Ex is moving house. Should I be told where?

[smilingelizabeth]

Hi everyone,
I'd like some advice on this please.
My ex and father of our 4 kids has sold his house. He told me it was for sale and it is now sold according to right move.
He won't tell me his plans -such as if he's planning to live in the same town, move in with his girlfriend who lives around 40-50 minutes drive away in another town or what. He's also told me not to discuss this with the children and as far as I know they don't know anything about it.
AIBU to feel annoyed about this? And what can I do? I'm assuming I can't do anything!
One of my kids has autism and hates change of any kind so if he is moving I'd like to prepare her in advance and not have it sprung on my child without warning.
Also, he has the kids one night after school and alternate weekends so it may have implications for their contact arrangements.

If you do a google search loads come up

I would want to know where my kids are staying. I think it is totally normal and not controlling.

I think most people here feel as I do that they'd rather know where the kids will be and who they'll be living with. Knowing that has made me feel much better as I know I'm not being unreasonable in wanting to know.

I think most people would want their ex to know their new address too unless there's a history of violence or harassment. It's good to hear that some people here have an ok relationship with their ex.

I feel that being parted from your children is hard anyway especially if you have concerns about your ex and potentially not knowing where they are geographically or who they are living with makes it feel even more worrying.

When you add to that autism and an unreliable and chaotic ex, what you get is a situation that's pretty unsettling.

I'm taking the kids away for a week over Easter and I have a feeling he will move while we're away and then not mention it to the kids and just drive them to his new place when he next sees them.

Rtmhwales. I've been on the receiving end of covert tracking devices - awful behaviour. If OP's husband is dealing with the move like this, there is probably a bigger backstory.....