to think that 10pm is too late to visit someone with children?

[BHANNAE]

My dh has a friend who I humour and he and his wife come to ours every monday.It started of being at 7pm but has got later and later and now is 10pm plus.They stay for 2-3hours.
I asked my dh to have a word about making it earlier and then last night he got a text saying 'its okay we know that its (insert my name) who doesn't want us to come round' The same text got sent 3 times and it was ONE in the morning.He then rang and hung up at 3am.
I am 32weeks, have a 1 and a 7 yo and my hips feel like they are on fire with the pain.At 10pm I want to be in bed.I have to be up at 7am as does dh.
I have hinted at this to his wife previously (not in a subtle way) but she goes along with her dh so no backing from her.
I feel as though I am being made to look like the baddie but I don't think I am.
AIBU to just ban them from my house now as I really can't be arsed entertaining them at midnight+ once the baby is here?
It is making me really stressed and I could not sleep last night due to him being a dickhead and texting/ringing at two hour intervals.(He rang last Sunday at midnight and I told him not to do it again as I think its bad manners-he obviously did it on purpose this week then imo)
What should I do? Today is the dreaded Monday!!!

They do sound very bizarre indeed. I must be terribly rude, I usually have no difficulty whatsoever saying something like "Well we are off to bed now so we will say good night and see you another time."

Poor you! What is your dh thinking of letting his friends treat you and the family like this, especially when you are pg. Why have these friends got to come to you? Is it because of the children? Tell your dh to be a man ...sorry, to be blunt. He needs to protect his family from these awful people. It is not right to put you through this stress when you are pg and not fair to either of you, to be kept up so late when you have an early start in the morning. To telephone at 3am and wake the children - unbelieveable!!!! These are not friends in anyones book!!

I would go to bed and leave DH to deal with it. And I'd also ask him to inform them thjat their texts at 1am were both inconsiderate and rude!

Did they come round last night?

What a pair of freaks! I hope you got rid of them sharpish last night.

My grandad used to go out the room when he had guests who had outstayed their welcome, and come back in 5 minutes later in his pyjamas whilst setting his alarm clock It dropped a rather heavy hint

blimey, they sound like awful people.
Do they really expect you to welcome them with open arms after that?
How does your dh know them?

They sound awful. My tip is switch off mobiles before going to bed, even unplug the landline.

Oohh Ladies,

Thanks for all your responses

They didn't come round last night and hopefully never will again.Was in bed with everything off as early as poss last night!

I spoke to my step-mum and she said not to even reply to the rude text or rise to the fact he was trying to make me look unreasonable. She was right-he will probably be more peturbed by the lack of response and oppotunity to get arsey.

My dh and I had a lovely night and I felt so relaxed knowing that even if they came, they weren't coming in.

He has decided (off his own back-plus I showed him your replies ) to let his friendship fizzle out with these people and I am happy with this. He only takes Monday and Tuesday night off each week atm so it will be great to spend some time together before the baby comes

Am at the hospital today for another growth scan and am confident that my bp will be normal this week lol.

Many thanks for all your replies, it really helped for my husband to see that I wasn't just being pregnant and over emotional about it.

Hurrah - a happy ending!

Excellent news

good news all round - excellent!

Brilliant, I love happy endings! I was delighted to hear your husband is helping you sort out this problem - family comes before so called friends. Good luck for the rest of the pregnancy.