To not want to call DH a different name...

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Name changed as this is outing.
I think DH has lost the plot. Last night he told me for some time he has been considering changing his name. He would like something more formal. His (current?) name is traditionally a nickname and there is no more formal equivalent. He was a musician but is training to be a secondary teacher this year. I love his name, and can’t imagine calling him something else but if it’s his name...

My friends sister changed her name. Everyone outside the family calls her this new name- think new age and whacky- but her sisters and parents still call her the shorterned version of her original name (think Jenny from Jennifer).

Let him change his name.

Let him?? Does an adult need permission to make a decision about something that is personal to him?

Good for him. I think it’s ridiculous that people get saddled with names they hate for life.

Oh, I see- lets guess his name then:

Spike, Sonny, Jock, Rocky, Scout, Ziggy, Buster, Buddy, Lucky, Shady, Gizmo, Gus, Rusty, Iggy, Jed, Mac, Rex, Mungo, Stig, Woody,

Why do they all sound like something I could name a dog? May your DH is right- a more formal name might be handy when applying for jobs etc. You can still call him his original name at home.

My Dad did something similar. He was in the army and everyone called him Ned. When he left and took up a position at a university, he adopted his birth certificate name of Edward. His family have always called him the Irish version of his name, Eamonn, and when he went on to do a lot of work with American folk, he adopted the name Ed. So when we see people, we can tell immediately where people know him from!! My Mum still calls him the name she knew him as when she met him.

Op does he not have a middle name he can use ?
Also would help to know his name !

I know someone who did this.

He suddenly decided his name was not 'posh' enough.

Complete twat.

Is the suspense of not knowing this name, absolutely torturing anyone else??

No helpful advice, I just want to know the name!!!!

I'm guessing his nick type name is Paddy with the correct version being Patrick.

HIS NAME ISN'T THE SHORTENED VERSION OF ANOTHER NAME!!

Does he have a middle name he would prefer to use?

Well, it's his name and he'd like to have it changed so I think it would be massively petty to refuse to use it if he gets it changed.

Well, if he wants to be a teacher that will look really suss on his DBS check.

Why not. I have a very "formal" old fashioned christian name, but every one knows me by a totally different and much shorter name. If he wants to change it let him.

But the kids and parents and other teachers will call him Mr Surname anyway.

We all refer to each other at school as Mrs this and Mr that.

So I don't know how that would affect teaching

Why must you call him what his work name is?

OH MY GOODNESS IM SORRY!!!

BeachtheButler only if he doesn't declare the change- after all they cope just fine with women changing their names.

Dh's parents are the only ones who call him his given name. The name he is most commonly called is a shortened version of his given name, his university friends call him something different (completely unrelated to his actual name), and I call him something different as well. He's still the same bloke.
Why if he changed his name would you need to call him something different? I mean, he could tell his new colleagues etc his new name, but if it were me I'd still call him the old one. If it's questioned (doubtful, can't remember anyone quizzing dh about his many guises), just say it's a pet name.

YOU'RE FORGIVEN

How often do you actually need to say his name? My husband is known by his initials, only his parents and their friends using the shortened form of his given name, which he hates. I loathe using his initials, but they are his choice so that is what I call him (except when I call him his user name from the cycling forum on which we met, which I prefer). But I only actually use his name about twice a month I reckon, so it's not a huge thing.

It will cause issues with his clearance checks, if he hasn't thought that through yet

@ChesterGreySideboard I know a couple who called their kid Spike. It fits them well as a family unit but I do feel a bit sorry for him when he's older and ever applying for more down to earth employment instead of a rockstar or something. His CV with that name wont get through many hiring managers primary sifting stages

My DH has a nickname based on his surname which I use as do most of his friends. Like a PP's DH he also has a nickname from a sports club. His family use his awful proper name as do his current colleagues as his boss knew him from school pre-nickname.

My Mum had two hideous names and grew up being called by her middle name. When she left home she changed it to something completely different (and lovely). My dad and his brother called her a derivative of her new name. Not at all confusing!

I work with a lady called Jan, not short for anything like Janet or Janice and she’s doing very well for herself My Mum had a friend called Jan, just Jan. Turned out her full moniker was "Lady January Lemon"!

Oh wow @DontCallMeCharlotte I love that name. I might change mine 🙂🙂🙂
I have a friend called Lady Rose (officially). Just goes with Rose.

I didn’t think you could use things like Lady or Lord as a name.

My proper name is a shortened version of a name. It was very unusual to do that when I was born. Much less so now. Every child seems to be an Alfie, Lexie or Freddie.