To ask what you will do when your kids leave home?

[Mangetoutrodney]

I love being a mum & will do anything for my kids. I do find it tiring though esp working full time & the weight of responsibility of raising 2 small people (they are 7 & 11). I try to cherish every moment though.

When I have an empty nest, i’d love to take another gap year. I have been lucky to have had 2 in my life before to travel extensively and I miss it. I think I am a wanderer at heart & am not bothered by material stuff. So that’s what I hope to do (health etc permitting) - to wander again for a year.

Aibu to ask what you would like to do?

(I’m not wishing my life away- just dreaming a bit when the routine gets to me a bit!!)

Going to build/buy a beautiful villa overlooking the sea in Mallorca or Ibiza with infinity pool and retire there permanently.

My DD wont be able to leave home

I have it all planned!!

In 4 years both will be off to Uni (I hope ). I will then be selling my house in a suburb of a major city which I don't particularly like and move 40 miles away to a place I love. It's cheaper, prettier and has a much nicer vibe to it. I will also be able to buy a house in cash so will be mortgage free.

I will then decrease my working hours and spend more time enjoying the area I live. Maybe take a few months off to travel. My dc know they'll always have a home with me and I love them dearly but I can't bloody wait!!!

Holidays .
Wine.
More sex.
Not necessarily in that order

Gazelda why not apply to be a parish Councillor now? Most councils would hugely benefit from having more/any younger people on board and taking part in making decisions about their local area.

Seriously, go for it. (and go to meetings for a while first)

But if they leave at 34 surely you don't have to be there with them? You can still trek the Himalayas!

Sleep is what I'm thinking!

Dance around naked and fuck in every room

Hopefully more abroad for 50% of the year and work remotely.

Brexit may have fucked that plan right up though.

They're not leaving ever, they have been informed of this

Already living the dream-
Spend money on self without wondering if DCs need anything.
Have more holidays and weekends away.
Eat out more in fancy pants restaurants rather than cheapo pubs with DC in tow.
Have unihibited noisy sex whenever and where ever we like.

Get more cats.

I went back to work after many year of self employment. Dd1 and Dd2 are students which is a financial strain. DD3 is still at home so I've a few more years before they have financially left the household.

My kids are 3 and 1, we planned to have 3 but keep wondering whether to stop - we’re just prolonging the full nest if we go for a third 😄 by the time I’m 50 the kids will be 25 and 23 which is a nice thought. No idea what i’ll Want to do by then - starting my business will take the next 20 years at the rate I’m going currently 🤣

Oh I’m already there. Things I’m enjoying now that I couldn’t enjoy with three tots at home, includes but is not limited to:
impromptu overnight trips.
Date night.
Theatre nights.
Rocky Horror nights.
Pub quiz.
Lazy Sunday mornings.
Early morning sex.
A tidy house.

Travelling or trips away. I was kind of on the cusp of planning to go travelling when I met DH 24 years ago, so it's a little regret I've always had.
I've started Tge past year to go away with dh on business trips and gave done a few 3 weekers to places I wouldn't choose to go to but t have been eye opening and interesting.
My youngest is 18 and off to Uni later this year so next year I'm planning several trips if not an extended trip away alone.

Go on lots of holidays

Have an immaculate tidy home

Go out with Mr former for lots of nights out

Focus on ways of shipping out the one who didn't go to Uni 😄😄

I'll be 46, nearly 47 when they both become adults...I envisage them both living at home for several more years but at least I'll have my freedom back.

Probably downsize and hopefully have a bit more spare cash.

Hopefully expand my business - if it survives that long!!

Er....daughter (20) moved out but on the phone 3 nights a week. She needs me more now than she did at 15! Can’t see that changing for a while.

Freedom ha! The taxi runs. That’s part of their growing up that you don’t factor in either! You see you could go to bed and leave them to get home from that party but...

I only do part time voluntary work, kids now both at uni and I’m bored out my mind. You mustn’t wish for this!! Wish there was something I couldn’t wait to do. Dh and I travel a fair bit but I can’t see him retiring for ages if ever.

Sleep! Cook things just for fun not for volume. Travel, craft, hang out with dh. I’ll be 60 though....