Or is this RIDICULOUS!!! - Wedding

[HappyHattie]

I get married in 12 weeks time.

I booked a hairstylist over eight months ago! After careful consideration...etc. (I’d heard good things about this salon/ read reviews online).

I asked to come in for a trial earlier but was told no, not until 2-3 months before- this seemed to be standard practise amongst wedding hair stylist...so fine.

Went for my ‘trial’ the other day (keeping in mind that it’s a stately home wedding, and I have two very shy under 10 flower girls looking forward to getting their hair done, so I want the morning getting ready to be chilled out...etc)

The woman I’d expected (heard good things about) was no longer there. The woman who did my hair was...not right. I’m not even kidding. My mother (who came with me) had to go for a walk, she felt so uncomfortable and some of the things the salon staff were saying 🙄.

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics. And my hair started falling out 30 mine after I left 😒

Not an option. So I rang about 20 other wedding hair stylists yesterday to be told...sorry we book like a year in advance. Which is fair enough, but if none of them offer trials until 2-3 months before the date, then what the hell are you supposed to do if your trial goes horribly???

You have no other choice!!!

Short of not getting a hairstylist (and we need one)...I have no idea what the hell to do!

Your hair started failing out after having it styled?

Sure it did.......

🤔

JacquesHammer
Ok, maybe not a suit, you won't get a job offer if you are not wearing a smart casual business attire.

I got a job when I was wearing a dress, it was just an expression.
Most of my clients wouldn't employ someone wearing a tshirt and would give me furious phone call for wasting their time with unsuitable candidates.

Most clothes shops in Brighton are probably more likely to employ you with visible tattoos than with a suit, I am also aware of that!

I hated my hair on all of my trials but was amazing on the day! My make up artist cancelled the night before the wedding. this really isn't a disaster!

Your hair started failing out after having it styled?

I think she meant her hair started falling out of the up do it had been put in 🤣

Your hair started failing out after having it styled?

Sure it did.......

I don't think the OP meant she was physically losing her hair....

VanGoghsDog - I think the OP meant the "up do" she had started falling out rather than the actual hair. Although it did read as her hair falling out which I thought was odd until I realised what she meant.

And I agree with disorganisedmum.... we aren’t allowed visible tattoos at work. I think it’s fairly standard for a lot of professional jobs.

What a brilliant thread. 😆 I don’t even remember whether I had “getting ready” photos tbh but I love my hairdresser and wouldn’t give a shiny shite what she looks like in photos.

Does the hairdresser & makeup artist have to be in photos anyway? Is this a thing?

I’m not sure whether the OP has flounced or if she’s coming back but I’m genuinely interested to know why she doesn’t use her usual hairdresser?

I work client facing in a legal environment, and previously in Finance, Government and Risk Management and tattoos are fine so not all "professionals jobs" are quite so limited in who they will employ.

OP tattoo judgement aside, if you're not happy with the style you can either go back and explain your concerns or try to find a larger salon who can accommodate you at shorter notice.

Now rather longer in the tooth, I really can’t get het up about not having perfection. Underwear shots. Okaaaaay. I didn’t wear a bra. I was skin and bone and there was scaffolding enough in the dress. My underwear photos would have been interesting. 😳

Anyway I’ve found the solution to ops dilemma. Good for bad hair days or days when you discover all your hair fell out.

Why would the hairdresser be in your wedding photos? Lunacy.

How do wedding hair stylists get styled to show up on pre-wedding photos?

More importantly, do they also get photos of them getting ready to appear in wedding photos?

I had a full-on, big white dress, veil, 100+ wedding. (Only 1 attendant each as that suited us both - does that rule me out?!).

Anyway, on the morning, myself, my DSis's and DM all went in 1 car to the local city, 25 miles away before 9am (and after a late night gathering DPs had insisted on the night before!), for our appointment with the hairdresser DM had been going to for years (and who used to do my and DSis's hair until we all left home) - various sorts of wash/blow dry and a couple of updos.

Tea and scones en route home.

I did my own makeup at home, and got myself dressed (I DSis took pity on me and closed my zip).

Didn't see a photographer until I got out of the car at the church (early afternoon).

So I don't quite know how DH and I have managed to make a go of it after that failure. But we are almost 20 years married....

I lost all interest when you got your judgey pants on about her tats. You know there are lost of tats hidden under nurses' and paramedics' uniforms, I take it? Would you refuse their assistance?

Jacqueshammer You are taking this very personally. Here’s an idea, you can have a tattooed hair stylist at YOUR wedding. And the OP can decline to. It doesn’t make her a snob. Your virtue signalling is tiresome.

@Lweji

It doesn’t make her a snob

Please do show me where I called the OP a snob.

Your virtue signalling is tiresome

You might want to use buzz words correctly

How dare she get tattoos without your approval! The cheek!

Focus on the pre nup. That is more important than your hair

Ridiculous = a grown woman having photos taken of herself getting ready. And actually caring about them. Just why?

because it's her wedding day and she likes the idea?

There are worst photos than a group of girlfriends/sisters laughing and getting ready (ideally with a glass of bubbly).

if you didn't photograph everything short of the bride having a morning poo?

I honestly believe that people who are so nasty and bitter for the fun of it have a very miserable life. Happy and confident folks really have better things to do than make snap and shitty judgements.