WWYD in this situation?

[ComeTheFuck0nBridget]

So, a couple go to bed at the same time most nights, together, and usually watch 30-60 mins of TV in bed before turning it off and going to sleep.

In general, person A likes this set up, but person B doesn't particularly.

Tonight, person B said they feel tired, and wanted to not watch TV. Person A wants to watch it as usual.

Who is BU in this scenario?

Why go upstairs to watch telly when he could continue to watch downstairs?

Could he use headphones?

Person a is definitely u

I would sleep in different beds when you need to catch up on sleep

he can ifound he just has to try-theyre not children they need to grow up and realise theres other peo0ple to consider

At the minute there is no where else for me to sleep as we are in the middle of moving and renovating two properties. It's a priority for the new house though - a second bed in another room.

Grrrr! Do you have a spare bedroom? If so the TV can go in there and he can sleep there if he wants to watch TV? Also avoids waking you up too early next morning as he'd have all his stuff there to get ready.

Your health (through quality sleeping) is more important than TV.

If no spare room get him a good recliner chair downstairs and he can watch TV from there. Remove the TV from the main bedroom anyway though...

Why did he wake you up early?

Why is he waking you before you need to get up?

So he's in charge of when you go to sleep and when you wake up?

Fuck that for pennies.

I’d write him a note now detailing this and how you are not to be woken in the morning. Why does he wake you?

Not to derail the thread, but what IS it with men and not being able to fall asleep without the TV on?

Every single one of my boyfriends has said this to me and it boggles my brain – and yet I don't know a single woman for whom this is the case... and I've asked!

A and B should invest in headphones for the TV.

My DH is similar OP. Has restless legs, so when he's awake, so am I . He has no concern about waking me for hours and mumbling/kicking the bed as he says "I can't help it". I realise he can't help the restless legs but he can completely avoid waking me..... he just chooses not to. We don't have a spare bed and the sofas are akin to torture. It doesn't matter how many times we talk about it, nothing changes.

Buy him some headphones?

Why does he come upstairs so early if he isn’t ready for bed?

Perhaps the television might get broken the next time you’re cleaning in the bedroom?

Why does he wake you up in the morning?? I even get annoyed when my kids do that and they can't tell the time, adults should know better!

Hold on, why did he wake you today and why will he ‘likely’ wake you tomorrow? That’s not on.

If you feel that bad about it why don’t you move to the spare room, sleep on the sofa etc. Then make a big guilt trip drama about it whilst you do it

I'd tell him he has to sleep on the sofa some nights so you can get a decent sleep in the bed. atm as a PP said, he's choosing when and how you get to sleep, and when you wake up. He's not your parent!
Sleep is important. Put your foot down.

Person A can watch TV downstairs and then go up to bed.

We have this but with books! DP likes to read to relax to sleep, which I get – I do too. But I want to sleep at, say, 10.30, and he wants to keep the light on and thrash around sniffing and snorting and wiggling his feet til midnight.

Sleep trumps everything else so he reads in the sitting room; person A should be watching TV elsewhere too. It's perfectly possible to relax yourself to almost-sleep with the TV then come to bed; when I have insomnia I go elsewhere and read MN on my phone until I'm tired, back to bed, sleep. He is being U.

Could your DH try podcasts and headphones? That's DP's last thrash about of the night, setting up his headphones and phone. (Claims he cant fall asleep without it; falls asleep within 30 seconds )

I'd insist on no TV in my bedroom in the new house. Either that or separate bedrooms. YANBU.

I hate TVs in bedrooms and could never have a decent sleep after watching it in bed. I'd be so grumpy! Your DH sounds selfish.

Try something like:

“FUCKING WAKE ME AGAIN AND I’LL THROW YOU OUT THE FUCKING WINDOW! FUCK OFF!”

Seriously though OP, there’s a reason they use sleep deprivation as a form of torture. It breaks people and it’s not at all on that your husband is doing this to you.

Why does he follow you up like a puppy dog when you go to bed? Can’t he stay downstairs and watch tv on his own like a normal person?

And what’s with waking you up before you need to get up? Is it deliberate?

You may not have met one ladybee28, but I am one (a woman who needs tv to go to sleep that is), and DH hates it.

Just don't have a TV in the bedroom.
The flickering of the TV would keep me awake, even if the other person had headphones on.

And tell him to F off if he wakes you up early again - it must be like having a small child....

See and people take the piss because I have my own bedroom. Bizarre.

When he wakes you in the early AMs, tell him to fuck off and it'll be a come to Jesus meeting later on.

Then tell him you'll be staying downstairs with a quilt at 9pm because he's a selfish twat who won't compromise.