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Is This Normal?

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BlueTrews · 21/02/2019 21:08

DS is 21, he has a full time job which is I guess quite physical. Every day without fail he comes home, eats his tea and goes to sleep. Tonight was from 5 until 8 and he only woke then as there was an alarm going off outside.
He does play abit of sport in the summer.
He takes a daily multivit/mineral/iron tablet.
Aibu to be worried?

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titchy · 21/02/2019 21:17

Well without knowing what time he goes to bed, gets up etc it's difficult to say. A couple of hours snooze late afternoon, followed by 6 hours gaming or whatever, then another six hours sleep is fine.

HennyPennyHorror · 21/02/2019 21:19

Is he otherwise active? Does he socialise in the evenings?

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BlueTrews · 21/02/2019 21:58

Weekdays he gets up 7am and gets home 4.30/5 either eats then sleeps then gaming, or gaming, eat, sleep.
Saturday's he goes to the pub or to footy match if it's home game. Sunday is sleep/eat/game.
He just seems a bit down this week but assures me he's fine.
something just doesn't feel right Confused

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BackforGood · 21/02/2019 22:02

You haven't said what time he goes to sleep at night.

Some people need more sleep than others.

I think it is unusual for a young man to need a nap every teatime, but once you get into a habit, it then becomes a need.

princessTiasmum · 21/02/2019 22:02

Has he had blood tests? one of my sons falls asleep after every meal, he has an overload of iron, which can affect people as much as anyone who is anaemic

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BlueTrews · 21/02/2019 22:16

He goes to bed at weekdays at 10 and is asleep by 11.
I have mentioned blood tests but he poo poohed it, interesting about the iron princess wonder if the daily multi vit has done more harm than good?!

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princessTiasmum · 22/02/2019 00:03

Well when my sons [twins] both complained of tiredness at about 17 years old, i thought they were anaemic, and was going to get them some iron tablets,then i read in a magazine about a blood disorder called Haemochromatosis, which had similiar symptoms to anaemia, so i suggested going for blood tests,and it turned out that is what they had,they are 46 now and have to hve regular blood tests and regular , [blood taken about 1 pint ] to get the iron levels down [ferritin] i am supposed to have it too, but it doesnt affect me at all, [it is genetic] they both have quite a few health issues now,but it can be managed and isnt fatal, these day,it used to be before it was discovered to be treatable,
It might be worth your son having a blood test,to rule out any problems,
He might just need more sleep than some people,

princessTiasmum · 22/02/2019 00:10

Meant to say if there is any problem with iron overload, any Vit C is not good or anything containing it, such as orange juice or citrus fruit,
As you mentioned he was taking vitamins,thought it was worth mentioning
Haemochromatosis was never heard of once, and it was only after people died and were given post mortems that often they were found to have too much ipron in the heart or other organs, it is still being researched,and not all Drs even know much about it

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BlueTrews · 22/02/2019 07:11

princess Thanks for replying, I've never heard of that, how interesting. I'm glad your boys are ok now.
Getting DS to have a blood test will be the hardest bit, he's needle phobic after some traumatic cannula insertions when he was younger. 😏

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EggysMom · 22/02/2019 07:13

I can remember my stepfather doing similar, he had a manual job. He'd come home, eat tea at 6pm, then nap for a couple of hours. It wouldn't strike me as odd.

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BlueTrews · 22/02/2019 07:20

maybe it's just me worrying unnecessarily then. I just think 21 is young to need so much sleep. He doesn't just nap in a chair, it's a full on get in bed and lay down jobbyGrin

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Queenofthestress · 22/02/2019 07:31

My dp is 23, he's a brickie, he would go for a nap when he comes in if he could, my sister actually does and shes at a desk job, we call them nana naps Grin

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BlueTrews · 22/02/2019 07:41

nana naps Grin
I like a nap but only ever nap in the armchair for 10 minutes.

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CalamityJune · 22/02/2019 08:22

I don't get the chance now but I always feel like sleeping when I get home from work. Given the opportunity I could quite easily sleep for an hour before my evening meal without it really affecting my night sleep.

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BlueTrews · 22/02/2019 10:24

so is the concensous that i ABU and just let him sleep?😖

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PlainSpeakingStraightTalking · 22/02/2019 10:28

So he does a manual job and has a kip when he gets in. Im really not seeing the issue.

Surfingtheweb · 22/02/2019 10:29

I think working full time is a bit of a shock to the system. My daughter pretty much works & sleeps too. She's young & really putting her all in to build her career & it takes it out of her.

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BlueTrews · 22/02/2019 10:42

ok, I will leave him be. just makes me sad that all he wants to do is sleep.
Must also say, he's my 4th so it's not a case of pfb. I can't remember the others sleeping like he does.
Thanks for everyone's comments.

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Queenofthestress · 22/02/2019 12:09

Just gotta leave him to it unfortunately

PinkHeart5914 · 22/02/2019 12:15

So works full time in a job that is physical and you have no idea why he might be tired?

I think it’s normal for a lot of people to have a nap after a physical job. I think also working people do get a bit down from time to time, work can get to you but generally it passes

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BlueTrews · 22/02/2019 19:24

ok thanks everyone Flowers

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SaucyJack · 22/02/2019 19:29

He sounds like he’s living his best life TBH.

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BlueTrews · 22/02/2019 19:37
Grin
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