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Requesting holiday

17 replies

pretentiousrubberduck · 18/03/2019 22:09

DH started a new job today. Pil have asked that he request holiday for the first Friday of April to help them with work on their house. DH has agreed to ask, but I think that requesting holiday for 3 weeks time the day after you start your new job will reflect badly on him. So who is bu?

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pretentiousrubberduck · 18/03/2019 22:11

*have just realised it's only 2 weeks away, not 3. Where has March gone?!

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LargeGlassofWhiteWine · 18/03/2019 22:21

Unless he had something booked that he had told his new employer about when he was interviewed for the role I would suggest he not do this. It could come across as flakey for him to apply for leave straight after starting the job and at very short notice.

pretentiousrubberduck · 18/03/2019 22:31

He was hired a month ago but had to work out his notice. MIL only asked him last week, he did say he couldn't give a firm answer but now she's really laying on the guilt. He signed his contract a month ago and filled his holiday in then, this obviously wasn't on it. I did point out that it just doesn't look good, and now he's thought about it he agrees. I've suggested he doesn't actually ask, but tells mil that the request was denied because he hasn't accrued any holiday yet. Is that plausible?

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TriciaH87 · 18/03/2019 22:37

Unless he gave the dates in his interview as these have to be accepted as part of conditions as the employer is made aware at the start company policy will apply. Usually at least 4 weeks notice so i highly doubt he will be able to get the time off.

TriciaH87 · 18/03/2019 22:39

I think your idea is spot on tell her it was refused as to many people off using up holidsy before start of new tax year on april 6th.

shaggedthruahedgebackwards · 18/03/2019 22:42

It really depends on the job and whether his employer would need to arrange cover for him while he's off (in which case 2 weeks is really not enough notice).

In a lot of jobs, taking a single day of AL isn't a big deal so it really depends on the role.

Is, there any way his PIL can delay their project whatever it is?

Itslookinglikeabeautifulday · 18/03/2019 22:43

Yes good idea.

WhereIsMyTVRemote · 18/03/2019 22:44

I think if he has just reason to ask, why even worry? Just ask politely and explain that you know it isnt ideal.

In my experience it's sick days they worry about, not one day of holiday for a good reason.

Chocolate35 · 18/03/2019 22:46

I agree with telling her it was denied. It doesn’t look good at all.

pretentiousrubberduck · 18/03/2019 22:52

It wouldn't be a good time for annual leave anyway, he works in finance so the end of March/beginning of April is a really busy time of year for him. Pil do know this, he's been in finance for 7 years now Hmm
It's not an emergency, just some general upkeep to the house that can absolutely wait. But pil want to do it that weekend so that's that. Thanks for all the advice, I appreciate it all!

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Ariela · 18/03/2019 22:54

Can't PIL postpone the DIY to Easter weekend ? Only a fortnight later.

pretentiousrubberduck · 18/03/2019 22:56

They're away for Easter @Ariela, I did suggest that originally!

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Ariela · 18/03/2019 23:06

May Bank Holiday?

Peghi · 18/03/2019 23:08

Given hes in finance I wouldn't ask for the time off this quickly.

CloserIAm2Fine · 18/03/2019 23:09

I would just tell her he asked for it and it was declined due to end of tax year workloads and colleagues already having booked time off.

pretentiousrubberduck · 18/03/2019 23:12

We're on a mini break with them for the first one, but I'll suggest the second one and see what they say. I already know mil won't be happy about it, but DH has worked so hard to get where he is. It would be a shame to get off to a bad start and to give his new boss a flaky first impression for something that isn't urgent or unavoidable.

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BrusselPout · 18/03/2019 23:19

There is no harm in asking - but they might say no.

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