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AIBU?

Aibu with shop assistants comment 'wrecking the place'

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Harmonyrays · 16/03/2019 10:59

Browsing in a large charity shop wuth a toddler pottering about. In the childs section, i was looking at books while she was looking at toys getting things out admittedlt leaving 3 or 4 on the floor. I was just turning aeound to pick them hp when an assistant came over and said 'could you please not let your child wreck the place'.

Thoughts please as im annoyed at the comment as shes a very yound child who was doing what kids do, i was close by ready to put things away and was going to help the charity by buying several items.

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WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 18/03/2019 16:29

Aridane I've always bought for more stuff for DD than me in charity shops, if she happily potters in the kids' bit while I browse, chances are I'll buy her whatever has taken her interest.

Lweji · 18/03/2019 16:32

I don't think anyone has mentioned this on the thread, but what if the child damages the toys or display or anything while messing about unattended?

LadyRochfordsDeletedGusset · 18/03/2019 16:40

Probably for the best you no longer live in the U.K. then Monestasi.

Aridane · 18/03/2019 16:52

Lweji - ah well, it’s only a charity shop staffed by volunteers so it doesn’t matter!

Aridane · 18/03/2019 16:54

Nice to handle, nice to hold- but if you break it, we say sold

so ran the legend in a local shop where “children were being children”. No idea if legally enforceable but goodness it incentivised the parents to supervise their children!

glitterdayz · 18/03/2019 17:22

Oh so because it's a charity shop that makes a difference?
So what about all the lovely mummy's who let their dc mess round in Claires and then when something is broken complain it's over price cheap tat.
What is worse is the excuses - I was just about to stop Tilly chucking everything on the floor, yeah ok
When shopping my 1 year old is next to me looking at the same stuff or in the buggy.
It's not rocket science and it's not rocket science to be an arse and get told.
She felt like you where wrong but you felt like she should of expressed it better = Excuses.

Lweji · 18/03/2019 17:27

Or, god forbid, the child hurts itself by climbing a display and knocking things all over itself? Or chokes on a little toy piece?
It will be the shop's fault, surely.

WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 18/03/2019 18:18

But those things didn’t happen, so why mention them? And why assume that if they did the OP would either blame the shop or not pay up?

Stop making shit up just to try and elicit the response you want.

Latteaday123 · 18/03/2019 18:32

@Lweji or perhaps the toy contains lead.... Or pre-owned by someone with some terrible disease.Or perhaps the child could be impaled by a flying rusty nail or bitten by a rabbid dog who enters the store while the terrible mother is browsing the bookshelf

Lweji · 18/03/2019 19:18

But those things didn’t happen, so why mention them? And why assume that if they did the OP would either blame the shop or not pay up?

But they might have been just about to happen. Just as the OP was about to tell her child to put the toys back.

No, they didn't happen, but could easily have. And can when your very young child is left to their own devices unsupervised in a shop.

UnspiritualHome · 18/03/2019 19:44

Latteaday, where do you get the suggestion that OP was looking away for 8 seconds from? She says she was looking at books which must take longer than that.

Latteaday123 · 19/03/2019 07:57

@UnspiritualHome it was an approximation. You really are being ridiculous the lot of you!! It's okay to have children and still look around a bit.

Wow2806 · 19/03/2019 17:38

CF...
They weren't your or your Child's.. You had NO intention of purchasing them. You allowed to happen to keep child amused whilst you " browsed'.
Therefore your child should not of been playing with them AT ALL..
Signs in shops for a reason.
#allbreakagestobepaidfor
You are what is commonly known as a Cheeky Fucker

UnspiritualHome · 19/03/2019 23:36

8 seconds was an approximation for someone looking at books? Only in the sense that one day is an approximation for three months.

Latteaday123 · 20/03/2019 06:37

@UnspiritualHome honestly!!!!! She didn't say she was reading the books. She was looking at books. Browsing...... You know..... When you pick up a book, look at the cover... Perhaps scan the back. All while your child is at the periphery of your vision. Think you've lost the plot a bit and we are way off track from the op. I have found this thread utterly amazing!

UnspiritualHome · 20/03/2019 07:12

I don't think it's me who has lost the plot, Latte. There was time for the child to get the toys out and put them on the floor, and for the assistant to notice, get concerned about the situation and come over to talk to OP. It blatantly wasn't a few seconds.

notacooldad · 20/03/2019 07:16

I think she summed the situation up pretty accurately to be honest.

BloodyDisgrace · 20/03/2019 11:37

Your child is only your problem and shouldn't add more work for others (by scattering toys around etc), but, equally, that sales assistant should have been polite. Yes, they might be fucking annoyed at your kid, true, but should have worded it as "please could you stop your child doing that and put the toys back? Thank you".

I hate rudeness and snappiness. If I were you I'd keel the child in the pram in the first place, but if someone spoke to me like that - even for a reason - I'd say "i am really really sorry. But I wish you said it less aggressively".

BloodyDisgrace · 20/03/2019 11:37

keep in the pram

ColeHawlins · 20/03/2019 11:55

Exasperation is not the same thing as agression. Neither is curtness.

Siameasy · 20/03/2019 12:35

Just been in the charity shop actually. There was a child playing with three toys on the floor. The mum was a metre away looking at kids’ books. NOTHING BAD HAPPENED. No one died or was injured. No one appeared offended.
(In our CS there are many toys displayed on the floor or on the bottom shelf. I thought of calling the police though as a child touched a toy)

Latteaday123 · 20/03/2019 16:00

@Siameasy Finally somebody taking some sense!!! Thank you!!

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notacooldad · 20/03/2019 16:29

@Siameasy Finally somebody taking some sense!!
When you say someone is talking sense what you actually mean here is that someone has the same point if view as you. That doesn't necessarily mean it is sense.

Latteaday123 · 20/03/2019 17:28

notacooldad yes exactly. The same sensible point of view as myself. Pat on the back for you sir.

SoupDragon · 20/03/2019 17:43

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