To be really pissed off everyone thinks they know the sex of my baby and I don't?

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Every single person who knows about my pregnancy has said "oh it's a boy. I just know it." Not a single person thinks it's a girl. I'm talking a lot of people; both our families, work colleagues, friends.

I'm completely impartial. I want a healthy baby and that's as far as it goes, but I was very excited to find out. I just keep reading on here and hearing from friends "I just knew the second I was pregnant that it was a boy/girl" and I do not have that feeling. I haven't even got an inkling and now I'm almost hoping it's not a boy because I don't want everyone else to be able to get more of a 'feeling' about my baby than me. I don't want to see their smug faces.

HOW DOES EVERYONE SEEM TO KNOW?! I feel it's taken all the surprise out of it now (unless it does turn out to be a girl and I'll be shellshocked after all of this) But I feel like now if it turns out to be a boy I'll be slightly annoyed about everyone being right and me being clueless and it'll take the happiness out of it? Hopefully I'm overthinking.. but it's so bloody annoying. This isn't one of those threads favouring girls, I was truly so happy about either but I don't like smug people

I'm not actually angry to clarify, this is semi lighthearted. I just find it frustrating that I have no idea and others do.

Like everyone else you have the ability to guess with 50% accuracy. They don't know anything other than it is a boy or a girl they are just making conversation 😂😂😂.

Everyone "knew" I was having a girl - I had all the symptoms/old wives tales for a girl. At my 20w scan found out it was a boy! Even after that confirmation people continued to tell me I must be having a girl because of how I was carrying and the sonographer got it wrong. Nope, DS popped out clearly a boy! So everyone could absolutely be wrong. Even if they're not don't worry about it. I know lots of women who had no gut instinct about the sex of the baby and one who convinced herself she was having a girl (didn't find out at any scans) and then had a meltdown when she had a son. It's really not worth stressing over.

They don’t know. They’re just trying to muscle in and take your thunder. It’s the same as the idiots who said ‘oh I knew you were pregnant ages ago - I could just tell’ when you announce it. Kill joys.

My dh was right both times

He knew from about 8 weeks what both were gonna be.

He seems to have a knack for these things. He hasn’t been wrong yet (done with multiple friends)

But it’s a 50/50 chance. There’s still a chance you’ve got a girl

EVERYONE said mine was a girl - based on the shape of my bump, how I was carrying etc. Even the midwife said the heartbeat was a 'girl' heartbeat as that sounds like galloping horses, and boys sound like trains, or some other such nonsense.
I now have the noisiest, funniest, most boisterous little boy bouncing up and down next to me on the sofa, so it all means nothing. Unless a scan/chromosome test tells you the sex, neither you nor anyone else actually 'knows'. Just add it to the list of irritating things people say to pregnant women, and let it go.

My dh was right both times

There is a 1 in 4 chance of this happening

They're literally just saying one of two sexes your baby could be. My DP, parents and sister all said I was having a girl, they could 'feel it'. Turns out I'm having a baby boy so 🤷🏻‍♀️ your whole pregnancy people will be saying things like 'oh you're carrying low, must be a boy' etc etc. It's all old wives tales, you'll only know by a scan or when baby is born. Don't sweat it xx

In fact Soubriet if he's been right for friends too I think he needs to try the lottery, his luck is clearly in

I didn't have a clue-with either.

Carried exactly the same both times & had one of each.

People have being doing this since time immemorial!!
Everyone e guessed we were having a girl and guess what! We didn't. It's just small talk conversation, paying an interest and harmless.
You are being over sensitive. Just banter back, lighten up and stop overthinking it

I had this too. With my first I 'knew' he was a boy. Just had a really strong feeling from the off. And he was.

Second time round, I didn't have any gut feelings either way but I felt different during my pregnancy and everyone told me it was a girl. Old ladies on the bus, the midwives, women in the antenatal waiting room, etc etc. Nope. He was a boy, too. Took us ages to name him because we only had girls names!

I had a terrible pregnancy with dd. Looked really rough. Chinese women kept telling me I was having a girl because ‘girl babies steal your beauty’ . They were right though.

I'm not actually angry to clarify, this is semi lighthearted.

Probably best to put that in the OP then, and maybe not say "AIBU to be really pissed off" We're not psychic, and neither are your friends - of course they don't 'know' what sex the baby is. Everyone loves to guess based on the way you are carrying the bump. No big deal.

I Was completely convinced my last would be a girl... made a deal with dh that if was a boy he could choose name and girl I would (had perfect girl name calling bump by it for months) completely shocked to see my gorgeous little boy when he arrived, dh got the name he wanted although had to work out which spelling to go with so did have bit on input

Only two people predicted the sex of my baby. Two very opinionated and never-wrong people. They both declared I was having a boy.
I have a girl.

This reminds me of the story about the physician who claimed he could tell the sex of the unborn child (in the days before scans). He would tell the patient the sex of the baby. If he predicted correctly the patient would be delighted and impressed. But if he got it wrong and the patient challenged him he'd say: Let me see - I usually make a note in my diary... and he'd riffle through the pages to the date of the consultation in question and there he'd find and be able to show her the alternative prediction he'd written down as an insurance policy.

(And then if she still challenged him he would tell her she must have misremembered because subconsciously she wanted a child of the opposite sex.)

Chill, OP. It's all part of the scenario where once you are pregnant you and the child you are carrying seem to become public property. Irritating as hell but it's something to do with prehistoric social animal brains.
And congratulations.

They don't know.

They're just guessing.

I was convinced I was going to have a boy. Almost everyone else thought the same. Think it was only dh's grandad who thought it'd be a girl.

At that time where we lived you couldn't find out in advance. When our baby was born she was a girl. A healthy little girl. I was surprised. Delighted and very very happy but I was surprised a bit I guess as I'd just assumed boy from the start.

But did dh's grandad really know? Of course bit. He just guessed, and it's 50/50 he'd be right.

People say all.kinds of crap when your pregnant or have just had a baby,when I had my second boy loads of people said will you be trying for a girl etc it's just what people say

They have no clue. Its 50/50! They can't intune that from your bump! My mum was absolutely convinced I was a boy, and I was a girl.

I never had that. But I knew my first was going to be a boy. My family had a sweepstake and most of them said girl and a lot bigger than he turned out to be.
With my second everyone said girl. I joined the sweepstake and I won the lot (for my boys piggy bank) because I knew he was going to be a tiny boy. (Still is - 9-12 months clothes at 16 months!)

I felt certain from the day and hour I was pregnant with my first it was a boy. Indeed he was but everyone else seemed to think I’d be having a girl. Second time I was so sure it was a girl and everyone agreed with me. Another boy!

People just talk random shite at you when you’re pregnant OP don’t let it get to you

If it is a boy they didn’t know that. It’s just a guess.

Noone knows OP, but people like to be right.

At 11 weeks my MIL (former midwife and reiki practitioner) asked what I thought I was having. I said girl. She said no it's a boy.

Guess what, it's a girl. At 22 weeks she said "if I had seen you now I would've said definitely girl". Yeah right

Unless they have x-ray vision, they're just having a fun guess. My baby is due in 6 days and apparently everyone just KNOWS I'm having a boy!! Because apparently having a tiny little penis in there changes the whole shape of someone's bump 🤷🏼‍♀️
I've got an inkling it's a girl, but have no idea why! Hopefully we won't be waiting too much longer to find out!

I knew from 11 weeks that we were having a boy. We didn't tell people we knew, but everybody told me I was definitely having a girl. Like everyone says, they don't know.