Or is he being taken advantage of?

[ICanBThe1]

Would you think this situation as unreasonable? My boyfriends brother said he needed help financially and if he could borrow £200 off him and didn’t say what it was for. My bf’s brother isn’t in a job where he would need emergency money. my bf gave it to him anyway without asking what it was for. Now my bfs brother has announced on Facebook that he’s going on a holiday. Presumably using the money my bf gave him. AIBU because he said he needed help financially but really it was just money for a holiday or is this expected between siblings? I feel like my bf is being taken the absolute piss out of him but he’s not allowing any conversation about it and says it’s not any of my business but I feel like his brother takes advantage of him and therefore it impacts both of us

He is not being taken advantage of. He is happy to lend his money. He is happy for his DB to spend it on whatever he wants. Therefore you have no reason to be worried, let alone interfere. Why can't you see what so many others have? I am surprised your relationship has survived youe constant carping about this.

Gonna abandon this thread as nobody gets my point

Alrighty, till the next one, bye then.

None of your business - sibling relationships are all different and you need to remember that when getting involved and giving your opinion. It’s his brother and it’s up to him what he does with his money - it’s hardly a life changing sum and as you say he’ll pay it back.

Have you posted about this before? Seems familiar.

Unless your boyfriend is a vulnerable adult then he is in a position to do with his finances what he pleases, it’s not really your concern.

Not you AGAIN! I am amazed you still have a Bf. You are doing my head in on here so God knows how your BF puts up with you.

his brother takes advantage of him

but it’s still him being taken advantage of

I don’t like him getting taken advantage of

I don’t like him getting taken advantage of

He is being taken advantage of.

but I can still think he’s being taken advantage of

I’m just trying not to get my bf be taken advantage of

Damn, missed posting before the flounce. I was going to say that in view of the above extracts from the OP's posts, does anyone else get the faintest hint that she thinks her bf is being taken advantage of?

OP the answer is no and your bf is right, it's none of your business unless he is lending your money to his brother. Wind your neck in, not that you will listen even though 100% of replies disagree with you.

Gonna abandon this thread as nobody gets my point

Gonna abandon this thread as nobody agrees with me

Fixed that for you op.

Do you remind your BF or the brother what is owed?

I await eagerly the name change and next post in the saga of "My boyfriend's brother takes advantage of him", hope its another exciting one like the one that involved presents being thrown in the bin.

I don't understand why the boyfriend puts up with it. In previous posts the OP had snatched the phone from boyfriend's hand when he was talking to his brother and continually complains about his boyfriend being taken advantage of. I'd have grown tired of this long before now.

One thing I think we can all agree on, the OP is not keen on the brother!

If your bf has the money and his db pays it back there really is no issue. How is he being taken advantage of? As far as i can tell he is free to say know and what he lends he receives back.a

Gonna abandon this thread as nobody gets my point.

Ohhh you’re flouncing? I’m sooo surprised. Until next time.

Cue for a song - it's all just a little bit of history repeating ...

Does this sound familiar? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3460670-to-be-RAGING-at-my-BFs-selfish-brother-Christmas-completely-ruined-because-of-him

You’re controlling. See you next time OP!

My sister borrows money off me all the time. So long as she always pays me back in good time i don't really care what she spends it on

Well good for you blackprism my situation is another situation entirely.

Also I don't think you know what 'taken advantage of' means... if he gave the money in good faith and without question and it will be paid back and he can afford it, if he is sound of mind, then he isn't being taken advantage of.

Let it go - it's not your money yet girl, so stop being a harpy about it.

It isn't any of your business.

Again!!! This is at least the third thread you have had about your bf and his brother. Give it a rest, you are never going to change the situation.

It is none of your business. You don’t share finances. It’s up to your bf.

Butt out of his relationship with his siblings.

my situation is another situation entirely.

You don't have a situation.

Your BF has a sibling who frequently borrows money and pays it back. If your BF didn't want to lend it then he would have a situation. However, he is happy. So his situation is exactly the same as blackprisms.

Your situation is simply that you cannot, or will not, accept that your BF is entitled to spend his money on whatever he wants. Be that plants, food, gambling or his brother. It's none of your business - as he has told you numerous times.

Oh god it's you again🙄

It's his brother, his blood.
He loves him. He is not being taken advantage of. He's not just anyone.

If I could spare money like that I'd lent it to my siblings no questions asked too.

FYI, his brother will always be more important than you, get used to it and stop trying to drive a wedge between them!