To be really pissed off everyone thinks they know the sex of my baby and I don't?

[Nobhobs]

Every single person who knows about my pregnancy has said "oh it's a boy. I just know it." Not a single person thinks it's a girl. I'm talking a lot of people; both our families, work colleagues, friends.

I'm completely impartial. I want a healthy baby and that's as far as it goes, but I was very excited to find out. I just keep reading on here and hearing from friends "I just knew the second I was pregnant that it was a boy/girl" and I do not have that feeling. I haven't even got an inkling and now I'm almost hoping it's not a boy because I don't want everyone else to be able to get more of a 'feeling' about my baby than me. I don't want to see their smug faces.

HOW DOES EVERYONE SEEM TO KNOW?! I feel it's taken all the surprise out of it now (unless it does turn out to be a girl and I'll be shellshocked after all of this) But I feel like now if it turns out to be a boy I'll be slightly annoyed about everyone being right and me being clueless and it'll take the happiness out of it? Hopefully I'm overthinking.. but it's so bloody annoying. This isn't one of those threads favouring girls, I was truly so happy about either but I don't like smug people

I didn't know with either of mine. I had a boy feeling with the first and he was indeed a boy - but I had a lot of people tell me they thought he was a girl.

At the of the day, they have 50% chance of being right. Don't let it spoil your excitement if it is indeed a boy. They don't 'know' they are just guessing.

Same for me.
Literally 'everyone' said it was boy.
Not one person said a girl.
I didn't know.
And I was convinced it was a boy as well.
But out popped my gorgeous daughter!
Everyone was shocked.
No-one 'knows'

I'm another one who was constantly told that I was 'most definitely having a boy' yet I most definitely had a girl

Everyone said mine was a boy ... all my cravings the way I carried; everything.
I had no inclination either way.

The sonographer took an "educated guess at 99.9% certainty" I was having a boy at my scan ....

5 month scan showed a girl.
I had a girl.

People are just guessing; probably trying to feel included

I don't know why people get like this. Guessing is fine but insisting is annoying. I hope you have a girl so you can rub it in their smug faces

I'm finding out today. I will update!

With my first not only did everyone know it was a boy (classic boy bump, carrying low etc) they also knew it was twins. The hospital said it was one baby but the armchair experts said the second twin could have hidden from the scans. Sure enough I now have one DD.

Haha, well everybody was right. It is indeed a boy! A very healthy wriggly little one

Awww fab! Congrats

Congratulations :)

What people mean when they say boy usually is you're all bump and not just generally fat. I was a heffer with both of mine and everyone said girl both times. My second was a boy.

Yeah! Congratulations.

I 'knew' with both of mine and I was right. But I'm also well aware it was a 50/50 chance of being right so not sure it means anything

To be fair, it’s goibg to be one or the other

Congrats on your boy!

To answer your question - no one knows. They had a 50% chance of getting it right.

I ‘knew’ I was having boys from the fact that DHs family have no girls born into it. So I assumed. I was right though

I've just embraced the guessing and encouraged it. It's a bit of fun and nobody knows for sure- I don't think even the sonographer had a look at my 20 week scan as we'd said we didn't want to know and baby was lying where she sort of went top down to look at organs.

I was convinced mine is a girl until that scan then I've completely changed my mind to boy for no real reason. So at least I'll have been right at some point 😂

They've got a 50:50 chance of being able to say 'I knew it!'.

That's pretty good odds for most.

Ignore them for now and enjoy their faces if you introduce them to your beautiful baby girl in time.

dammit. Cross posted.

But they were effectively tossing a coin up in the air. There's no skill in that.

I have noticed this too. Nobody actually knows of course. They have a 50:50 chance of being right, so if it's a boy, they'll think they are great at guessing.

Some people like to speculate.
Some people like to suggest something the opposite of what they think the pg person would like, just to spite them (usually because they are jealous of something else).
Some people were brought up on old wives' tales.
Some people oddly can feel excluded/threatened in a primal way by a pg for one reason or another -with some women, it's because they aren't pg themselves but like the idea; for some, it's because they are too old for pg; some already have finished their families but still have a bit of baby fever - these people like to feel they are somehow having an informed input (obviously it's completely uninformed input) into the pg.
Some people see pg women as fair game for comment, from the size of their bumps at various pg stages to what they eat to whether they wear underwired bras in pg and whether they should still dye their hair or not.
Some people think someone would "suit" a boy or a girl based on their opinion of the pg person.

I've had 3 DCs so I've heard it all and encountered a lot of nonsense.

Sometimes some comments are infuriating but often it says more about the person than you and whether you actually are having a boy or a girl or whatever. Literally smile and nod and say "Who knows..." and "We'll see..." a lot.

Oh and I just knew with my first one what I was having. I was totally wrong. Not even I got my own gut feeling right. It will be what it will be, as set at conception and only the actual birth (not even a scan, accurate as most are) will prove it for definite

Also congratulations on your pg and scan And also, if you want to keep the news to yourself, you can do and have a bit of fun leading them around the garden path for a bit. ("Scanner said they couldn't tell as baby not in optimal position but then they said "She" twice but then "He" once...")

I just “knew” we were having a girl first time (I didn’t, I had just imagined/pictured and subconsciously probably wanted a girl). We were so sure we didn’t even pick a boys name. Turns out she was a girl. Second time I was convinced I was having a girl again, I just felt it again, my husband thought the same, it wasn’t a girl. When he was born and my husband said it’s a boy I thought “oh, I wasn’t expecting that, wow!”

You have a 50/50 chance of guessing right, it’s not impossible to guess and be correct.

Ah well, they were right!

I knew my first was a boy. Everyone told me it was a boy bump, I just couldn’t envisage anything else. One (very mad) colleague got quite cross at the suggestion it could be anything else. Well, you can guess what she turned out to be!

Ds I thought was a girl because I couldn’t imagine a baby that wasn’t a girl after having dd.

Currently 33 weeks and have no hunch whatsoever this time!!