To ask how to get over something like this?

[JasmineSH]

About 3 years ago me and my partner were away on holiday in Italy.
One evening we were out for food one of those guys who sells roses approached us. He wanted to give me a rose and I said no but he sort of pushed into my hands and there I was standing with a rose. He than looked at my boyfriend asking him for one Euro and my my boyfriend said no. He kept on going that it's just one Euro but my boyfriend was having none of it. The guy after this snatched the rose out of my hand and walked away. I felt humiliated, there on a fairly busy square I had to really try not to burst into tears. My chest felt very heavy and I felt worthless. I didn't want the rose I really really didn't, found the whole walking with a rose in Italy scenario cringy but I really just wish my boyfriend gave him the 1 Euro... I mean st the end of the day it doesn't matter does it but I still feel so upset about how that situation made me feel. I know I might be overreacting but there have been a couple of scenarios when my boyfriend made me feel little, worthless and sometimes it feels like he is ashamed of me. My self esteem is low and I really just want to forget these situations but I can't. How to get over these pity things?

Maybe you have a tendency to ruminate - distract yourself. If it interferes with your quality of life and/or impacts others, then seek some counselling. Nothing to be ashamed of.

This was an extremely minor episode that happened three years ago. To still even remember it, let alone keep ruminating on it, is unhealthy. If, as it seems from your OP, other things have happened in the meantime that have made you readdress your relationship, deal with those, but let this one go.

FWIW, there's organised crime behind street rose sellers in Italy, so yes, it was a pretty good idea not to give in and give the guy money.

I would have been so annoyed had my dp paid for one, if it was me in that situation. Can’t understand why you are seeing it as a negative?

'Seeked help'?????

HarrysOwl is right, either your dp's behaviour makes you feel like shit or it's your own issues that make you feel that way. Without more information it's impossible to say. In the scenario described he didn't do anything wrong, it seems completely ott that you would have been so crushed and hurt by that. Do you have a better example of something he has done to upset you?

I think it might help if you were to share examples of the other occasions on which you felt worthless and that he was ashamed of you.

It may be that your emotions about this event is coloured by other experiences where he genuinely behaved unreasonably.