Hi. I’d be grateful for your thoughts on the dilemma we face...
Keeping a long story short my MIL is someone who compares (outwardly) what she has against what each of her boys have and also each of her sons against the other. Forever, she’s unhappy and makes a point of making an situation awakard and unhappy.
As an example, we had invited everyone to our first house warming party. She made it all about her and bossed my husband and I around, ruining a special moment for us. She was outwardly critical of our house and of the arrangements we had made, my clothes so on...! When we had our LO (preterm) she was nasty and told us his arms and legs would fall off...!!
I think it’s fair to say I really dislike her. Lol
When we bought our second house, we didn’t tell her. We said we were renting to avoid questions about how much it cost and how much each one of us had paid towards the deposit and then our individual wages. She had done exactly this with our first home. My husband didn’t even want them visiting us, for fears of how she has ruined things. I’ve said he’s fine to ask them to come over whenever, but he doesn’t want to.
We are now in the process of starting work on our home (extending and renovating)... and we don’t seem to be able to decide when to ask them over... FYI whenever she comes she brings univited guests (usually around an additional 10 people).
So... do we
- get her in and out before the extension starts
- get her in and out whilst the extension is going on
- or after the extension finishes
We have no intention of telling them we own the property... that last time she cried (in sadness) when we bought our home because her eldest didn’t have his own home... then she cried, again, and told me I would spend my life crying about my LO after he was born because her eldest didn’t have a boy!!
Thoughts ladies...