’t see her- I don’t go to see her at her house, I make myself busy but tomorrow I’m going for my OH. I don’t know how things will pan out. Thankfully for my daughter, it’s so obvious that’s she’s unkind that she will see that it’s not her. Otherwise it feels out of my hands.