So upset with DH

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I'm so furious! Had tension between us for weeks. When I tried to raise it he said he'd rather not talk about anything and just wait for it to pass. Obviously it hasn't and arguments keep flaring up so things just feel shit at the moment. My first mother's day as a mother next Sunday. I don't usually place too much importance on these days and won't in the future, but it's my first and been a significant year becoming a mum. Was curious as to whether he'd actually organise anything. Told me today that he's got a surprise booked for that day and was feeling really good about him finally putting some effort in. Turns out he hasn't put any bloody effort in. We're joining his friend with their mum for a day out and he's just let them book us on to the activity too. Absolutely no effort, no thought or planning, it's not personal and he's trying to pass it off as his own doing. This is obviously in the context of other crap at the moment. I don't know what to do but I'm so happy.

Thanks to all the helpful responses from people who've actually comprehended my op and put some effort into their replies. I've no issue being reminded to keep perspective and have found that helpful. Shame so many people have such low expectations of the men in their lives.

Yes I think you’re getting a hard time here. My dp isn’t my father but I bought him something from our baby on Father’s Day, and he will me on Mother’s Day. I think you’re upset that he’s just tagging onto someone else day rather than putting some thought into it. If things aren’t great anyway it would have been a good opportunity to make an effort. Could you just tell him that you don’t fancy an activity day and plan a nice day instead?