Teachers said my DD didn't have enough to eat

[StoppinBy]

First off I think I am BU at how much I let this upset me for personal reasons but I am seeking clarification on whether I actually do send her enough.

When I picked up DD6 the teacher in charge at the time said to me that one of DD's teachers had said that I wasn't sending enough for her to eat, yesterday she had :

A vegemite sandwich, two cherry tomatoes, an apple, a chunk of cheese cut off the block and a big handful of nuts, she brought home a cherry tomato, some of her crust and some of her nuts .

The reasoning behind saying she didn't have enough food was that she had eaten her sandwich and a tomato and her cheese at 'snack time' - 11am and then had her nuts and apple at lunch - 1pm. Apparently she often does this.

We usually have lunch at 11:30 - 12 at home to fit around DS's naps so personally I can't see the issue with how she ate and I feel that if she was actually hungry that she would eat everything in her lunch box but she regularly brings stuff home.

AIBU to think that she does have enough food and that the teachers are actually wrong or do most kids eat more than that?

@mathanxiety you're obsessed, not sure what your issue is but this child is NOT starving. You're either one of those teachers that must be obeyed at all costs, because you're a teacher so you must be right or you've got issues with food. Either way, those photos are not the photos of a child that's being neglected or starved. Get over yourself and look at what's being sent!

Cherry tomatoes are the size zero of thumbnails, yes that's right, so they don't count as food?

Ignore that poster, she’s lost it in recent years 🙄

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Who on earth sends in more food when whats being sent already isn't being finished..in fact as far as the sandwich goes I dont even give my Kids a whole one. Id have sent half.

If they decided when they got to school they didnt want what they picked then they'd go hungry. Like hell would I pander to pickiness and flakiness and send in other stuff just in case.

I dont run a restraunt and neither does OP.

ignore the people who do not know you or your child
you know her eating habits and her appetite, so stick with what you are doing now, no need to pack 10 pounds of food in her lunch box if she wont eat it
and as she helps select what goes in then she would tell you if she wanted more, mine packs his and takes the exact amount he requires, he wont take more no matter how many things i offer, so dont let doubt creep in you know your child

@Maths

At our house crusts are a part of the sandwich, if you make a sandwich you eat the crusts, I make no apology for that at all, she does not always bring home that many crusts, yesterday it was half a sandwich, other two parts eaten fully.

You have the proof right in front of you that she's not going hungry, you are just having trouble bowing out gracefully, that's fine by me, someone who can't admit they are wrong when it's black and white is no skin off my nose.

Anywho, you continue to feed your children (assuming you have any) what you wish and I will continue to feed mine as I already do, take care, all the best, StoppinBy.

StoppinBy - that lunch looks plenty big enough for a six year old! The suncream doesn't look very appetising, though.

@StoppinBy why not send her to school with an esky full of food choices?

I’m amazed you can send nuts! Banned at our school —and no one has a nut allergy—

I've read bits of this thread over the last few days. It's crazy that's a perfectly fine child's lunch has generated 15 pages of posts. Didn't the teacher say there wasn't a problem? Anyway just to add, I don't know if anyone else has mentioned it as I've only read bits, but the only thing I'd change is that I'd cut the cherry tomatoes in half due to some rare but terrible outcomes of people choking on them.

@eyesareneverclosing I completely understand what you are saying (and only stopped cutting up my DD's grapes this year much to the amusement of relatives) but I have given up with the toms as we have them in the garden and the kids just pick them and eat them straight from the bush.

I do appreciate that being mentioned though as some people might not realise that they are a choking hazard, thank you

@walkaround lol, nah it tastes pretty crap actually, speaking from experience of accidently getting it in my mouth while sunscreening the kids haha.

If I don't put it there she forgets to put it on and much as I try to enforce sun safety when my back is turned playing is more important than avoiding skin cancer to DD6 lol.

math you are properly tying yourself in knots to prove yourself right here.
You're not right.
The OP's DD does not need another sandwich. She eats her lunchtime sandwich at breaktime, which is the same time as lunch in other primary schools. She eats what she wants to, when she wants to. She's FINE.

