I want a child

[Lalalyjn]

I’ve no partner can’t afford ivf can’t do adoption, should I give up hope?

ONS? Seems to work

Why can't do you do adoption?

Is a sperm bank a thing these days?

Why not adoption? Not saying you should if you don't want to of course!

One night stand with a careless but loaded man? disclaimer: this comment is tongue in cheek

Well context helps.

Are you 18 with no fertility problems or 40 having lost a fallopian tube previously? Or where in between. It kinda makes a difference.

Depends how old you are really?

25, chill your boots good chance you’ll meet someone
38, well maybe time to accept it might never happen

39 in July. Basically I can’t adopt because I’ve only a one bed property and also no family to help.

You want to raise a kid in a one bed?

This instantly makes me think of the film 'Locke' for some reason

Well I hate to break it to you but biological children need their own room too and family help is a huge plus especially if you do this alone

Yes, but a baby is in with you at first. I could afford a bigger property when the child was about 3/4 maybe. Until then I like to think we’d manage. No need to be sarcastic.

Ah, half-term on Mumsnet...

Reckon you could cram 10-15 cats into a one bed, should be enough to begin with.

Sperm bank and insemination, much cheaper than IVF (assuming you don't have fertility issues requiring IVF).
A helpful friend willing to donate sperm for self -insemination on the proviso they forfeit parental rights and responsibilities

www.nhs.uk/conditions/artificial-insemination/

That helpful friend would be an idiot then, there is no concrete way of forfeiting rights and once you are on the hook for child support that is it. If you want a donor it should be through the system.

Also agree sperm donation may be an option.

Probably not a good idea. Babies are expensive, and they get more expensive the older they get. Cots, car seats, buggies, toys, zoo trips etc. etc.

I don’t have any friends who would do that (does anybody?)

I know babies get more expensive but adoption isn’t an option because of where I currently live. That is all.

Could you afford to move further out of the city into cheaper but larger accommodation and then look at adoption or fostering?

"Ons is such a dangerous way of doing it although I can empathise with the desperation

I don’t really want to give up my job.

Do you want a relationship? Or are you happy to go it alone?

Can’t really see a relationship happening. I’d rather have done it all the normal way but not going to happen.

I know babies get more expensive but adoption isn’t an option because of where I currently live. That is all

Then that problem is not insumountable.

When I was in your position and IVF had not worked, we also lived in too small a property to adopt, we moved to a much cheaper area and purchased a large old house that needed much work. We were then were able to adopt a sibling group of four. We now foster also (in our cheap house with lots of bedrooms).

I wish you luck. If you want it enough you will find a way!!

Have you looked into the cost of IUI? Cheaper than IVF unless you’ve reason to believe you have fertility issues?