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Or is this RIDICULOUS!!! - Wedding

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HappyHattie · 14/03/2019 10:16

I get married in 12 weeks time.

I booked a hairstylist over eight months ago! After careful consideration...etc. (I’d heard good things about this salon/ read reviews online).

I asked to come in for a trial earlier but was told no, not until 2-3 months before- this seemed to be standard practise amongst wedding hair stylist...so fine.

Went for my ‘trial’ the other day (keeping in mind that it’s a stately home wedding, and I have two very shy under 10 flower girls looking forward to getting their hair done, so I want the morning getting ready to be chilled out...etc)

The woman I’d expected (heard good things about) was no longer there. The woman who did my hair was...not right. I’m not even kidding. My mother (who came with me) had to go for a walk, she felt so uncomfortable and some of the things the salon staff were saying 🙄.

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics. And my hair started falling out 30 mine after I left 😒

Not an option. So I rang about 20 other wedding hair stylists yesterday to be told...sorry we book like a year in advance. Which is fair enough, but if none of them offer trials until 2-3 months before the date, then what the hell are you supposed to do if your trial goes horribly???

You have no other choice!!!

Short of not getting a hairstylist (and we need one)...I have no idea what the hell to do!

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RockyFlintstone · 14/03/2019 11:31

Can you blame the hairdresser for that? Did it really?

She meant it started falling out of the style, not falling out of her scalp (presumably!)

downcasteyes · 14/03/2019 11:33

What time do you get married? If your schedule allows, you can book appointments at a very good local salon for less ££ than a specialist would cost. One of my friends did this, and it worked really well (and was quite fun to get out and about away from home/the venue actually).

IrmaFayLear · 14/03/2019 11:34

wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics

Snooooort! What is this hell? Good job I had no getting ready pics. I don't want photographic evidence of me squeezing into hold-your-stomach-in big pants.

GetStrongKeepFighting · 14/03/2019 11:35

I think a lot of posters are being ridiculous and I totally get what you mean about not wanting tattooed arms and black acrylics in your photos. They would really jar against the wedding dress and pastel flowers etc.

Don't panic. Go back and say the trial wasn't satisfactory as your hair style wouldn't have lasted until the end of the wedding ceremony and you would like a free new trial with someone else. If they say no, cancel the appointment and look for someone else. You will find them. Book an appointment for a trim and styling. Plenty do Friday night going out hair styling. It's irrelevant whether you're going out and want nice hair and getting married and want nice hair. It's like booking for a restaurant for a meal out and suddenly the ££££ increase when you say it's for a wedding …

Lweji · 14/03/2019 11:35

She meant it started falling out of the style

She went out in wedding hair style? With the veil as well?

MrsWillGardner · 14/03/2019 11:36

🚨SNOB ALERT!🚨

MatildaTheGreat · 14/03/2019 11:36

I just went to the local hairdresser in the morning and she washed and blow dried my hair. I wanted to look like myself in the pictures.

Married 20 years this year, so obviously my inattentiveness to my appearance didn’t put him off. I even did my own makeup 😱

Lweji · 14/03/2019 11:36

Surely for getting ready photos, you could book a body double for the hairdresser. Why not?

Ginnymweasley · 14/03/2019 11:36

I went to my hairdressers the morning of the wedding. No pictures taken. I then walked back to my parents (5 in walk) with my fancy hair in sweatpants and a hoodie. My friend then did my makeup. Only then did the photographer arrive to take pics of us getting in the cars etc. I didn't know getting ready pics were a thing till last year

As for her appearance, you sound horribly judgemental. If you didn't like her work that's fine but to comment on her tattoos and nails is not fair or has anything to do with her job.

WarpedGalaxy · 14/03/2019 11:38

Well, to be fair, she could have got ‘married’ but didn’t have a wedding as in a proper Glorious Technicolor Wedding Industry Production Wedding. Because, as we all know, that legally binding piece of paper you get from the registrar is not really valid if you haven’t been filmed pre-ceremony sipping Buck’s Fizz and swanning around in your bridal lingerie in a romantically staged boudoir in a Stately Home. Plus you then have to have had the Trooping of the Wedding Party Colours (with respective matching frocks and cummerbunds) and then the Speech ritual, the Cake ritual, the choreographed First Dance ritual (Bridal Party Flash Mob optional) and the Morning After Brunch ritual before you can say you’re truly Married.

Romanov · 14/03/2019 11:40

Well, maybe the op has gone to get photos of the tattoos?? Cos she's not come back...GrinGrinGrin

thecatsthecats · 14/03/2019 11:40

Ok, the image judgement questions have already been thoroughly dealt with, so I'm just going to talk practical here, as if the OP's problem is purely with the quality.

