Man weeing against wall. Am I wrong for having a go ?

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So first time in aibu. Out this evening, meal with family, waiting in taxi rank to go home, 2 men who I had previously seen in a pub causing problems. One man is stood weeing against the wall of a bank. I am no prude but that is disgusting. They were then really rude to me and insulting. Am I right for having a go? my husband basically told me to shut up in the taxi and I should let it go?? I don't agree...

discrete phone call to police (& yes I have done this)

Absolutely not unreasonable! Good for you, that is such revolting behaviour.

I had a female friend who regularly got stroppy with lairy drunk men on nights out. Our male friends started refusing to go out with her. She was endangering them.

You were foolish and selfish and you are lucky that your husband was going home with you in a taxi and not to A&E in an ambulance.

@PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Cop has been used since the mid 18 century, who were not (to my knowledge) known for their love of American TV.

Pendants corner is somewhere that way

BettyDuMonde

Good points there - I suppose your hand/paw-touching interactions with a stranger's dog after their act of micturition are likely to be very minimal.

What did you say? Had you had a few?

A! So it's okay for a man to piss in public because dogs do? Dogs also don't wear clothes, lick their bollocks, and rub themselves against people when they're horny. Can men do these things too because we don't complain when dogs do?

Is it me or is everyone missing the jam in their doughnut on Mumsnet today. Everyone is fighting. Mainly with me it seems😮! At least that’s how it’s felt. Anyway, not to dwell. Hopefully.

If it's the presence of the actual wee, is it any different from when a dog does it?

When a lot of men do it in the same place, as commonly happens in pub/club areas in towns, it leaves a nasty residue and stinks the place up for the people who work or shop there the next day.

But to be honest, anyone who'd pay attention to complaints about them pissing in public wouldn't piss in public in the first place.

YABU. It is disgusting but in your situation I wouldn't have said anything. It's just stirring the pot and picking a fight for no real reason - the outcome will never be that they stop mid wee and then promise to never do it again.

You and your family could have become the target of their anger and ended up getting hurt, because of something that you said which didn't need to be said.

@hellenbackagen

Out of interest why haven't you? I should imagine it'd be far more effective than a lecture.

FurrySlipperBoots One would hope police spend their time attacking knife crime, burglaries, rape, DV, violent crime etc. rather than bollocking men caught short with nowhere else to piss but on themselves I suppose. But I guess some have their personal peeves and bring them to work.........

Seeing in public is pretty rank. Especially where kids are around. Not unreasonable to feel like having a go, but probably wisest not to in the circumstances.

He probably felt worried about being hurt, working in a pub I was privy to the history of many of my regulars. The 65 year old man who always had peppermint in his whiskey spent 25 years in prison for throwing a man off of a roof, leading to his death. Not everyone is a safe person to have a go at.

Public pissing, It's gross but it's not endangering your husband, who they would have gone for.

My boss would make me (at the time a 20 year old woman) make the above murderer leave, because his line was he didn't hit women... but men were fair game.

Agree with a need for more public loos - not a single one in my uni town and even in London I struggle.

YABVU. Of course it’s disgusting and unacceptable, but it is not your job to go around telling people what they can and can’t do, especially when it puts your husband at an exceedingly high risk of being beaten up.

You were very selfish and didn’t think about the consequences of your actions. You ran your mouth without thinking that two drunk men who had already been causing trouble had a very likely chance of rounding on you and your husband, and it would be your husband who would suffer.

Absolutely disgusting and I hate it when a bloke makes no effort to walk a few yards to somewhere discreet and pisses in front of everyone BUT I would not confront a drunk man.
And please fine public pissers police people...

They should fuck off to the toilet. I'm a primary school teacher and often mums letting their kids have a wee up a wall or tree in the playground. It is disgusting

betty laughed my socks off!

*often see

All that would of happen is your husband would properly get punched .Why would you put him in that position common sense to keep your mouth shut

Fucking grim. A few drinks and suddenly their bladder control is worse than my 3 year old. I remember commenting to some bloke doing this on a night out and he turned round and waggled his penis at us.

Did you have your children with you? It is disgusting I agree but given you’d already seen these two men causing trouble earlier I think you could have caused a situation by “having a go” at them.

What did you say and how did they react?

It's disgusting but I don't think it's sensible to confront drunk men that you knew had been causing trouble earlier tbh and it would probably have been your dh who paid the price if it turned nasty. Agree wholeheartedly that the police should fine every one of them caught pissing in public as there is no need.

Its disgusting behaviour. Good on you I say, OP. No one says anything about anti social behaviour anymore, which is why our society is how it is.