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AIBU?

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Or is my Husband

65 replies

BlackbootsNC · 10/03/2019 18:30

My husband watched football today at home.

We have 2 kids under 5. Game was 4.30 to 6.30pm

Hes getting grumpy now that the kids have been noisy and in front of the TV and he only wanted 90 mins peace.

I dont begrudge him having 90 mins but what does he expect me to do with 2 kids on a wet and windy Sunday afternoon.

I said he could of gone to the pub or gone upstairs to watch it but he said no why should he.

And that I should have taken them out. I'd like to know where at 4pm on a Sunday.

So who is BU please?

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Cherrysoup · 10/03/2019 18:32

He is. As you said, he could have gone to the pub. It’s their house too, plus he’s also their parent. It’s not just you who should be looking after them.

Sh1ttySh1ttybangbang · 10/03/2019 18:33

He is. If he wanted peace to watch the football, he should have went elsewhere. My DH always watches the footie in the bedroom if he doesn’t go to the match.

iklboo · 10/03/2019 18:33

I didn't know you had to watch football in silence. The crowds at the grounds are doing it all wrong then.

mangolover · 10/03/2019 18:33

Get wireless headphones.

sendcoffee · 10/03/2019 18:38

My DH would record the match and turn off his phone (so no friends contact him with the result) and then watch it when our DS is in bed.
Or he'd watch it on the iPad in another room, coming out to play with DS during half time.

He's BU.

Willisleepeighthoursagain · 10/03/2019 18:46

In fairness, it's not much to ask if he wanted to watch Arsenal, Man U. It's a pretty big game and it's not the same recording it.

I don't know why the children couldn't play elsewhere? You could have baked with them or something? Did they need to be right in front of the tv? I can understand why he would be pissed off.

BoobiesToTheRescue · 10/03/2019 18:48

He is.

Did he expect you to hide upstairs with the kids?
Take them to the pub?

Seriously what was his answer?

BoobiesToTheRescue · 10/03/2019 18:49

You could have baked with them or something?
So that's 15-20 minutes.
And what happens with the kids while she clears up the mess?

And what about the rest of the time? Hide in the kids room? That would last 30 minutes tops.
Out in the garden in the wind and rain?
Would that suit?

sackrifice · 10/03/2019 18:50

Next time, take him at his word and just go out.

On your own. Leave the kids there.

Iltavilli · 10/03/2019 18:50

Partly depends on the layout of your home (how tricky it would be for the children to be in a different room). To be fair, everyone needs time to themselves, children or not. If this was the time he opted for, then YABU unless it’s a regular occurrence.
Also unsure why wet and windy weather means children can’t be outside.

cocomelon23 · 10/03/2019 18:51

Is he a Man U fan? He might be grumpy because they lostGrinGrin

moreismore · 10/03/2019 18:53

He is.

Out of interest what did you do with your 90mins peace?

This is why - and I’m not exaggerating - I could not have married a sports fanatic.

Merryoldgoat · 10/03/2019 18:55

He is. As you said he could’ve gone to the pub or to another room in the house.

Children those ages can’t be hemmed in like that.

Both DH and I have had some alone time today - we went upstairs.

Merryoldgoat · 10/03/2019 18:56

This is why - and I’m not exaggerating - I could not have married a sports fanatic

Likewise - the fanaticism and moods when teams lose is too much for me.

HollowTalk · 10/03/2019 18:57

So you've said, "Go to the pub!" and he's said, "Why should I?"

He's being ridiculous.

Sonicknuckles · 10/03/2019 19:01

Willisleep are you for real? What is this 1950 or something?

Cheeeeislifenow · 10/03/2019 19:06

Op you should have warned his slippers, fixed him a drink and handed him some snacks to nibble on, you should have taken your angelic cherubs and had a pre planned activity that is quiet, but not messy that lasts at least two hours, your hubby has probably had a hard week at work!

(Sarcasm) why didn't he go to the pub or elsewhere... His kids live there too.

Iloveacurry · 10/03/2019 19:09

He is.

Stompythedinosaur · 10/03/2019 19:12

He is obviously BU.

I'm also wondering whether you got 90 mins peace, or is only he entitled to that?

Original poster
BlackbootsNC · 10/03/2019 19:12

We already have been outside for nearly 3 hours this afternoon before the rain came.

I was doing things with the kids.butbwe were too loud then an half an hour towards the end they were free playing while I was doing dinner.

I'm guessing he was extra stressy because it was the ManU game.

No idea why he couldn't go to the bedroom.

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PolarBearDisguisedAsAPenguin · 10/03/2019 19:14

I can see both sides of this. Even in the rain, we still try to go out but also we will play in bedrooms or other rooms in the house. It’s only two 45 min stints for a football match and annoying as it is, DH always does the equivalent same for me. If he doesn’t do the same for you then he IBU but if he does, I think UABU.

liitlepenguin · 10/03/2019 19:14

He is. I had this yesterday with DH and the rugby

Lovingbenidorm · 10/03/2019 19:14

“Go to the pub”
“Why should I “
“Because you want to watch a football match that is of ABSOLUTELY no interest to anyone else in the family, your young children need to be entertained, fed, talked to etc.
It is pissing down outside.
I certainly don’t begrudge you your ‘me time’ and suggest you would enjoy it more away from the children with a pint in your hand”

Git

Fatted · 10/03/2019 19:16

I can't believe he didn't want to go to the pub to watch it?! DH would have jumped at the offer of that.

He does get annoyed sometimes when our kids get bored of the football being on. But he also has the sense to usually fuck off and watch it in the kitchen (whilst also making Sunday dinner Grin)

whitetoblerone · 10/03/2019 19:16

My DP also watched the game but played with our 8 month old at the same time.

He's a huge football fan but manages to multi task. Your H is being unreasonable!