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AIBU?

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To banish DP from the bedroom until he gets his feet sorted..

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Februaryblooms · 09/03/2019 00:19

DP is not an unhygenic person in general and showers every single day without fail, the problem is his feet. They are rancid. Even after he washes and puts on fresh socks they stink. The smell does not go away and it's extremely difficult to live with. It has been this way for the past 18 months and I've had enough of it after repeatedly telling him he needs to have whatever it is treated.

He's on his feet constantly with work but has accepted there must be a fungal infection causing the problem. He refuses to see the GP because "it's embarrassing" and hasn't bothered buying anything for it himself so continues to inflict it on me and poor DS. I'm at the end of my tether.

He tries to 'manage' it at home by constantly changing his socks, buying new ones, doing several wash loads per week of just his socks and washing himself religiously every day which makes no difference whatsoever. He refuses to talk to a pharmacist or GP at all.

AIBU to ban him from sleeping in the bed until he sorts his bloody feet. I can't stomach it any more

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Februaryblooms · 09/03/2019 13:23

I'm not sure if it's athletes foot or a fungal infection or goodness knows whatever else to be honest. He thinks there's something 'wrong' with them though and puts it down to years of manual labour and being on them for most of the day/night.

Visually they look ok(ish) he doesn't have black toenails or welts or anything else. The one thing he does have is that the skin underneath the soles and toes look considerably more red than the rest of the foot.

Dead skin may well be a factor.

I'm going to show him the video that was linked now.

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GummyGoddess · 09/03/2019 13:29

Op, what if it spreads to YOUR feet and groin from the bedding? Does he want to inflict this on you or his children?

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Februaryblooms · 09/03/2019 13:35

He won't be coming back into the bed until he's had it seen to and I've told him that.

He's just watched the video linked earlier and said he thinks that's what it is, hyperhidrosis. His don't look as bad as the woman's in the video but what she said about her feet rotting her shoes and always feeling damp, he can relate to.

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Februaryblooms · 09/03/2019 13:36

I was changing the bedding religiously every couple of days because I was getting sick of smelling his feet in the bedroom and didn't want the bacteria transferring into the sheets

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Whatsnewpussyhat · 09/03/2019 15:25

Do you have a spare bed though? The thought of stinky feet making a sofa smell is gross too.

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Februaryblooms · 09/03/2019 18:32

No spare bed but fortunately our sofa isn't fabric so I can give it a quick wipe down

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Graphista · 09/03/2019 19:51

Pic attached is very extreme but a shock might be what he needs!

DON'T do footner with this that's asking for trouble. Will likely lead to open wounds in an already affected area and risking far worse consequences.

"Do you have GPs that do house visits?" Are you even in the U.K.? My dads bed bound and on oxygen and he doesn't get house calls! Gp's now very rarely do them. They CERTAINLY won't for an otherwise fit healthy adult capable of getting to gp who may not even agree to see the dr!

My gp surgery has it that patients can go to Chiropody direct without need of a GP referral, but this is a recent development, many surgeries still require that patients get a referral (ridiculous in my opinion and means patients having to use up GP appointment time unnecessarily)

"The one thing he does have is that the skin underneath the soles and toes look considerably more red than the rest of the foot." That's indicative (foot experts your thoughts?) of possible circulatory issues - that's serious! No more pissing about he is SERIOUSLY risking his health potentially even his life. Not even remotely kidding.

legolimb · 09/03/2019 20:02

Gross.

He is being very stubborn. I would be so embarrassed if I had the reputation for having smelly feet.

Ban him from the bed. You don't want to catch it. Make him wear slippers in the house too.

I hope that image of the rotting feet will scare him into action.

cestlavielife · 09/03/2019 20:23

A private chiropodist will do a house visit if you a spare 100 or so .

Google private chiropodist locally and book them to come when you know dh is home

k1233 · 10/03/2019 00:29

No I'm not in the UK and we have multiple GPs that do home visits out of hours. Found out about that after cutting my fingernail in half, vertically, while preparing lunch for work. Waited for surgery to open (as it was obviously not an emergency) and they gave me a few numbers for places that do home visits out of hours - which are now stuck to the fridge as I'm accident prone...

PiebaldHamster · 10/03/2019 00:39

K, well, this is the UK. Make a pallet on the floor. Buy a lilo. I have no idea how you've stood this for so long, that's ridiculous. I'm amazed his line manager hasn't brought it up because if I were his colleague, I'd have complained.

Just kick him out of the bedroom until he sees a doctor. That's vile.

PiebaldHamster · 10/03/2019 00:41

I'd have kicked him onto a lilo long ago.

tablelegs · 10/03/2019 01:35

Hibiscrub from boots will sort his feet out.

Unfortunately I have a hyperhydrosis in my feet which makes them really bad so I'm wondering if your husband has the same.

Hibiscrub works for me.

myhamsteratefreddiestarr · 10/03/2019 01:51

OP, I had athletes foot which spread to the sole of my foot, it was horrible, so itchy. I bought a Lamisil spray, around £6 for a tiny bottle but it cleared it up within a week.

He is really being pathetic though by not going to the doctor.

FiddleFaddleDingDong · 10/03/2019 01:58

He snores and refuses to do anything about it
He has rancid trotters and refuse to do anything about it

The problem isn't his stinking feet.

WhatchaMaCalllit · 16/03/2019 14:21

It's been a week since you posted this OP - has your DH done anything about his feet yet?

Anotherpod88 · 29/07/2019 16:58

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user1480880826 · 29/07/2019 17:01

He doesn’t need to see a GP, he just needs some anti-fungal cream from the pharmacist. If he’s too embarrassed (lazy) to do it himself just do it for him. You’ll be waiting the rest of your life for him to sort it out himself by the sounds of it.

JemimaPuddlePeacock · 29/07/2019 17:01

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Podwoman888 · 31/07/2019 07:07

He needs to see a Chiropodist/Podiatrist for specialist advice and treatment.
It could be a condition called 'bromidrosis' that is quite troubling but needs to be seriously addressed.

Sparklingbrook · 31/07/2019 08:05

Four months has passed. I hope he's managed to sort it out.

Hopoindown31 · 31/07/2019 08:11

I know he is showering but is he actually washing and drying his feet properly? Without that he is just going to keep get fungal infections even if he successfully treats.

SoundsAboutRight · 31/07/2019 08:39

@Anotherpod88 How on earth did you find this thread to even post on? It's FOUR months ago.

Although I've read it and would really like to know the outcome now...

@Februaryblooms any update please?!

SuzieQQQ · 31/07/2019 08:51

He’s a pathetic man child. Tell him to grow the fuck up. You pushed a baby out of your vagina. He can sort out his feet surely

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