Letting my daughter live alone at my house

[mintymurray]

Hi All,
So i work away month Away in distant lands month in UK , my daughter who turns 16 next week has expressed an interest to live At my UK house full time, ( she does not get on with her Mum's partner ) She used to be very responsible but as of late is lacking responsibility ,
Anyway to sort this out i thought of letting her stay at my house whilst i am home for a month to monitor who she gets on, ( i spend 99% of my time at my GF house , yes the kids do come stay there lots)
has anybody experienced this before if so any ideas on how to go about it . I thought of setting a rules of dads house type of thing which if she breached any of the main security ones then it would be a all stop,

thanks for now Minty

[Barrenfieldoffucks]

By all means she should move in with you, but WITH YOU. So you stop spending all your time at your girlfriend's house and prioritise your daughter.

[BlueSkiesLies]

great parenting, really great parenting

[Damntheman]

Do English kids not do chores at home orange?

I know quite a few 16 year olds who do indeed live alone. DH certainly did when he was 16. He had a nasty little bedsit, calls it character building 😂

[RikoBitch]

I also lived alone at 16, in a flat that belonged to my parents. They used to come to stay a couple of nights a month.

I kept it reasonably clean, went to school and looked after myself very well. My parents paid for all my expenses. Yes, occasionally friends came round and beer was consumed, but nothing like the orgies some of you are implying. In fact, myself and quite a few of my friends were well over 18 before we started having sex.

So, it all depends on the individual. It can work out

[RikoBitch]

To clarify, I did feel lonely sometimes and I'm not very close to my parents nowadays. But I certainly didn't destroy their property.

[blackteasplease]

I think you should move back to your own house and she can live / stay with you there. Your gf can visit.

I think it would just encourage her to insist on her own way if you let her have a house to herself.

Also there's nothing to stop her having a massive house party while you are away and wrecking the joint!

[Inliverpool1]

Parties are the least of the worries tbh I’d be more worried about self harming, illness going undetected etc

[WaxOnFeckOff]

I left home at 17 and lived independently, however, it was my own flat and I was working and I got on with my parents and family and I was behaving myself.

I don't think it's wrong per se, but from what you are saying of your daughter, I don't think she is ready. And she would have no respect for your house as she isn't paying for it.

[Orangecookie]

Really not @damntheman kids do at best light chores, in the UK, on the whole. Nothing like what kids in Norway get exposed to anyway.

[Graphista]

I've come across kids at 16/17 who aren't allowed to boil kettles, use sharp knives or fry anything in case they hurt themselves. Ridiculous!

[Damntheman]

Whoa! My five year old cut up his own pear yesterday, and did all the washing up after dinner (mostly effectively too! Mostly..)

Yikes.