To be fuming about this comment

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DH has a few days off work. I am on maternity leave with 10 months old DS. Today we went to a playgroup. There were other babies there of a similar age. Many of them competently crawling. DS has tummy crawled for a while and very recently starting crawling on his knees, not so much today as it's slower than commando style. He is very bright generally and climbs, stands, claps, blows raspberries, waves and says some words.

After the group DH asked if I was worried about how 'behind' DS is. I explained that I didn't think he was behind at all. He then asked if the other babies (who can crawl well) were breastfed. I said yes 2 of them were EBF to 6 months. By this point I was on edge as I could see where he was going with it. He then said maybe DS was slower as not breastfed. And then said that breastfed babies are obviously more advanced.

For medical reasons we had to combination feed. I managed to BF to 12 weeks, i was extremely upset about the whole situation as DH knows.

AIBU to want to punch him?? Don't want to go into details of our relationship and how good or terrible he has been generally. Just want some perspective on this comment as I know I am sensitive about the topic!

I didn't breastfeed and my DS was walking well before 11 months, so what, big deal. Babies will do things when they are ready.
What a dickish comment.

I hope you show him these replies...he is an utter tw*t
...and utterly wrong

What would piss me off almost as much as the ridiculous suggestion that FF was somehow related to the age a baby starts crawling, is the fact he asked are YOU worried?! He could have said “I am a bit concerned blah blah” but no, he put the ball firmly in your court. Not only is he trying to blame you for this nonsense, he’s also questioning your parental responsibilities.

I couldn't bf past 5 weeks for ds...he walked at 9 months
My DD didn't bf at all...she just wouldn't. She walked at 10 months

My sister was bf until 18 months... She didn't walk until way after she was a year old!!

Every baby is different, they develop at different speeds... Your DH is a hurtful idiot.

Definitely not unreasonable. I'd have punched him so well done for your restraint ha ha. FWIW my 10 month old doesn't crawl or talk. He can stand for about 5 seconds and will give the odd wave. And I'm not worried in the slightest.

Well, to add to the anecdotes - after breastfeeding exclusively for six months (little so and so refused a bottle for ages) my daughter crawled at 13 months and walked at the grand old age of 18 months.

No. Correlation. Whatsoever

Its total rubbish. As a good comparison my DS has been BF from birth (13 months), EBF to 6 months. His little buddy, same age, was FF from 3 days old. They started crawling and then walking within days of each other! No correlation at all. Also noticed that in antenatal group, most of the babies were EBF but a very wide variance in walking and crawling. Even two siblings fed the same way can be really different!

He’s an idiot. Punch 🤜 away

Ask your DH if he minds being so far behind the other parents in understanding child development YANBU!!
When I used to worry about things like this ( which seem immense when your babies are young and why not, we are there to look out for anything that might be holding them back) she used to laugh like a Raven and say "Worry about it if he's still doing it when he's 18, I would!"

The thought of that always made me giggle and it was actually a great phrase to apply to loads of things and I used it very sucessfully on a competitive mum once who asked me if I was worried about my DC1 being in the lower set for spelling.

What did you say to him?! Dying to know. What a knob!!!

WTF does he know? They all end up the same by the time they go to nursery etc anyway

Total dick. Punch away!

He is a dick, but this is in part due to the breastfeeding police being so successful in selling the story that breastfeeding is magically beneficial and that women who don't BF are all selfish twats who don't try hard enough.

Perhaps just a good hard slap then no sex for a month.

He is an idiot. I have 2 dds, dd7 was ff from about 10 days as I had lactation failure. She crawled at 5.5 months, talked early and walked at 1 year to the day. Dd2 was ebf and she crawled at 8.5 months, talked early and walked at 13.5 months. All babies are different.

I get really fed up with the whole breast fed/formula debate and the lies put about. There are loads of breastfed babies round here and guess what ? Many of them have asthma, food allergies, are often poorly (and all those other things they are supposed to be better protected from) - just like formula fed babies . Oh and their mothers don't lose weight any quicker either - that's another falsehood.
I do know many mothers who have become severely depressed by breastfeeding though and one whose marriage broke up because of the strain. Just saying...

What a completely knobbish thing to say! It makes no difference at all to development

My son is now 26. Never breastfed. He walked at 13 months and is clever, witty and very sociable....punch away at DH. Your son is not behind.

Punch away. Have one from me.

Ridiculous! And very hurtful to blame you!

All babies are different and develop at different rates. I don't think it makes a difference how they're fed.

My Dd - breast fed till 5 weeks. Crawled at 8 months, walked at 11 months.

My ds - bottle fed from birth. Crawled at 9 months, walked at 10 months.

If breastfeeding made a difference to physical ability, I think my next baby would come out walking then!

OP sounds like your Mil fed your DH on pig swill and chopped up dandelion leaves because he is clearly a chauvinist pisshead.

Eat cake and ignore him.

My 1st was EBF until 4 months and walked on his 1st birthday. My 2nd BF until 5 months, then mixed fed, walked at 16 mo. My 3rd was BF until 11 mo (not EBF obviously) walked at 18 mo. My 4th EBF until 8 wo then FF walked at 10 mo.
My sister never crawled, she rolled.

My little boy was exclusively breastfed, he didn't crawl properly until 11 months. He is now 14 months and isn't walking yet. He sleeps so little on a night still and I am exhausted. My friends little girl was exclusively formula fed since birth. She is 6 days younger than my little boy. She was walking by 7 months and sleeping through the night very early on. Both children are equally as happy. Every baby is different.

What a hurtful comment @OP and a complete load of guff! Your DS is absolutely fine and normal. I have 4 children all EBF and they all achieved things at different times! I’ve got a few pairs of flip flops available if you want to give him a slap with it

My mum went back to work when I was 12 weeks old so stopped breast feeding. I rolled over that week like liturally from one side of the house to the other! I crawled at 6 months and walked at 10 months tell your DH to suck it as it has nothing to do with it some babies never even crawl they just start walking!

Utter bollocks! At best ignorant and thoughtless at worst passive aggressive.