AIBU or is my FIL a massive CF?!

[Crummyfunnymummy]

Ok, so this happened a while back but I’ve never forgiven him! (Though this is meant to be a bit lighthearted). While I was on maternity leave with DC2 PIL asked if they could stay the night. They live a couple of hours away and were visiting relatives who live another 5 hours drive from us (so a 7 hour journey for them). They wanted to stay the night here to break up the journey. Fine with me. My MIL does loads for us and we get on well. My FIL is fond of food so I bought in croissants and posh jam so I could make them a nice breakfast. I should also add that on Mat leave I survived on sugar! Looking after my 2 DC during the day while my DH was at work and BF my DC2 during the night meant I was exhausted. So I had bought myself a delicious triple chocolate muffin and was saving (and very much looking forward to) it for my breakfast the next day. My PIL were going to stay the night, get up, have brekkie and get on their way. I got up and asked my FIL if he would like me to make him a croissant. Ooh yes, says he. Would you like it warmed?, I ask. Oh yes, lovely thanks. I set about croissant warming. Erm, could I have a piece of toast while I’m waiting?, asks FIL. Of course!! I make him some toast with aforementioned posh jam, then a few minutes later a lovely big warm croissant. Anyway, they get on their way. DH goes to work. I run around tidying up, giving DC their brekkie etc. Finally I sit down at about 10.30 with a cuppa and my lovely delicious triple chocolate muffin (I’ve not eaten yet. Muffin is my breakfast. I know, I know, not the healthiest but hey ho, I’ve been up 2 or 3 times to BF in the night and have a looooong day ahead). I open breadbin. Muffin is not there. I look in the cupboards (has somebody moved it maybe??!) Nope. Not in cupboards either. Am starting to panic now. Where is delicious triple chocolate muffin?!! In desperation I ring my DH. Have you eaten it? Have you hidden it? Er no, my DF ate it, was his reply. WTAF??????? cry I. Why? Why did you say he could have it?! I am distressed. DH knows this muffin is key to the day’s survival. Why has he wantonly given it away? Apparently he didn’t give it away. No. My FIL ate it and then told him afterwards - having obviously gone through my cupboards and breadbin on a food hunt!!! Which actually is (a) rude to do in someone’s house I think and (b) just greedy! I’d already made him a croissant (warmed!) and toast (with posh jam!) and it’s not that they hung around for ages after breakfast and got hungry again. They got on their way not long after breakfast. DH said it wasn’t a big deal. Muffins don’t cost much. It was a big deal to me! As you can probably tell as this was 4 years ago and I’m still not over it!! Lol! I was upset about the muffin but I think it was more the greed and bloody audacity of having been put up for the night and made a nice breakfast he then went scavenging through my kitchen, found a SINGLE muffin (triple chocolate!!!!) and didn’t imagine someone might be saving it but just thought he’d help himself! I wouldn’t have minded if there had been 2 but there was only 1! Tell me he is CF of the highest order and IANBU to be fuming! Still!!!!!

[SpringForEver]

I didn't heed the warning and have had to hide stuff ever since - early in the relationship I had cooked a very nice meal for both of us, and there were some special rolls left over, just 2 of them. I had thought we could have one each, or maybe I would find they had both been left for me.

I was not happy to go downstairs the next morning to the smell of burning and find that both the rolls had been cremated and eaten. This was the same person that threw my dinner in the bin, the half I was saving for my lunch.

[BingLiveisRubbish]

YABU for using the word 'delicious' but I understand you're not thinking straight! Get yourself to the shop and by half a pound of Dairy Milk!!!

[BingLiveisRubbish]

*buy

[GreatDuckCookery6211]

I’ve read this exact thing before on here.

Did you write about it 4 years ago?

[Mumsymumphy]

Loving the glitter bomb idea!

The solution is simple: next time your FIL stays simply inform him you have licked every sugar-based food item in the house. Job done!

[PurpleWithRed]

4 years is nothing, this crime warrants a lifetime of passive aggressive grudge-stoking (a lush triple chocolate lookalike muffin bath bomb for chirstmas, that sort of thing.)

[CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson]

On the back of this thread I got hungry for chocolate.

We arrived on holiday 2 data ago. And bought 5 large bars of chocolate to share between 4 of us. Just went to fridge for delicious sea salt dark chocolate, which was the only one I wanted, to be greeted be half a bar of mint chocolate and nothing else. Dh said 'that's yours, that you chose' NO IT FUCKING ISN'T WHAT KIND OF ARSE CHOOSES MINT FUCKING CHOCOLATE???

Should I fire bomb the apartment with my family in?

[babybabybaby1]

Defiantly NC for this CF behaviour. Chocolate chip muffin, laugh it off
Chocolate muffin, bit miffed
Double chocolate muffin, absolutely raging
BUT triple chocolate muffin...outrageous!! I'd have divorced DH for having such a greedy DF!!

[DishingOutDone]

You can be as lighthearted as you like, its completely disrespectful to do that in someone else's house. Is he simply just a selfish and entitled person?

[AcrossthePond55]

You need to gather about 6 or so chocolate muffin papers. Yes, that means you get to eat all the chocolate muffins.

Then next time they come to visit, leave an empty muffin paper where FiL is sure to see it in the morning (bonus points if you leave crumbs to scatter. Do the same every day. He'll go crazy trying to find the muffins!!!

[StoppinBy]

Lol.

I had rough pregnancies and my DH bought me those Lucozade drinks, I was so exhausted and unwell, I told him that they were too sweet, I didn't like them.

