Is mumsnet aimed at rich families ?

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I’ve seen quite a lot of threads on here where families seem to have a huge amount of disposable income .
Im a single parent without a huge amount and wondering if I am in the minority on here ?
I’ve noticed there seems to be more people with lower incomes on netmums ? Am I generalising or have others noticed this also

I don't believe that intelligence and class or educational achievement are related, but some people can (usually via intelligence, whether emotional or intellectual) fit/shift more fluidly than others between classes. Some people have charm; it's a really rare gift, and it transcends the usual boundaries. But it's very rare.

We're all Yummy Mummies with Chelsea Tractors and 'OK yah' accents, not a single bit of diversity to be had anywhere.

It's what makes one competent actor a movie star and leaves others unemployed. Not sheer physical beauty, which helps. It's star quality. You can't learn it, only a facsimile of it.

Not read all the thread yet but had to post:

**05/03/2019 16:11 Blackcatonthebed

“I could type that I have a fab career earning Shit loads, married to a man who equally earns Shit loads ( with an unmentionable hobby of course ) have kids at private schools and I live in a five bedroom, four bathroomed detached house in a rural area ( cleaner and au pair optional) where I have my £150 weekly waitrose shop delivered to.
It doesn't make it a fact.”

I can says yes to all the above except my Waitrose shop is over £150 a week and theres no unmentionable hobby for DH. And we have more than 5 bedrooms**

Please tell me you were being ironic? Why did you feel the need to share that in relation to this thread was it to prove it's true? Bizarre smugness.

As it happens I think there's a wide mix.

But there is a total obsession with Class and , as already mentioned , a bit of a condescending attitude to grammar errors which probably put some off.

But there does seem to be a slighter higher percentage on here of women who married straight out of University and have never ever worked a day in their life, due to well paid husbands.

They seem to slightly look down on any low level job as if they think an amazing job more suited to them is going to land on their lap. Or they just continue off and on studying forever and fail to see how looking down on a single mum on benefits is rather hypocritical.

Of course, as this is about the wealth of MNetters compared to UK averages, then it's anecdotal. My family is comfortably middling, by education and income, but will soon be retired, so managing on less money.

Does it matter how many of the posters are middle class, working class or upper class Who defines what constitutes middle class anyway? Definitely lower end of the income here but some might think my interests are middle class: theatre, book club, dinner and debate with friends, cinema, walking. Which, if any of these are middle class? Who decides.

I like mumsnet because we can hear and discuss a huge range of views on a massive range of subjects without prejudging the 'type' of person speaking. I might be middle,upper or working class. I might speak with a regional or RP accent, I might be a woman of colour ...or not. I might be well educated in a conventional sense ...or notl Do we sometimes evaluate the worth of what people say according to how we 'see' them? The great thing about Mumsnet is that we can only listen and respond to what a person posts. We can't make judgements based on how a poster looks/sounds/likely 'class'/or what she or he wears. Where else in life can we engage with a wide range of people and take them at face value without the usual 'signage' which can influence how we respond to others. This, for me, is Mumsnet's greatest strength.

Perfect post, *shiningstar, You've summed it up for me. It's all about ideas and interests, whether babies or your ageing parents' gradual/precipitous decline.

And how to cope with either.

Some daft comment do piss me off sometimes. Like a comment I saw a while back, “who buys their own kid just one Bday present?”

I don't think that has anything to do with money though. Except for that inverse thing where the middle classes spend less at Christmas than the working class (which I'm not entirely sure about TBH eyes Islabike that DD got for Christmas). But I was very aware as a child that my friend with a small extended family got more from her Mum at Christmas than I did. But I got about 10 presents from various family members whereas she just got from her Mum so who got more? And can you see why my parents didn't need to buy us lots?

Talking about comparing NM and MN, I think it'd be really interesting to post a random thing on here, then the same on Netmums and compare the responses. (I won't because I wouldn't want to be accused of being hairy handed) For example - posting about a row with your DH over how much they do around the house or with the children, or an annoying MIL, something we see in AIBU or relationships a lot.

I would bet on Netmums this get 99% responses for the OP, along the lines of 'oh wow that's awful hun, are you ok?'. On here, I imagine, they'd be a bit of that but also many more balanced views. What was your part in the row, has DH been out at work for 60 hours this week, have you been being a cow to MIL and she's just retaliated? That sort of thing. I believe this forum has a far more varied and diverse set of posters. Regardless of income or class, the majority of people on here just seem smarter and more thoughtful to me.

That's why I prefer MN. You don't just exist in an echo chamber. I prefer the bluntly honest responses to the pandering. Of course there's some nonsense and goady bollocks but there will always be posters that actually make you think about things from a perspective other than your own.

Was anyone ever on Bounty when that had a forum? I was briefly and then joined a FB birth group formed from there with my first baby a few years ago. It was like NM XXL, and I hate to say it but I came across some of the most poorly educated and generally ignorant about the world (but nice!) people. I left when they all started calling GOSH doctors murderers for taking poor Charlie Gard's parents to court and joined 'the army'. The level of ignorance was astonishing.