to refuse to use their bathroom?

[gkdivr]

I don't live with my DP/BF whatever you want to refer to him as. He has a job which involves me working away most weeks, he is only at his home about 2-3 weekends in a month, plus a couple of extra days, the rest of the time he is in accommodation near his workplace.

I go to stay with him normally one of those weekends. His home is just a base for him, it's rented and v basic. There is no shower nor ability to have one (we tried getting one of those that attach to the taps but the taps are a really odd size and it wouldn't fit at all). You can have a bath however the bathroom is freezing and the water pressure really poor so it takes a good 20 mins to get the bath half full.

My partner normally visits a relative who lives about a mile away and showers there. I'm not comfortable with this so when i stay there have to make do with a small bath or strip wash for the 2 days.

I know my partner finds my objection to going to relatives home for a shower a bit odd especially as I'm not happy about the bath/ wash situation at his place. But for me I'm just not comfortable with getting dressed going in the car to his relatives, having a chat with them, then getting in the shower, getting dressed, going home etc.

Is this just me or would you also not feel happy doing this?

I got a lovely plug in radiator from Lidl for £29. However, the instructions make it very clear that it must never be used with an extension lead. Also, the lead it does have is quite short. Looking at others for sale on line, it seems that none of them should be attached via extension leads.

Unless Vicky has a v large bathroom, her DH is wrong. Google it. Three pin sockets have to be at least 3 metres from a basin, bath or shower. Bathrooms are more dangerous than kitchens because you're not likely to be dripping wet starkers in a kitchen. You should still be careful not to touch a plug with wet hands anywhere.

UK electricity is more powerful than, e.g. USA. Don't know about Europe.

Well, maybe heat up the room and then turn it off and remove it before you get into your bath.
But Op, you are NBU to not want to shower at a relative's.

Thymeout.
Please read my post again, everything I said was correct, also the reason.
Our bathroom is big enough to allow power sockets.
If you do use an extension lead make sure it is fully extended if on a pull out winder, or fully unwound if coiled up, also that it is of the correct power rating.
All the above is to make sure the extension lead doesn't overheat.

I wouldn't risk an electric heater on an extension lead in the bathroom.

The oil-filled heater I mentioned above, from Aldi or Lidl, is on wheels, so we just wheel it into the bathroom before a shower, then out during the shower, and then back in after the shower. It's attached to an extension lead and it's fine.