Do I make DD 6yrs old continue swimming lessons when she doesn't want to go

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Dilemma - MIL told me my DD doesn't want to continue with swimming lessons and only goes because I want her too. MIL really upset me as she made me feel terrible for wanting daughter to do this. She asked me what I am so scared of! I just want DD to be competent, I feel MIL is manipulating her own GD just because the lesson (30mins) encroaches on her time with her GD overnight stay with her. She thinks I should take her and teach her myself every few weeks. I think lessons make DD concentrate better. Don't know what to do.

Swimming is a life skill and your mil is being selfish.

I can't swim and it's been difficult my entire life. Not just bc i couldn't join friends, but bc i am awkward around it.

Bc my dh is a fish, (more comfortable in water than out), i put dc in baby and me swim classes right through to lifeguard.

They love water! My ds told me recently that he loved swim classes so much at your dc's age that he couldn't sleep the night before.

Swimming classes are more than learning to swim. They also have water safety lessons. Life saving skills.

Don't listen to your mil. Please, don't listen.

Afterall, if your dc really hated it, wouldn't they tell you? Mine didn't tell me how much they loved the classes but certainly told me they hated others!

Does your MIL take her swimming then? If so rearrange so you take her and have Nanny time another day.

Ds at two or three would scream no no no every time we went but I persevered, held him in lessons and went socially. He's now swimming at county level so can't have scared him too much.

Another thing to think about is when her school friends start to have swim parties. For my 3 they were quite common around the ages 8-12. It was quite hard on the (very few) children that couldn't swim, or swim well enough to be allowed into the area of the pool where all the fun stuff was.