Is this a red flag?

[minian]

DP has made comments about outfit choices in the past. I've argued with him about it before (he uses the word 'slut' and says other comments) but he never really changes.

I'm out at the weekend and my friend helped me choose an outfit. It's a bit out of my comfort zone but I really like it and have wanted to wear it for ages.

I mentioned to my mum that I was going to bring a spare jumper or something because DP would most likely start a fight if I got home wearing it. I've attached a picture. DM has seen the outfit, said it was really cute and that it was such a red flag that that's my mindset about him.

He's told me before that the only reason past guys have slept with me is what I'm wearing (on nights out where I've been covered up but in a mesh top).

I've attached a picture that's most alike to the outfit.

Yes it's a red flag but not sure on the outfit Much like if I saw this guy at the bus stop I would think it rather odd.

Listen to your Mam, she knows all sorts, and (with respect) you're still on the younger side of things, so perhaps haven't had the experience with relationships to know what's acceptable, and what's not. You can still Co parent effectively, but not be together, should you choose to split.
The outfit is lovely (I know you didn't ask!) and if you feel confident in it, then go for it! You're young, your body is the best it's ever going to be, and you're allowed to have fun experimenting with fashion, without your P giving you shit over it.

@migi, yes , But it’s layered with stretched skin after an almost 12lb DD growing outside of my stomach cavity. I looked ready to pop at 5 months pregnant. All the bio oil and cream in the world couldn’t help it.
So, the OP should make the most of it. You never know how life turns out.

Red flag

Wear what you want to wear - tell him to find somebody who wears clothes he approves of If he's that bloody bothered

Personally I don't like the outfit either but who cares what I think - I wouldn't wear it but I wouldn't tell friends or family not to

This thread reminded me...when I was in my early twenties, I went on holiday. To dinner, I wore a black mini skirt, a diamante encrusted triangle bikini top with an undone suit jacket on top

She didn't ask for opinions on the outfit! Very judgemental people on here and people that dnt have the body to pull this outfit off and loads of older women. Op the more worrying thing is that he's called you a slut and that others have only slept with you becos ur outfits! This is him trying to make u believe ur not good enough and he's the only that's going to 'keep' u. Dnt allowed it! X

Loveska - it's not about whether one has the body to wear it or not - it's about personal taste. My body rocks thank you

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Massive red flag. He’s just shown you who he really is.

If you feel good wearing something then you have every right to wear it. Other people’s opinions mean nothing.

Sorry. I’ll go against the grain here. It is a bit of a risqué outfit. (Is it really considered a “classy” outfit?)

However, it is your choice to wear it.

If you havea child.together that's even more of a reason to leave. Do you want tour child to grow up living in a house where their mother is emotionally abused and controlled?

Get to your mum's!

And wear what you like.

Appreciate having a child together complicates things but yes, all red flags.

I dislike in particular that he says past men have only slept with you because of what you were wearing. He can fuck right off.

Op if it were my daughter i would be wanting rid him fast .
There are huge red flags there and he is not going to change .Absolutely wear the outfit i did in my late teens early 20's and my DP then now DH had no issues at all as it should be.

Using language like slutt is never acceptable. All this just shows his insecurity I’m afraid. If you like it, wear it.

I had an ex that used to go funny and sulk about me going topless at the beach. That is why he became an ex!

Yep red flag central. It’s controlling and a slippery slope.

As you can see, loads of other people seem to think it’s still ok to judge what a woman wants to wear (and that would be a red flag for me being friends with them!).

Women can wear what the fuck they want, if you feel good, go for it lovely. It looks great and if I had a teen body again I’d bloody wear it :)