Don't go with this stylist - falling out after 30m is crap. I went for a hike in my hair after the trial, and it stayed perfect all day. From my sister's wedding, I took the pins out and the style stayed in place.

If you're in a major city, or near one, you could go with Blow. They're a hair and make up franchise offering standard looks, and in house appointments in Debenhams. They also teach hair and make up, if you wanted to do your own.

If not, mobile hairdressers are a good shout. Don't search bridal hair and make up, because they will be booked in advance, and often at inflated prices.

I think it IS fairly important for a hairdresser to be a good fit for you personally on your wedding day - or at least professional enough to make up for any personal differences (e.g. empathetic and sensitive to whether or not she's annoying someone).

The only bit I didn't like about my wedding was some of the arrangements in the marquee - which came about purely because we were avoiding the crass, unprofessional head waitress of our chef. She was such a pain, had bad social cues, and lack of polish - and the key part of her job was smoothing over everything for us in that area. Instead she complained about everything, and as a result, we avoided her, leaving a few things unfinished just to get away from her.

thedisorganisedmum · 14/03/2019 11:41

She did a bad job - so fair enough you can't use her services.

Keep looking, ask for mobile hairdressers on your local groups.

At worst, you can book appointment to your regular hairdresser, and travel to the salon. It's not the end of the world, you'll just need to be careful when you put your dress on, which you will do anyway.

That's is why you have trials, so you can't reject a bad stylist.

FairNotFair · 14/03/2019 11:41

My "getting ready" pics would have been of me wandering around with wet hair in an old rugby shirt.

And that lingerie shot further up the thread - oddly creepy.

DontCallMeCharlotte · 14/03/2019 11:44

YANBU about wanting earlier trials and then trying to book someone else but...

Also, heavily tattooed (sleeves down both arms and neck). Long black acrylic nails- absoloutley wouldn’t look right in any getting ready pics.

Worrying about how a make up artist looks in your getting ready photos? That is ridiculous and, I'm sorry, very shallow.

AnagramBixter · 14/03/2019 11:46

I agree with the op bro g put off by the tats and nails. Ugh

OP try your local Facebook group for recommendations - failing that your usual hairdresser?

AnneOfCleanTables · 14/03/2019 11:46

If 'wedding stylists' are all booked then start calling round large salons and ask for a trial. When I had my trial, I didn't like the hairdresser I'd booked for my wedding. I swapped to another salon and they were fab. However, even with the great salon, it started to fall out earlier than expected after the trial. I called and told them. They adjusted the style and the products on my wedding and it lasted all day.

Livingoncake · 14/03/2019 11:47

My niece and her friend did my wedding hair, plus my bridesmaids, Mum and MIL. They were both apprentice hairdressers at the time and did a beautiful job. We paid them, of course, but they were mostly just happy to get the experience.

If you look on gumtree you might find some apprentice or junior hairdressers looking for more experience, and they may do it cheaper than a salon. Just a thought.

adulthumanwolf · 14/03/2019 11:48

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RockyFlintstone · 14/03/2019 11:49

Honestly, who cares about 'getting ready pictures'? And I'm really not a wedding kill joy, I love weddings, I like nice photos etc. But those getting ready pics are absolute cringe and cheese, and no one is interested in them anyway.

The blokes ones are just as bad - the groom with his squad (who he was in a strip club ogliging some strippers tits with weeks before), all laughing in the non descript hotel room, doing up each others ties, patting each other on the back, the close up pic of the cufflinks. WHHHHYYY?

WFTisgoingoninmyhead · 14/03/2019 11:51

Find out where the original hairdresser is, and call her.

You are a bit precious about the tattoos though, what is the problem with your hairdresser having tattoos!!! The idea of a trial is exactly that, if you don't like it you go back, tell them why and they do another trial. Stop panicking.

Mmmmbrekkie · 14/03/2019 11:51

OP

What happened about the pre nup that your dh was demanding? You just disappeared off that thread despite loads of helpful advice.

cardibach · 14/03/2019 11:53

Quit normal to have 'getting ready' pictures of the bride and groom (starting from the dressing room, surrounded by giggling and smiling friends and family, gentle ragging and teasing etc - precious moments) in the album captain I really don’t get this. Those moments are indeed ‘precious’ (which I assume is fancy speak for lovely memories) but I imagine they are far less likely to happen with a photographer there making everyone feel self-conscious. Just look at the two memories shared here: fag smoking and bacon butty eating. Neither would feature in a planned shoot. Just enjoy the moments and don’t worry if they are photographed or not.

GinAndTings · 14/03/2019 11:54

Plenty of mobile hairdressers about. Stick a post of facebook and ask your friends and family to share it.

MatildaTheGreat · 14/03/2019 11:56

This is my getting ready picture. It was so long again it was done in oil.

Or is this RIDICULOUS!!! - Wedding