LSS: Fdil hates our family. We are definitely the poor relations, even though we live in a lovely but modest house and work hard for every penny. She has been overheard referring to us as losers, ignores us and is generally very rude on the rare occasions that we have had any interaction, like family occasions she cannot avoid attending, although she avoids most of them if she can. We’re a normal family, not rowdy,barely drink and definitely know how to behave ! It’s fine .. I’ve done my trying and finished crying over it. I accept that we will never be friends and will remain friendly, open and civil as we always have done.
The wedding is in 2 weeks time and non of us are looking forward to it at all but will be there smiling and graceful. My problem is that although I have a beautiful dress that I considered to be elegant and formal, when I sent a photo, fdil has implied that it looks cheap ( it wasn’t at all) and that she hopes I’m wearing a hat and going to the hairdresser on the morning before the wedding because of the wedding photos. I’m so upset and hurt if I’m honest. There is absolutely nothing wrong with my hair. I cannot afford to buy a hat that I will wear only once and hadn’t really thought about it, but apparently I have to as her mum is wearing one and I will look odd and underdressed. A friend has a lovely hat I could borrow but it doesn’t go with my navy coloured dress ( it’s a green fascinator type ) I have looked on eBay, gumtree and local selling sites but can’t find anything. AIBU to just not wear one ? I am now paranoid that we will look like the poor relatives that she really thinks we are and I know I shouldn’t care, but I do.