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children that are firghtened of dogs and how i find some parents are encouraging their fear

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haychee · 11/07/2007 10:46

I have 2 medium to large dogs and i get so cross when i come accross children that just lose the plot if the dogs go near them. I can understand that they are frightened and i call the dogs away from the child instantly. But what makes me cross is the parents responses, "that dog should be on a lead" or i just get looks that could kill you dead. My arguement is, that if the child is that frightened then why would you take him or her to a place where dogs are everywhere in a dog walking area. Why do parents encourage their childrens fear by making these comments? what good does it do for the child? I actually saw one mother once who picked her child up every time the dog was anywhere close (like 4-5meters away). The child got increasingly anxious and the mother ended up having a go at me. I know and fully appreciate that some dogs are dangerous but mine arent and i think that when parents react like this infront of their children the message they are displaying is that its ok to be this frightened of dogs.

My daughter was once frightened of thunder so i purposely sat up with her watching a storm and saying things like "wow, that one was very loud" and " cor, look at that lightening isnt it beautiful". Because of this time i spent with her and the way we watched it together has dulled her fear - infact she gets quite excited if there is a storm brewing now.
Any one else feel the same or can understand where im coming from? or maybe your one of these types of parents that react like this? I would like to discuss the issue if anyone has any comments?

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MamaMaiasaura · 11/07/2007 21:29

pmsl littlelupin. Id better go check out how many i have done

MamaMaiasaura · 11/07/2007 21:31

why the fuck post in 'am i being unreasonable' if you dont want people to disagree with you??

For the record, I dont wholey trust your posts or your profile tbh.

motherinferior · 11/07/2007 21:31

Can I just point out that look, some people dislike/are scared of particular animals and, er, that's it? I have two cats. I am partial to cats. One of my cats is widely considered the sort of fluffywuffypussywussums that many other people are frightfully partial to (he's actually not very nice to our other cat, but boy is he furry and dopey with humans).

Strange to say, a number of quite splendid people (to name no names, and particularly not to name Blu's) are not hogwhimpering wild about felines. One friend is quite irrationally terrified of them. So is one of DD1's friends.

So I make sure that the cats are as evicted as cats can be from the Inferiority Complex when the cat-haters show up. Obviously they are utterly misguided, but I shall leave them in the error of their ways.

haychee · 11/07/2007 21:31

so ive sat here lying all day - if that pleases you then yes i have!

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winestein · 11/07/2007 21:33

Peanutbear, if that q was directed to me I have a Staffordshire Bull Terrier and a beautiful, people-loving, whelk-slap licking fatty-fat-fat bear-looking boy he is.

Not many people appreciate him quite the same way I do though. Luckily I can appreciate that!

MamaMaiasaura · 11/07/2007 21:34

that might be your first truthful post then. At last we are getting somewhere?

23 posts LIttlelupin for me tis sad. DP best hurry home from Japan to distract me

trollbaiter · 11/07/2007 21:35
winestein · 11/07/2007 21:35

"Obviously they are utterly misguided, but I shall leave them in the error of their ways".

PMSL

Why couldn't I have just said that?

haychee · 11/07/2007 21:35

I didnt say i didnt want anyone to disagree with me but my posts have been misconstrued and taken totally out of proportion. As someone said "bitchy" behaviours of some of you are just unforgivable.

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Speccy · 11/07/2007 21:36

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haychee · 11/07/2007 21:37

The scenario that was in respect of the op was that dogs were just passing the family not paying any attention to them sniffing around in the bushes etc. Every time the dog got near the mother would pick up the child. At first the child was only a little worried but became increasingly distressed because of the way the mother was making such a fuss - i mean the dogs never got within 5metres of the child i wouldnt of allowed them to get so close to a worried child.

Why would i lie about this, its just this that compelled me to write here.

And, if the child or its parents have this obvious distaste and fear of dogs what are they doing visiting a place where there are lots of dogs off leads?! Astonishing!

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NKF · 11/07/2007 21:38

Anyway, maybe some parents think it's a good thing to encourage wariness in a child where dogs are concerned. After all, who really knows what the dog is like or capable of? It's not compulsory to be licked by them you know.

peanutbear · 11/07/2007 21:39

No I like them,
I used to have a rotwieller when I was a child thats all and they are hated too!! but I loved him

Have labrador now as DH loves field sports and hopefully will have more by the end of the year as I want to breed her nest season

haychee · 11/07/2007 21:39

wariness, yes. I do exactly that with my own kids. To accept licking etc as normal - no, i do not like licky dogs ugh its gross

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haychee · 11/07/2007 21:41

But i find there are alot of parents who over-react and this just encourages the children to be even more frightened.

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motherinferior · 11/07/2007 21:41

Maybe they wanted to GO OUT TO THE PARK?????

Without realising it was going to be full of huge slavering animals with giant bloody teeth against whom there is no defence???

That's what bloody terrifies me about bloody dogs. I'm horribly aware they could rip me to bits, let alone the Inferiorettes, if they felt like it.

winestein · 11/07/2007 21:41

Haychee, as I have said I am an animal lover (although NOT cows, it has to be said...)

I don;t think anyone has been bitchy at all, unless you have some kind of persecution complex. People have just said that they don't like dogs and that what you have said they don't agree with. It's not bitchy to do so!

What did you actually want to achieve with this thread? Seriously.

NKF · 11/07/2007 21:41

Well, as you are a dog lover, your idea of over reaction might be a non dog lover's idea of a sensible response.

peanutbear · 11/07/2007 21:42

no your right MI I am not particularly a cat person I am allergic to them and wish they didnt come into my garden unfortunatly my daft dog and my children think different dog is often seen curled up asleep in the sun with them and the children enourag them by stroking them

ah well each to there own

LittleBellatrixLeBoot · 11/07/2007 21:42

OK I left the thread earlier on today and can't be arsed to catch up but have just seen Haychee's last post: "At first the child was only a little worried but became increasingly distressed because of the way the mother was making such a fuss"

If you could see that the child / mother were becoming increasingly distressed, why didn't you just call your bloody dogs to heel and walk off?

What is wrong with you? You appear to have this attitude of "I have the right to be here, they are silly for being frightened, they should go away if they don't like it, therefore I will continue to permit my dogs to cause these people distress."

Why? Nobody rational does this. Technically, of course you're within your rights to stay and allow your dogs to distress a child and her silly mother. But why would you want to Haychee? What do you get out of it?

RubySlippers · 11/07/2007 21:43

seriously - this has been going on and on and on for nearly 12 hours
Haychee - you don't want a discussion, you want everyone to agree with you
this is exactly what happened on the Shrek thread and it is sooooooooooooo frustrating

so i think the only reasonable response is

PAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARP

haychee · 11/07/2007 21:43

i have bred my dogs peanutbear have you done it before? Its very hard work and very stressful! Its not so hard at first but after a week or two after birth its a bloody nightmare! The birth was an all night event too.
Having said that i would do it again.

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NKF · 11/07/2007 21:43

What does parp mean? Is it that sort of trombone noise? Explain.

LittleBellatrixLeBoot · 11/07/2007 21:44

LOL RS

But then you're denied the fascination of seeing yet another mad repetitive assertion by haychee and being unable to stop yourself responding

MrsFish · 11/07/2007 21:44

lmao @ PARP! such an underused word imo

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