Or is this RIDICULOUS!!! - Wedding

[HappyHattie]

I get married in 12 weeks time.

I booked a hairstylist over eight months ago! After careful consideration...etc. (I’d heard good things about this salon/ read reviews online).

I asked to come in for a trial earlier but was told no, not until 2-3 months before- this seemed to be standard practise amongst wedding hair stylist...so fine.

Went for my ‘trial’ the other day (keeping in mind that it’s a stately home wedding, and I have two very shy under 10 flower girls looking forward to getting their hair done, so I want the morning getting ready to be chilled out...etc)

The woman I’d expected (heard good things about) was no longer there. The woman who did my hair was...not right. I’m not even kidding. My mother (who came with me) had to go for a walk, she felt so uncomfortable and some of the things the salon staff were saying 🙄.

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics. And my hair started falling out 30 mine after I left 😒

Not an option. So I rang about 20 other wedding hair stylists yesterday to be told...sorry we book like a year in advance. Which is fair enough, but if none of them offer trials until 2-3 months before the date, then what the hell are you supposed to do if your trial goes horribly???

You have no other choice!!!

Short of not getting a hairstylist (and we need one)...I have no idea what the hell to do!

I'm sorry everyone is taking the piss OP. I get where you are coming from, you have an idea of what you want and you are paying for it, totally your call! I wouldn't want distracting features in my photos either - so perhaps just don't have any with her in. You can just have your MOH touching your shoulder or hair and looking in the mirror or that kind of thing to get the same effect.

The issue is that you didn't like her anyway, so it doesn't really matter. Ring around as many salons as you can and say you are willing to pay for an additional trial as well as the one 2-3 weeks before, e.g. just book for a styling appt.

On Mumsnet your wedding is only good if it cost you £5, you had 4 guests and everyone brought their own Tesco meal deals.

Love your take on things marthasginyard.

I wouldn't want distracting features in my photos either

I wish I could have airbrushed my mil’s distractingly sour expression out of my photos.

Ignore all the people going on about judging someone by their looks. It's nonsense and happens everyday. (Try being morbidly obese !)

Attraction and feeling comfortable with someone is in the eye of the beholder. Whilst 20 people may find tattoos and long black acrylic nails lovely and equal amount of people will find it off putting and unattractive. There is no right or wrong. You don't like it.
The main point however should be the fact that she's a shit hairdresser !

I second the advice to try mobile hairdressers. Or her one of those bridal mags and look for someone local in their classified adds.

Yes this is rediculous..for Christ sake some of us have real actual problems..this has to be a piss take..fucking self absorbed

You looked beautiful, Matilda. Hid those tats with the big willy, hairy balls and cum shot very nicely.

Kennehora read your post as last sphincter.....

you have an idea of what you want and you are paying for it, totally your call
She's paying for her hair to be done, not the appearance of the person doing it.

OP (if you're still lurking and reading?), it depends what you want your "getting ready photos" to be: actual reality of you getting ready, I.e. candid shots, in which case whichever hairdresser you use will go with the photos, because they're real; or posed, pretending-to-get-ready-for-the-camera shots where everyone has to hold a fake smile while a veil is put on your head half a dozen times til the photographer gets the right shot.

Do you really want to spend your day on the latter? It doesn't sound like this hairdresser is any good, anyway, if the style flopped after 30 mins. But what will you do if you find someone who does excellent hair but has tattoos/piercings/witch nails/whatever else you deem unacceptable? Which is more important to you?

I wouldn’t want anyone tattooed, never mind heavily tattooed at my wedding either.

Op if you'd of just left it as I didn't like how she did my hair and it fell out more or less straight after you wouldn't get getting a hard time here.

I didn't realise having your hairdresser in your wedding pics was a thing these days?!

for Christ sake some of us have real actual problems.

then why do you waste your time on AIBU, don't go on an entertainment forum and complain.

If she had done a good job with the hair then it might have been worth reconsidering "getting ready" pics.

" but if none of them offer trials until 2-3 months before the date, then what the hell are you supposed to do if your trial goes horribly??? "

Have more trials closer to the date?

I wouldn’t want anyone tattooed, never mind heavily tattooed at my wedding either.
I'd love to see your invitations, did you put this stipulation in the dress code or simply add a leaflet about laser removal?

Your marriage is a life long (hopefully) commitment to someone, not an instagram project. And nobody cares about your photo's except your mother. Come on, do you care about your family or friends getting ready photo's? Could you tell us from the top of your head what their hairdresser looked like? No, right?

Don’t you have a regular hairdresser that you use all the time? Tha s who did my wedding hair.
I didn’t have photos taken of my hairdresser. I would only just die her on her ability, not her own fashion choices.

This is so funny, what a bridezilla. I also don't understand why the stately home bit is relevant?

Come on, do you care about your family or friends getting ready photo's? @cranstonmanor

The photos are for her, not for her friends or family. People are allowed to do whatever they so chose if they are organising and paying for it.
I don't get why people on this thread are trying so hard to change OP's wedding plans - nothing to do with you, or the question at hand!

Also: no apostrophes for a plural!!!!!

Depends when she got her hair done! It's been a bit windy recently- I don't think even 10 tons of insette (1980s concrete in a can) could hold an updo up this week.

I've just typed this with "horror" black acrylic nails and even worse I've got a few tattoos. But I'm a teacher not a hairdresser so won't be ruining any getting ready wedding photos

Just book a regular hair appointment.

One of my bridesmaids really did take a photo of me in my undies exiting from my parents extremely small bog. It is the most bizarre picture. Full bridal lingerie, hair, makeup, (think shoes too...) set against council house bog, decor circa 1974 and a wtf face.
No tattoos though.

Ignore all the people going on about judging someone by their looks. It's nonsense and happens everyday.

OH because sexism, racism and discrimination happen every day, it's okay. I didn't know that, thanks!

Has anyone got the link for the pre nup thread I can't find it

but was your hair nice?