DD turned 11 in January, her dad and I are separated and he bought her an iPhone for her birthday. She previously had a normal phone to use if she wanted to contact him (which I supplied) but neither of them ever contacted one another.
The iPhone is the only thing she's ever been allowed to bring home with her, and it was sent home with her without any consultation with me. Since having it, her attitude has worsened a great deal. She will only use it in her room and is constantly charging and checking it. I caught her trying to sneak it into bed a few weeks ago and she absolutely lost the plot when I said it could stay at her dad's house if it's going to continue to cause her to be dishonest and have a bad attitude.
I check it regularly and the messages are fairly mundane. However, her dad has helped her to download TikTok, Watsapp and BBC iPlayer - all of which I think are absolutely inappropriate for her age. What's worse is that DD is well aware they're inappropriate (thanks to internet safety week at school and us talking) and she's made a big deal of saying she doesn't understand why underage people are so desperate for them. Therefore she's lying by omission, in my opinion.
This evening she asked if she could meet a friend from school at the local park. It's a 5 min walk from our house and I was heading there with her siblings to walk the dog a while later so I said yes on the condition she messages me when she arrived safely and only goes to the park. We ended up going sooner than expected as the washing machine repair man was delayed indefinitely and when we arrived there was no sign of DD, despite her having messaged me to say she arrived safely. Half an hour later I saw her and her friend approach the entrance, when they saw us they ran into a bush (!) and tried to sneak it through it so they could pretend they'd been there the whole time.
When I challenged DD about where they'd been, she said her friend needed a wee so they went to McDonald's, then blurted out that her friend had had an ice cream but she hadn't had anything, then looked in a panic at her phone as presumably there's an incriminating photo on there! McDonald's is only a few mins from the park but it's across two tricky roads, and she didn't have permission to go there.
I honestly feel like saying she can leave the phone at her dad's house next time she goes as all it has lead to is dishonesty. Similarly, I feel she's spoiled her opportunity to be independent and go out with a friend as she's been dishonest there too. AIBU to say the phone is not welcome in my house anymore?