Aibu with shop assistants comment 'wrecking the place'

[Harmonyrays]

Browsing in a large charity shop wuth a toddler pottering about. In the childs section, i was looking at books while she was looking at toys getting things out admittedlt leaving 3 or 4 on the floor. I was just turning aeound to pick them hp when an assistant came over and said 'could you please not let your child wreck the place'.

Thoughts please as im annoyed at the comment as shes a very yound child who was doing what kids do, i was close by ready to put things away and was going to help the charity by buying several items.

Can somebody please explain what the cat and rabbit have got to do with it? It's driving me insane 😂

I don't know about anyone else, but I'm finding @tinkerbellbabygirlpoop's temper tantrum more entertaining than the thread's topic itself.

Money can't buy a personality clearly 🙄

‘Your 1 year old played with toys in a shop? How rude/disrespectful/entitled.’
FFS! OP you did nothing wrong, staff were rude. To a 1 year old a toy is a toy & if she’s playing with it I might end up buying it anyway, if not it goes back on the shelf big fucking deal!! @tinkerbellbabygirlpoop, Clearly wasn’t digging anyone out for their disability. Are you not allowed to disagree with someone who is disabled now or tell them to ‘lighten up’ how the hell is that disrespecting a disability??!

I'm not claiming to be a lawyer, but I'm not stupid, that's for damn sure, 26 and making more money than any of you guys I'm sure

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Just stop posting. You're sounding sillier by the minute. I almost feel sorry for you.

Most workers in charity shops are volunteers. They do work I definitely wouldn't fancy doing for nothing. I wouldn't make extra work for paid workers, usually on the minimum wage, so I think it's especially important not to make extra work for people who are doing similar work for nothing. Therefore I think yabu not ensure your child doesn't pull out toys/books in a charity shop op.

I don't know about anyone else, but I'm finding @tinkerbellbabygirlpoop's temper tantrum more entertaining than the thread's topic itself.

Aha ☺️

It’s like watching a two year old in an uncontrollable rage. 😂.

There’ll be two versions of this event, we only get to hear yours so not one of us can really answer.

Why don't you go away Tinker? You've completely derailed the thread (amusingly though) and are apparently being horribly bullied.

What is it with parents... So easily offended. The shop assistant is probably fed up with picking everybody's shit up off the floor. It's not a bloody play room.
I would've said sorry and made the child put away the toys.

come to my charity shop kids are very welcome to try before they buy its only a few things to pick up to be honest adults give me more headaches taking items off hangers dropping them on the floor putting them back in wrong sections muddling shoes up pulling all the books out but i smile sweetly and put it all back again til the next time

But the issue is the aggression
The op has not described it as aggressive. That’s your spin on it.

"Please don't let your child wreck the shop" is hardly aggressive.

If the assistant had "sort your kid out and clean that mess up", then yeah that would aggressive.

Best of all, don't let your child be an inconvenience then other people won't need to step in at all.

Those parents that use the children's toy section in charity shops as some sort of play room are so selfish. This is not ToysRus, its staffed by volunteers and they should not have to pick up everyone else's crap from the floor just because they cant be arsed to look after their own children.

If you think "please don't let your kid wreak the shop" is aggressive you must live your life in a constant state of fear. It's a perfectly reasonable thing to say.

re "fed up with picking everybody's shit up"

I went into a shop with a couple of friends and we saw a baby left to play unsupervised while her mum browsed at another block of shelves, ignoring the baby
No shop assistant in sight.

The baby was dipping her / his hand in the nappy and wiping it on the goods
We all walked out immediately.

The shop assistant was rude. One of the things good shop assistants Know, is that when customers behave badly, they just need to smile and put up with it unless what is happening is truly dangerous or outrageous. It is part of the job. Often volunteers in charity shops haven't had that level of training nor expectation they should put up with shit which is part of a normal shop assistants work. They may well be a bit more honest or out spoken than thebusualmoaid shop assistant. Often they are older people and their expectations of suitable behaviour might be a little stricter than many accept today.

That said, it is shitty to allow your child to take stuff of fun the shelf and play with it. As others have said, a shop is not a playgroup. It wouldn't be acceptable to let them take stuff off the shelf in the supermarket or other shop either. The fact you were looking at other stuff doesn't make it okay - it is your job to supervise your child.

So i think can raise an eyebrow about the way you were spoken to, but you also need to see that in future you need to control your child and not engage in the kind of entitled behaviour that some parents do,nwhicwhich seems to say 'I have a small child which exempts me from any kind of control issues and them from any criticism of their behaviour' be more aware of what they are doing and their impact on other people and simply don't allow them to have a negative impact on others.