I completely understand what you are saying (and only stopped cutting up my DD's grapes this year much to the amusement of relatives)

I was pretty sure you would be aware but though I'd just mention it. I have relatives and friends who roll their eyes and are amused by it. I think figures show that more adults actually die from choking than children so it annoys me when people try to say we are 'babying' children by cutting up things like grapes and small tomatoes. I think they are probably more at risk when at school because they are chatting, laughing and possibly messing about whilst eating. Anyway, I'll shut up now.

@eyesareneverclosing Marshmallows are also a big one because if they do choke on them they mold to the shape of the trachea and you can't get them out.... Marshmallows are not allowed in our house and if we are visiting someone who has them out for a party I have no shame in making sure the kids can't reach them, despite the weird looks lol.

Thanks again for the mention

Grapes - when my DS1 was very small, I used to cut them in half for him. One day he managed to get one stuck side on (brilliant move, kid! ) and nearly choked on it - so from then on oI cut them in 1/4s. I know people thought I was over-protective and super paranoid, but I'd rather be that than have him actually choke.
Marshmallows - neither kid allowed anywhere near them until at least 4 and DEFINITELY not allowed to play the "cram as many into your mouth as you can" game which is absolutely idiotic.

Cherry tomatoes are the size zero of thumbnails, yes that's right, so they don't count as food?

They are food of course.

But counting them as part of 'six items' and arguing that therefore enough food is being sent is pushing it a bit.

@mathanxiety for gods sake! Have you seen the child's lunch box? It's fine, it's full and it's got items returned uneaten. I agree with OP leave the crusts, they are part of the sandwich, the child will eventually eat then or you get adults who still won't eat crusts.

When mine were small they'd go off peas or corn or something, I always put it on their plates and say leave what you don't want. Eventually they would just randomly eat them!

You are not going to convince anyone that OP is neglecting or starving her child because she's not...........look at the facts.

Yes cherry toms are a food item and yes they all count, or do you have bizarre size of food before it "counts", do share your knowledge.

...the child will eventually eat then or you get adults who still won't eat crusts.

I have yet to meet a single adult who won't eat crusts, and if there are such people about, so what? Are crusts the fountain of youth? Do they really give you curly hair?

It looks to me as if the DD ate the middle of the sandwich only. What a pity to stand on principle here wrt crusts when trimming them might mean the DD could enjoy the majority of the bread and filling. It's also a pity to stand on principle and refuse to send an extra sandwich but heyho...

You are counting two cherry tomatoes as part of a 'six items' list that is offered as proof that enough food is sent. There are approximately 3 calories per cherry tomato.

@mathanxiety THE CHILD IS NOT BEING STARVED OR NEGLECTED!

If you want to help starved and neglected children then you can, sadly plenty exist!

You can answer this again and argue and argue about crusts, cherry tomatoes and problems that don't exist (except in your mind), you'll then have the last word (although it's wrong), the OP will not be sending another sandwich. You've won nothing. But I won't answer you again.

Invest some of your time helping children who are starving?

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It might help you to move on from this post if I tell you that last night I read out some of your posts (along wth some of the delightful posts that I recalled from knee) and that we had a few minutes if fun mocking you.

You are being ridiculous and in no way do I care about your opinion, you are making yourself look extremely silly in front of a fairly large audience for no reason whatsoever.

My DD is not hungry, neither is my son and no matter what some stranger on the internet says I will send her sandwich with crusts on, sometimes she chooses to eat the whole piece before moving on to the next, sometimes she doesn't, she is 6, not a baby and this is her decision.

We all make our choices, personally I would never feed my children Nutella on toast at night when they had not eaten anything since about 4pm and that would be their final meal before 7:30am the following night but again that is your choice and not something I would harp on about to you..... maybe you could follow suit?

My husband is a grown-arsed man who won't eat crusts.
I find this hilarious, as do our 2 sons - but he still won't eat the crusts (the rest of us eat crusts)

Oh, sorry, that should say I read them out to my DH, clearly I wouldn't read such stupidity out to my children.

*had not eaten anything since about 4pm and that would be their final meal before 7:30am the following night**

clearly that should read as 7:30am the following day

Seems a plentiful and nutritious lunch to me. If it was not enough your child would polish off every bite crusts and all. Is it possible the teacher only say what was left of her lunch box at lunch time so assumed she was only getting the nuts and apple?

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