To be really pissed off everyone thinks they know the sex of my baby and I don't?

[Nobhobs]

Every single person who knows about my pregnancy has said "oh it's a boy. I just know it." Not a single person thinks it's a girl. I'm talking a lot of people; both our families, work colleagues, friends.

I'm completely impartial. I want a healthy baby and that's as far as it goes, but I was very excited to find out. I just keep reading on here and hearing from friends "I just knew the second I was pregnant that it was a boy/girl" and I do not have that feeling. I haven't even got an inkling and now I'm almost hoping it's not a boy because I don't want everyone else to be able to get more of a 'feeling' about my baby than me. I don't want to see their smug faces.

HOW DOES EVERYONE SEEM TO KNOW?! I feel it's taken all the surprise out of it now (unless it does turn out to be a girl and I'll be shellshocked after all of this) But I feel like now if it turns out to be a boy I'll be slightly annoyed about everyone being right and me being clueless and it'll take the happiness out of it? Hopefully I'm overthinking.. but it's so bloody annoying. This isn't one of those threads favouring girls, I was truly so happy about either but I don't like smug people

I'm 23 weeks pregnant and I don't know what I'm having, obviously people are going to say 'oh I think it's a girl/boy'

At the end of the day they actually don't know so I take it all with a pinch of salt

They had a 50/50 chance of being right. Even a monkey could guess right on those odds.

This. I'm always completely baffled by all the guesswork and speculating and 'gender' reveal parties and mysteriousness about one partner wanting to know the sex and one not, and people coming on and being incredibly pious about how being told the sex of the baby 'ruins the surprise' of the birth etc etc that you get on here.

It's approx 50/50. Old wives' tales about bump shape and position etc are just nonsense from the time before scans. For every woman who 'just knows' she's carrying a boy and turns out to be right, there's another who turns out to be wrong, and an awful lot of women who had no idea either way. It doesn't say anything at all about you, your baby or your pregnancy.

I had a really strong gut feeling about what I was having. Was entirely wrong, and so were all the other people who “just knew” based on my bump shape or symptoms!

Actually I don't think YABU OP. When I announced my pregnancy two people looked at my scan pic and said "girl" immediately before even saying congrats! Kept going on about the skull and nub theory. That was ok but for all they knew I might have wanted it to be a surprise and after that I sort of just became convinced I was having a girl. It could've put a dampener on the pregnancy for someone else. I did want to find out and had a private gender scan and was having a girl but would've preferred to go in there without having the notion of other people's opinions (presented as fact!) in my head. It just slightly took away from finding out :/

Hahaha yup I completely get you OP.
First baby, honestly couldn't prefer one sex over the other, but we chose not to find out.
EVERY SINGLE PERSON told me my whole pregnancy that I was having a boy. Constantly! Since about 16 weeks even strangers on the street have said it's a boy.
Anyway, I'm now on the postnatal ward cuddling my daughter 😂😂

99% of people thought I was having a girl - my DM and MIL were convinced and felt they had 'psychic inklings'.

I had a boy 🤷🏼‍♀️

How about looking at it this way, you say you have no inkling what you are having which could mean that you genuinely dont care and will be happy whatever your baby is.

Some people have a 'feeling' because that is what they would prefer. It is just a 50/50 chance.

With my first I had a dream the night before my BFP that I was pregnant with a girl. After two years of trying I didn't even think I might be pregnant but knew she was a girl and wouldn't be told otherwise. She was a girl. I've always been so convinced No2 would be a boy that I never kept any girls stuff from my first baby. I am now pregnant again and it is a boy..... I am rubbish at guessing for other people though!!!

I'm not even sure why they are guessing. What's the point? It's not their baby, it has no impact on them.

Sometimes think I am a strange woman, I don't give a damn about other people's kids as long as they are happy and well looked after. Why do I care if you have a boy or a girl? Makes no difference to me.

It really doesn’t matter does it? Calm down

They don’t know they’re just guessing only two options after all

You're being very snowflakey

If you want to know do the pendulum test.
Backwards and forwards or side to side = A girl.
Circular =A boy.
In my experience its never been wrong

Everyone but me 'knew' with pregnancies too. Apparently the size and shape of my bumps and the fact I was all bump, in fact practically lost weight elsewhere were clear signs of having boys

We found out the sex with DC2 and people were convinced it was wrong and I was having a boy. Nope.

I was amazed at how het up some people got too. It was slightly scary.

My pregnancies were pre scan. I had no idea either time. Most people reckoned a girl, probably because they knew how much I wanted one. Two boys.

Everyone, complete strangers included, took it upon themselves to 'tell' me I was having a boy, and it annoyed me too, OP. I didn't want to know until the birth, and it felt, in my emotional pregnant state, that they must be right as no one ever said I was having a girl. Turned out they were all wrong

People just like to guess...I find it very weird. But...whatev... 🤷🏻‍♀️

First baby, I was convinced it was a girl. So was everyone else. It was a boy. Second baby I was absolutely convinced I was having another boy. It was a girl. It means nothing. Try not to fret. You absolutely will feel the connection once he/she is here

Everyone has an opinion when you are pregnant you become public property and everyone likes guessing so try not to get bothered by them which is easier said than done when your hormones are going mad.

We didn’t find out the sex of both our children I carried completely different both times but ‘knew’ they were both girls and I am currently cuddling our 2nd daughter who is 2 days old

It’s all bullshit, it’s just something people like to say.

I and everyone who expressed an opinion thought my first was going to be a boy, I didn’t mind at all which I had though, so when she was born it was a really nice surprise to have a girl.

this is all some people know what to say to a pregnant person 😂
‘Ahh when are you due?’
‘Ahh do you know what you’re having?’
‘Ahh have you got any names?’

I’m 31 weeks with a boy and definitely bored of this small pregnancy chat.
I’m also sick of
‘oh one of each, how lucky/lovely/perfect ‘
‘Does that mean you’re stopping now you’ve got one of each’

I had zero feeling about DD. I thought this one was a girl as pregnancy has been the same if not worse, i was certain. Mil and sil guessed boy from ‘the skull on the scan’
A small part of me really didn’t want them to be right either. But like everyone else says, there’s 50/50 chance. Hope you haven’t got to endure it much longer lol.

I was sure my girl was a boy and also sure my boy was a girl. I was wrong both times but DH was right both times. It's just guesswork.

@littlepond that’s so funny I felt exactly the same!! I’ve just spent a pregnancy answering ‘do you know you’re having’ with ‘no it’s a surprise....but it’s definitely a boy’ because I was so convinced it was a boy that it felt like a lie to say I didn’t know!

Op.... everyone (including me ) thought boy...

I’m holding my five week old little girl as I type

Loads of people "just knew" ds4 was twins. Despite me telling them I was having loads of scans to monitor my extra fluid. YANBU it does get irritating.