To press charges against this parent?

[Rosegarden10]

I've name changed for this as obviously this is very outing.

On Friday, my child attended a school disco. Whilst they were at the school disco, another parent broke into the school and was banging on the hall doors to get in. When she couldnt access the hall she kicked the glass door and broke the window smashing the glass. The children and adults inside were terrified and they had to evacuate the children in an emergency lockdown procedure.

My child (and the majority of the other children) are now traumatised. My child doesnt want to go back to school tomorrow. The police arrived at the scene however it doesnt appear as though they arrested her as she the parent was on the parent WhatsApp group trying to justify her behaviour an hour after the incident.

Can I press charges against this woman for the trauma she has caused my child and the other children? I am so angry!!

I really think someone should “press charges” against those Y6 drama llamas who said it was a terrorist attack. We need to know that they are being suitably punished for what they did, banned from school and of course removed from any WhatsApp groups

When we have a disco at school, first it's KS1 and then later KS2.

I said this earlier, a disco for ages 4-11 is very unusual.

No and if you were a responsible parent you would help your child through this ‘tramua’ By talking it out, making the child see it’s not normal behaviour but things happen in life and they need to get on. Otherwise how will it cope when life gets tougher as they get older

@gamerwidow yes I totally agree. I can't imagine why anyone wouldn't be pissed off if their child came home frightened because a grown adult was banging on school doors, shouting and behaving in a threatening and aggressive manner.

OP, you are being absolutely ridiculous. As is the school for locking a door that would be a main escape route if there was a fire. That's what you should be complaining about.

*So what if the woman has mh issues - I do but I would never break the glass in a school with a school hall full of children!

Her behaviour is inexcusable whatever her reason!*

Actually, if this woman has MH issues, that is the one thing that would make her behaviour excusable. That's why diminished responsibility is a legal defence. Mental illness used to be known as "loss of reason", precisely because it can prevent sufferers from acting reasonably.

If you were in America I would understand the reactions of the kids due to the huge numbers of school shootings. Over here, not so much.

Blimey! Some of the responses! I'm not surprised they were terrified, and although children might be aware of the threat of a terror attack, they don't know what form it might take so it's completely understandable some of the older ones thought it was and then it escalated from there.
I'd have been bloody traumatised myself.

Of course it is remarkable behaviour. But seeing X's mum through the glass getting shitty and then breaking it sign something that should be blown into a traumatic potential terrorist incident. "Wasn't she an angry lady, that's not the way to behave is it, good job the teachers know what to do in that situation, it must have been a big shock for you" etc etc.

I run school discos all the time during the disco parents are locked out the building for security so we can keep track of who is coming and going. All children have to be signed in and out. If you banged on the door you’d be told to go away until the disco has ended.

A school disco for the whole primary is not uncommon in rural areas! My child's sch does this as the school has only 100 or so pupils

Ps it’s not a fire risk there are 5 fire exits into the playground from the hall.

You want her brought to trail?!
Lay of the crime dramas for a while OP

That is the dictionary definition of press charges. So all you fuckwits who think I want to sue for money - learn what press charges means

Says the person who had to ask if they could press charges

Why do incidents like this often get blamed on mental health issues? I feel that it gives those with genuine mental health problems a bad name.

I'm a bit shock that a primary age child should suspect a terrorist attack when an angry shouty woman bashes on a glass door and breaks it.
What have these children been allowed to watch on tv?

my thoughts precisely.

Any parent would be massively pissed off, but the OP is ridiculously over reacting, maybe because she was scared herself and pictured a terrorist attack which is every parent's fear. That's understandable, but what isn't is to fuel the kids upset.

Chill out OP, or at least pretend you are. There's no need for a child to be scared to go back to school because someone smashed a window.
It's not about you, it's about your child not being traumatised when there's no need to be.

I you can’t press charges.

I suggest you descalate this situation by talking to your child about accidents. It was not a lock down it was an ‘accident’ and the glass will be repaired and all is fine in the world.

You are feeding the drama. Stop.

It is far nore likely that the mother broke the glass by accident, rather than intentionally and is probably mortified. If the police had suspected she deliberately did this to the window, she would have been charged with criminal damage, but she wasn’t. So lay off the drama and tell your child the poor mother made a mistake fgs.

Right, assuming this is genuine which let’s face it doesn’t look likely, how would bringing this woman “to trial” assist your children?

You’re far better helping them through it by turning the way it was dealt with into a positive.

Fuckwits? Nice.
What crime?
You’re angry that your child was upset. I can understand that. This was completely unacceptable behaviour from the parent. But no crime was committed against your child. And instead of seeking to reassure them that they weren’t in danger (and this woman was being silly and behaving in a daft way) you seem to want her locked up and the key thrown away.

If you could confirm a crime it would be helpful.
It wasn't your door/glass. You can't prove trauma. The school isn't backing you up.

No need to swear so much, it doesn't help you look rational.

I think it would have been scary for the children but your attitude on here is ridiculous. I can feel the aggression from here, the sheer number of exclamation marks is unsettling in itself

Nobodies minimizing it gamerwidow just pointing out the Op.can't press charges ,it's up to the police to investigate it and whilst lt ,s obviously upsetting for the kids ,they will.get over , I don't think anyone is suggesting it's unremarkable behaviour .

Agree with gamer widow. Have people missed that she was threatening to kill the head teacher? This could potentially have been the start of something very nasty, clearly it didn't happen but I'm not surprised that the kids were terrified. I agree suing her is counter productive but all the people telling the op she's over dramatising it are competing at being underwhelmed if you ask me.

Why do incidents like this often get blamed on mental health issues? I feel that it gives those with genuine mental health problems a bad name.

Because quite often to behave so totally out of realm of ordinary means some sort of disordered thinking. Doesn't lessen what she did, but is just a way of trying to understand her motivation.