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Or is this RIDICULOUS!!! - Wedding

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HappyHattie · 14/03/2019 10:16

I get married in 12 weeks time.

I booked a hairstylist over eight months ago! After careful consideration...etc. (I’d heard good things about this salon/ read reviews online).

I asked to come in for a trial earlier but was told no, not until 2-3 months before- this seemed to be standard practise amongst wedding hair stylist...so fine.

Went for my ‘trial’ the other day (keeping in mind that it’s a stately home wedding, and I have two very shy under 10 flower girls looking forward to getting their hair done, so I want the morning getting ready to be chilled out...etc)

The woman I’d expected (heard good things about) was no longer there. The woman who did my hair was...not right. I’m not even kidding. My mother (who came with me) had to go for a walk, she felt so uncomfortable and some of the things the salon staff were saying 🙄.

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics. And my hair started falling out 30 mine after I left 😒

Not an option. So I rang about 20 other wedding hair stylists yesterday to be told...sorry we book like a year in advance. Which is fair enough, but if none of them offer trials until 2-3 months before the date, then what the hell are you supposed to do if your trial goes horribly???

You have no other choice!!!

Short of not getting a hairstylist (and we need one)...I have no idea what the hell to do!

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thedisorganisedmum · 14/03/2019 14:05

HarrysOwl
don't pretend to be so naive, we are talking about the beauty industry, where appearance IS relevant.

There's another thread at the moment about a woman who does not want a male doing her pedicure. This is exactly the same.

letsdolunch321 · 14/03/2019 14:06

Faffing around having wedding hair trials, back in the day when I got married I had curling tongs and did it myself.

A colleague at work who is getting married this year attended a wine tasting for his wedding last weekend.

How times have changed 🤪

No surprise weddings are so important these days

letsdolunch321 · 14/03/2019 14:07

Lol I meant expensive NOT important 😉

HarrysOwl · 14/03/2019 14:12

don't pretend to be so naive, we are talking about the beauty industry, where appearance IS relevant.

Ha. OP is paying for a service, not a model to appear in her precious wedding photos. Judging someone based on their looks is not a nice trait. On another thread you are really laying into anyone judging other couples (and supported by me) yet here you're happy to judge away - hypocritical much?

OP has disappeared as she tends to do in her threads, anyway, but I hope she comes back...

itwaseverthus · 14/03/2019 14:12

Narcissism is alive and well and being generously normalised by the wedding industry. Quote of the thread!

I did my own make up and my best pal, a hairdresser, came to the house to put my hair up/veil on. We hadn't done a trial, he just threw it up with an artistic flourish (worked best with a few glasses of Champaign in him) and put my veil on top. The photographer knew in advance no posed shots so it was a laugh to see the photos later where my dad is scoffing burnt canapes I'd forgotten to take out the oven and my hairdresser telling animated jokes to the bridal party all sat on my bed, drinks and fags in hand. He died two years after my wedding, those are some of my most loved memories of him and that day.

Huggybear16 · 14/03/2019 14:12

Oh @Lweji you do make me laugh

TFBundy · 14/03/2019 14:13

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RomaineCalm · 14/03/2019 14:14

I'm very glad that 'getting ready' photos weren't a thing when I got married.

Big Jeff the Photographer would have been horrified at taking pictures of me hoiking myself into my Spanx and then deciding at the last minute to empty/clean the fridge (wearing only said Spanx) just in case anything went off while we were away.

PhalangeReginaPhalange · 14/03/2019 14:15

Yabu

thedisorganisedmum · 14/03/2019 14:15

Judging someone based on their looks is not a nice trait.
but this is not about judging some random in the street, it's about photos for a wedding. I am judging those who are judging the OP for wanting some getting ready pics!

(and I have tattoos , so I don't necessarily agree with the OP but she is free to chose who she wants to do her hair!)

spanishwife · 14/03/2019 14:17

@Kennehora oops thank you I had no idea that was the rule

thedisorganisedmum · 14/03/2019 14:21

who would ever want to look at a photograph of themselves in a bathrobe?

whoever feels like it, you could apply that to any photo.

I am not a fan of the stiff and posed wedding photos "with parents", "with bridesmaid" "with best men" "with the caterer", or the "group shot taken from above", but I wouldn't mock couples who like them.

HarrysOwl · 14/03/2019 14:23

thedisorganisedmum but OP is judging and says she doesn't want her in her photos (essentially). And she's paying this person for a service, not in any other capacity.

Posters are not judging her for wanting certain photos, at least that's not my interpretation. It's more a case of the OP wanting these certain photos to look a certain way with a certain look to them.

And OP saying someone with tattoos and dark nails doesn't 'fit' with her idea is at best precious, and at worst discriminatory.

VanGoghsDog · 14/03/2019 14:26

I honestly believe that people who are so nasty and bitter for the fun of it have a very miserable life. Happy and confident folks really have better things to do than make snap and shitty judgements.

Irony is alive and well I see. Having a miserable life are you @thedisorganisedmum?

TFBundy · 14/03/2019 14:29

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itsbritneybiatches · 14/03/2019 14:34

Thank you for the link Smile

MatildaTheGreat · 14/03/2019 14:35

@TFBundy I hope you have a lovely photo of you in your Judgy pants, in soft focus.

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RearEnded00 · 14/03/2019 14:36

why not ask the venue/photographer if they know of any or can put you in touch with previous brides who used the venue then you might get someone who will come to you. And you can see their work first too

Lweji · 14/03/2019 14:39

There's also photoshop. If it works for models, it also works for tattooed hairdressers. Ups, stylists.

Kennehora · 14/03/2019 14:40

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thedisorganisedmum · 14/03/2019 14:45

nice try VanGoghsDog

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nos123 · 14/03/2019 14:53

I didn’t know “getting ready pics” were a thing.

Some people need a dose of reality...pretentious level 100

cranstonmanor · 14/03/2019 15:18

*@spanishwife
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*The photos are for her, not for her friends or family. People are allowed to do whatever they so chose if they are organising and paying for it.
I don't get why people on this thread are trying so hard to change OP's wedding plans - nothing to do with you, or the question at hand!

Also: no apostrophes for a plural!!!!!*

No, they are not since she has an issue with the language on some of the tattoos and doesn't want that in her photos.

As for the spelling mistake, English is my third language, I am very happy to converse with you in Dutch instead. I promiss to you that my Dutch spelling is perfect.

user1496701154 · 14/03/2019 15:19

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics.
Would you complain of your doctor had tattoos, how judgemental is that
Can you not just book a normal hairdresser, I thought standard practice at weddings was try more than one place.