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Man attempts to bully me out of parking space

125 replies

RelaisBlu · 03/03/2019 13:11

There was a parking bay with room for 5 or 6 cars and the last 2 spaces at one end were free so I took the end space. I moved back & forth to make sure I was within the white lines and right up against the end line to give maximum room to anyone parking behind. Whilst I was doing this a man in a Range Rover began to nose aggressively towards me at the end of the bay, as if to force me back into the space behind so that he could take the end space. I stayed firmly in the end space and turned my engine off whereupon he got out and came round to my window. I wound the window down and he asked me to move up. I refused and said I preferred the end space. He rolled his eyes, returned to his car and parked behind. I should also mention there were other spaces available, on the opposite side of the road and further down.

Was I unreasonable? Neither of us raised our voice but his whole manner was entitled and I really resented the initial edging forward. I would never do that - I would hold back, let the driver choose their space and take the one that was left.

When I was younger I would have felt obliged to do as he asked, just because he wanted me to. Not any more.

I also felt certain that if I'd been a man, he would not have behaved like that, which also made me determined to stand my ground.

OP posts:
grumiosmum · 03/03/2019 13:46

I would have told him to fuck off with his gas-guzzling, climate-change inducing wankmobile.

And asked him if he had a small penis.

nicenewdusters · 03/03/2019 13:48

Rude lazy man in large car hassles woman in car to "move over" to suit himself.

You parked perfectly legally. You did nothing wrong. If somebody politely said to me excuse me, I'm not very confident at parking, could you possibly move forward? Absolutely, I'd do it without hesitating. In the situation you describe, no way.

I also agree he probably wouldn't have hassled you if you'd been a man.

Scabetty · 03/03/2019 13:48

Jeez, you were parked, he can sort himself out. Why do I have to think if everyone else coming after me when I park? If they can’t get their car in a space then they drive on or learn to park. Big cars and crap drivers are f’in annoying.

HeadfirstForHalos · 03/03/2019 13:50

The OP has said in a couple of posts including the original post that there were plenty of other spaces. Its first come first served and if someone struggles to park a large car , get a smaller one.

Drogosnextwife · 03/03/2019 13:51

I would have told him if he can park his car in a space properly he should get a smaller car. Entitled twat.

Hillarious · 03/03/2019 13:51

Parked perfectly legally, if somewhat selfishly. I think the fact that the person wanting the OP to move up was a man in a Range Rover is a red herring.

Pumperthepumper · 03/03/2019 13:51

You should have offered to park his car for him, he probably struggles to drive it if he needs very specific spaces to park it himself.

DramaAlpaca · 03/03/2019 13:51

Good for you standing up to him, OP. I'd have done exactly the same.

Rubusfruticosus · 03/03/2019 13:52

He was probably edging forward as he expected that you would move up, that would have been the polite thing to do.

WarpedGalaxy · 03/03/2019 13:52

6 of 1, half dozen of the other. Yes, he was acting entitled especially as there was another end space he could have taken but you were being annoying taking the end space when it was no effort for you to have pulled forward and more courteous to have done so to negate the need for another driver (not just him) not to have to parallel park between two vehicles.

RestingBitchFaced · 03/03/2019 13:53

I'm amazed some people are saying you should have taken the next space not the end one! I will always choose an end space. If i can have another car only on one side, instead of both, there is less chance of my car being damaged by their doors hitting mine. He was rude

nicenewdusters · 03/03/2019 13:53

I should add the size of the fuck I give for people trying to park ridiculously large cars is about 0.0000000000000000000000001 %

howabout · 03/03/2019 13:54

YANBU
I also park as you do to avoid being blocked in by idiot 4x4 drivers. In fairness it is an equal number of men and women who can't drive said vehicles who give me the evil eye for doing so.

Its first come first served and if someone struggles to park a large car , get a smaller one.

nicenewdusters · 03/03/2019 13:56

I don't think "man in a Range Rover" is a red herring. I can't recall the last time I was cut up, tail gated, tooted at, or intimidated by a woman over 40 in a reasonably small older car.

HeadfirstForHalos · 03/03/2019 13:57

OP was not parked selfishly. She wasn't taking up 2 bays, or blocking anyone in. She picked a space and parked . There were plenty of other spaces available, which is stated in the OP, not just the 2 initially mentioned.

Ali1cedowntherabbithole · 03/03/2019 13:58

In that case I judge you are not unreasonable OP Grin

HeavensNoHellYeah · 03/03/2019 14:03

YANBU. If he can't park his car he needs to rethink his choice in vehicle. My ex can park a 3.5t horsebox in a space like that.

PiebaldHamster · 03/03/2019 14:06

YANBU. What kind of twat asks someone to move? Fuck him. 'Could you move up?' 'Nope. I like the end space.' If he can't pack his big tank that's his lookout.

Papillon45 · 03/03/2019 14:11

YANBU well done for standing up to him. I hate it when people (in my experience usually men in big or fancy cars) try and intimidate you into moving. If he finds it so hard to park his massive vehicle maybe he should have bought something smaller

cupofteaandcake · 03/03/2019 14:13

There are no parking rules other than you park where you want to (obvs not in disabled or P&C spaces), I always park where it's easiest for me. I too alway choose 'end' spaces where I can and park up to the line as it protects the car more.

He was indeed entitled and rude and I don't believe he would have done it to a man although we'll never know....

pepperpot99 · 03/03/2019 14:14

I would never have opened my window to engage. That's where you went wrong OP. plus don't forget all drivers of range rovers are entitled twats.

Dervel · 03/03/2019 14:15

I’d be inclined to put this song on and turn it up....

PiebaldHamster · 03/03/2019 14:15

I wouldn't have rolled down my window, either, cup, and yy, bet you he never would have done that to a man.

Pinkbells · 03/03/2019 14:22

You were doing nothing wrong, you can choose whatever space you want! I had a run in with a Range Rover driver as well recently - I parked next to it, dead centre in the middle of my parking bay in my average sized car (the only space left in the car park and I had my elderly mum to drop off who can't walk far) and the twat whose car it was said they couldn't get their door open (a normal person would, only they were oversized like their bus). Not my fault, go complain to the people who design the car park spaces or lose weight! Hmm

nicenewdusters · 03/03/2019 14:22

Dervel I love that video ! "My fuck fuse has just blown." I shall be stealing that one.

Strange video though. What was the set up? An afternoon's banjo playing with song by an Edwardian looking man in a gentleman's outfitters ? Oh, and if you're in the audience you have to wear the same colour clothes as are in the shop ? Brilliant.