Not to want my x-DH not to bring his girlfriend (the woman he was sha**ing whilst I was pregnant with dd) to my ds' sports day?

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I really would like a few opinions about this. My first feelings are absolute anger and if she comes anywhere near I wont be responsible for my actions. (im normally not a agresssive person)

Thanks

Xenia, If I knew a good looking man with a jag I would have been using him for more than just an afternoon

I really do believe what goes around comes around.

Also didnt you say pp that exh had tried to come back to you several times but you werent having any of it, that is the best revenge ever in my book when an ex wants you back and you can say no and double bonus how insecure must floozy feel

god i am so sorry u had to go through that...at least u got 2 beautiful kids out of it tho. it puzzles me tho why after all this time is she still so clingy towards him??????i really think that life isnt so rosey behind those doors, and the only way she can make herself feel better about it is to try and rub ur nose in the shit.has he never shown any remorse to u for doing what he did????????????

You can hire them actually from escort agencies, but they come at a price not that I've done it.

It's probably best just to avoid going near her but you could take a video camera and camera and take a load of very intrusive pictures of them which they will be being in public too polite to object to just to unsettle them may be.

Yes, there have been tears,apologies and promises, In the beginning I was saying ok lets make a go of it then he would change his mind and then change it back again and as I was pregnant i was feeling pretty insecure and loved him so much I went along with him living here for half a week and living on his own half a week until I found out he was actually living with her for the other half not on his own!

After DD was born one of our friends was coming around quite a bit (nothing was going on between us just a bit of company) but he started spying on me and writing notes about when my friend had visited, times etc, he even brought floozy with him a couple of times and they wre hiding in the trees opposite my house. He even let himself in (still had key) and went through my bin! He was eaten up with jealousy and went mad at me.
Then he finished it with her and threw away all her stuff she had given him and asked to come back and i said no, show me first how much we mean to you, your not moving back in untill i know you mean it. 4 weeks later he was back seeing her.

It's understandable now why she is so peacocky (great word by the way). She probably knows at some level that he didn't really choose her, just messed up badly and ruined his marriage and ended up with her. Desperate insecurity would be my diagnosis. Rain was a good thing in your case it would seem.

have u got a relationship with anyon else now??????????????? i think ur fab.......for u to be so strong at such a hormonal time as well is great, im thinking he feeds her lots of bullshit to keep her dangling like a worm on a hook because there has to be a reason for her being so insecure that she has to be with him everywhere he goes

Desperate insecurity, I hope so then she is at least having a taste of what I felt when I found out about her.

For the last year me and 'the friend' having been spending time together. He is a great guy but he has had to put up with some sh1t as have I. I guess a relationship int going to be easy with 2 DC. He does his best to understand and its taken him quite a bit of time to get used to the idea of having two DC but now he is all for it but im still not sure. I think i hold back quite a bit now.

How about you suezee, you got any DC?

sounds to me like the friend is a good one and certainly trustworthy and worth having if he has had a load of sh1t to put up with

I agree totally with NKF he didnt choose her at all she must be well aware of the fact she was second best he couldnt have you so he has made do with sloppy seconds

It's different accepting that she is around and inevitably in ds's life, to having her there at his Sport's Day, iyswim. If they live together he will see her, but she doesn't have to go looking to cause upset. Or should that be, more upset.

And watching your children is great - but watching other people's is pretty dull, don't you think? YANBU. But I hope as said above you will be in your element and she will look like the fool she is.

'she' sounds so insecure like the others have said.
Imagine what must be goin ghtrough her mind as she accompanies your ex whiile he spies on yo.
Certainly doesn't sound like he has really moved on.
You should pity her really!!

And I mean pity in the totally patronising sense.

i have a dd and a ds, i have been with dp for 6 and half years and we had a seperation for 6 months bout 3 years ago, was hurt about it but i know he didnt cheat on me or anything, we both did our own thing for a while then decided to get back together and ive no regrets

well as long as ur doing the right thing for u by taking things slowly with this "friend" then thats all that matters,its understandable when uve been hurt by a man that u thought was going to spend the rest of his life with you.Im just glad that u have someone tho x

heypeachy hope ur doing ok....sorry if i was wafflinf away on saturday i was a bit drunk