Or his DP? (Heating)

[GirlOnIt]

We've recently got hive and he's driving me mad! I admit I can feel the cold and I tend to just turn the heating up if I'm cold. I think sometimes even if it says 20 it can feel chilly.

So we've got frigging hive and he's got the app on his phone. So will just turn it down, even when he's not in the house but I am. He's out tonight and he's turned it down, he claims he thought I'd be in bed and I'd forgotten to turn it down. But he's obsessed, he never puts it above19 unless it's really cold out and then he'll stretch to 20. I tend to put it up to 22 which he Noah's about.

If he's not in though he gets no say over the heating does he?

Slightly lighthearted, but I'm considering LTB, if he doesn't stop fucking with the heating when he's not even in the house!

To the people who say eg. I have the heating at 20 but will turn it up to 25 if it's a cold day; that makes no sense to me. If you're happy at a temperature of 20, why do you need the house hotter just because it's colder outside?

He is being a total dick trying to control the temp when he is not there. Jesus.

Two steps to take back control of Hive.

1. Set the temp youwant and then pull the Ethernet cable out of the Hive hub, this stops Hive communicating with the app.

1. Log in to Hive from your home computer and change the password to the Hive account. This will stop the app from working on his phone altogether.

You install the app on your phone and control it yourself.

Replug the cable to the Hive hub. In five mins the system will resent under the new password you will control the refreshed system and he will be locked out.

I have hive.
Mine currently says 20 after I put it on for an hour because I was chilly.
I don't mind a jumper or a blanket in the evening but I refuse to be one of those people who dress for the Arctic while they're watching tv in the evening.
My ex husband didn't really have any heating opinions, I was home all day with children so it was kind of tough even if he did.
It always makes me oddly suspicious when men are really controlling of the heating, especially when they're not even in the house. Unless you are on strict rations and have zero money for paying for the heating, what is their issue? Why are they so obsessed with something that isn't directly affecting them? Thin end of the wedge if you ask me...

themoomoo

Because thermostats are little bastards basically 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t understand why when mine is set at say 20, it’s comfortable sometimes and not others. To me it should be comfortable all the time as it should be adjusting accordingly. But I’ve yet to meet one that does. The best way I’ve found so far is putting it in our bedroom (that I like cool) and setting it at 19. The various radiators around the house on different levels. That mostly keeps the living area at a good temperature, but when we had the cold spell it needed to be on 22 to achieve the same level of comfort. I guess it’s due to differences in other rooms exceeding the differences in the place where the thermostat is.

I try not to think about it too much as it was making me 🤯

I know he's not purposely making me cold or anything. Definitely think it's a obsession because it's new and because he can check he does.
I've got the app now anyway but he's promised he'll leave it alone now.

Ours definitely doesn't always feel the same at 20 or 22 though. It's weird sometimes I'll fell cold and check and it's already at 21/22. I'm freezing now just got home but it's actually 20 so not really low, but it's feels really cold. It's weird!
Dp would look though see it's 20 and think oh that's ok, not think but does it feel a bit cold.

We live in a new build so we don't have to worry about it so much as it's so efficient and cheap to heat. at the very least, people should be comfortable in their home or wtf is the point of anything ? I would lose my shit if DH tried to dictate the temp when he wasn't even in the house

Can you not put the thermostat in the fridge during the day? You'll have him turning up the temperature for you

Get Alexa. You can tell her to boost the heating and it’ll boost for an hour. Just keep doing it every time you’re cold.

We have Hive too but I’m the one who got it. I love gadgets like this and I’m always cold. Husband is always hot so I used to turn it up slowly from my phone and before he knew it it was warm :)

Thanks to this cold winter he’s been getting Alexa to boost too. It’s been great :)

We have Alexa @Jengnr. I only really use it for music though.

I was thinking up pug it outside @GummyGoddess . Wonder if that would work.