About a week later I decided I really needed to try one, go to get it from the fridge and it was gone...... I sat on the chair in the kitchen and called out to DH 'did you take my Lucozade?' he calls back rather bashfully 'yes, I took it to work, you said you didn't like them', I actually sat there all teary and upset with him while eating honey from the jar instead haha, still haven't let him forget that one.

I think it's time to forgive FIL his transgressions but to keep hiding the goodies you don't want to share from him

[angelikacpickles]

I don't really understand why you didn't buy enough muffins for everyone? Seems a but odd to decide that your guests could do with croissants but you were going to buy and hide a special muffin to have later when they had left.

[itssquidstella]

OP you should have killed him.

I feel your pain: last summer DP's friend stayed the night at ours before they both went off on a climbing trip together. I'd gone out for dinner, but DP was under strict instructions to save me the Roquefort that was in the fridge for my virtuous lunchtime salad the next day (90% figs and cheese).

When I woke up, after DP and friend had departed, I discovered that the Roquefort was GONE! I opened the bin and there was the wrapper - no attempt by the cheese thief to try to hide evidence of their crime.

Obviously I went ballistic at poor DP, who was adamant that he had saved me my delicious cheese, as promised. He told me I mustn't have looked in the fridge properly; I presented him with incontrovertible proof in the form of the empty packet from the bin. Recriminations abounded.

Half an hour later I received a sheepish apology text from DP's friend, who had apparently woken up in the middle of the night and helped himself to the contents of our fridge.

DP's friend now stays at our house on sufferance and is only allowed to leave after a thorough fridge audit has been conducted.

[ContessaIsOnADietDammit]

Oh I'd have been fucking murderous op 4 years is barely any time at all for such a grudge!

FIL and step-MIL stopped over at ours for a night last year. They didn't bring any alcohol with them, or indeed anything at all for the household. No wait, I tell a lie; FIL did bring some booze. He brought a tin of beer, just one, for himself, out of his pocket around 3 hours into the visit and sat there quietly guzzling it. I was already a bit peeved at our house being used as a convenient hotel for the 2nd time that week, and more peeved at the lack of any wine offering to show thanks. That fucking beer can tipped me right over the edge!!! We now have a policy where we've unfortunately forgotten to get any wine in when they show up I plan to hold this grudge til the end of time....

[StoppinBy]

I must say that I disagree that it is disrespectful to do this in other people's houses when it is your parents/PIL visiting, if you visited your parents house wouldn't you feel comfortable eating from their cupboards or fridge?

They are family after all, so as annoying as it is I don't think it's out of line at all in this circumstance. I don't even get along that well with my PIL but wouldn't think twice if they ate something while visiting.

[LittlePaintBox]

You NEVER eat the last one of anything without asking - yes, he is a CF!

In practical terms - obviously you need to get a cake safe to hide your goodies in for future visits.

Normally I'd be saying 'time to forgive and forget', but if someone could steal a breastfeeding mother's triple choc muffin, what AREN'T they capable of?

[MyMuffinsStuck]

You are totally BU for making me want a goddamn triple chocolate muffin at 11pm...

YANBU for the grudge! When DH once finished my Maltesers I nearly finished him (and not in a way he would find enjoyable!)

[PalmTree101]

That is something my dad would do. He has food ishooooos.

[StoppinBy]

I have another funny 'man ate my food' story lol.

Last night I had a swim fitness class with my friend, it started at 7 so before I went I cooked Spaghetti Marinara.... all that was left to do was serve it once it had finished cooking, I get home round 8 after the class... go to get some tea and my husband had served up all the seafood except for three mussels and a broken/half prawn, apparently he 'hadn't realised' there was nothing but pasta left.... dirty bastard then had the gumption to find it funny..... after I cooked tea before I left I still missed out... I told him next week he is cooking on his own lol.

[StoppinBy]

Oooh, I must have a family of CF cos I have another story lol

DH bought 4 pack of ice creams, we had one each after the kids went to bed, next day there was only one left and I ate it (assumed DH had eaten an extra the nigh before when I wasn't looking). DH goes to freezer after kids go to bed and comes in the lounge looking grumpy and says 'why did you eat the two ice creams', he was adamant he hadn't had it the night before and I hadn't eaten it that day.

Turns out Miss6 got up early, ate part of it then heard me get up and threw the rest in the bin so not only did hubby miss out but most of it ended up in the bin as she didn't want to get caught eating the ice cream in the morning haha, little booger.

[MyKingdomForBrie]

I would have bought extra of something I was planning to have for breakfast if I knew I had guests coming. Basic hospitality!

One measly croissant is not breakfast.

YABU, sorry!

[cheesemongery]

I'm not getting this at all, I think I need a diagram of muffin to CFFIL distance, bread bin included, just to work out the chocolate waft-ery. I'll also need a graph, or maybe a pie chart of posh jam to chocolate muffin ratio as it could be construed as unreasonable if you did not meet his desired sugar levels. Which of course means I'll need to see his most recent blood sugar test from 4 years ago.

I just cannot decide U or not U.

Hmmm. God I want a bacon sarnie now!

[Fishwifecalling]

Well tbh you were unreasonable not to buy two or even four. I mean, even if fil hadn't eaten it, why on earth did you think only one would suffice? You need more chocolate deliciousness in your life. Madness, I tell you.

[whyamievenamazeddotcom]

Grand theft muffin .... stick some cut out eyes on the bag next time xxx am sure there’s a better muffin out there with your name on x my husband did it with my yoghurt covered raisins (the whole bag) I wasn’t pleased especially as his chocolate goodies were untouched and I can’t eat chocolate xx