DSD lives with us, her mum has her one day a fortnight. She doesn't pay any maintenance and DP gives her money for when she take dsd out, a lot more than is actually spent on the day out. He used to give her money to buy dsd Christmas and birthday presents as well but she still either ended up with crap or nothing so now he goes out and buys presents himself for Ex to give to dsd.
On top of this every few weeks Ex will ask DP for more money and claim she can't afford the rent or something and he will always give it to her, no matter how much she asks for. Ex and her partner both have good enough job's and could afford to live of their own wages, they could also afford to take dsd out one day every two weeks and buy her presents themselves if they wanted to.
I don't mind when he gives money Ex money to be spent on dsd. Although she doesn't know he does this and is always so pleased whenever her Mum buys her anything or takes her out anywhere. And I'm not sure its in her best interests to be tricked into thinking she has a better Mum than she does and imagine she will be upset when she realises she wouldn't even get a birthday present from her mum if her dad buying it.
Ex was going to be taking dsd away for a week in the summer holidays, DP agreed to pay for wherever they wanted to go. DSD has now decided she doesn't want to go anymore , nothing has been booked and DP hasn't given any money yet but he's said he will still pay for Ex and her partner to go away somewhere as its not their fault DSD has changed her mind.
AIBU to be annoyed by this or to say anything to him about it?
I'm not sure why it bothers me because it doesn't mean we have to struggle or go without something, I just don't get why he wants to fund his Ex's lifestyle and holidays.